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Five myths stopping you getting laid - part 5

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Guys get all sorts of funny ideas in to their heads about how to treat women, and these ideas often stop them getting the success they deserve. It’s usually a combination of bad films, and poor role-models, but what’s important is realising that these ideas are wrong! Here’s five myths you might believe that are stopping you from having the success you deserve.

Fifth Myth: You’ll never get any better with women

I know for a fact this isn’t true. I’ve seen many hopeless losers who no-one thought would ever change turn in to skilled seducers - often much more skilled than the guys who were born good with women. Most of them had a real desire to dramatically improve this part of their life.

You’ll often hear guys who suck with chicks perpetuating this myth. But sometimes guys who are great will try to make out that they have some unachievable God-given gift - these guys are just trying to make them feel better at your expense - don’t put up with that crap! You know you’re better than that.

I absolutely believe in you. I am totally convinced that you personally can success - I have met and taught so many guys from so many different walks of life who have created the success that they desired and deserved. No matter what your current level of success with women is, I know you strive to get to a higher level. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading this. I know you are capable of achieving your goals with women and I am going to help you get there. And if you haven’t already picked up a copy of my book, do so. It’s not written for losers looking to cope with their unfortunate situation. It’s written for winners: People who are ready to take the bull by the horns and start achieving and living the success they dream about. So if you haven’t already picked up my book, do so now.

Five myths stopping you getting laid - part 4

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Guys get all sorts of funny ideas in to their heads about how to treat women, and these ideas often stop them getting the success they deserve. It’s usually a combination of bad films, and poor role-models, but what’s important is realising that these ideas are wrong! Here’s five myths you might believe that are stopping you from having the success you deserve.

Fourth Myth: Women don’t enjoy sex, and you have to wait 3 days/weeks/months

This gets me angry. My experiences to date keep showing me that this is completely false. Women absolutely love sex and I’ve seen them be just as forward as men when it comes to closing the deal!

If you’re not sure, find some chick friends who aren’t interested in you, and don’t care how you judge them, and watch the ‘lady’-esque pretenses come away, as they talk frankly about their sex lives - you might be frightened! Women are just as sexual as guys, but they worry about being seen as sluts.

As a result, they’ll hold back from sleeping with guys who they like. It’s powerful to tease a girl about being sexually aggressive towards you - but if you start to show judgment of them for it, you can transform even the most forward of women frigid as hell!

The guys I know who are getting the most success then to be really good at helping women to feel comfortable about showing their sexual side, and promiscuity (although this probably isn’t something you want to encourage in your girlfriend or your wife!)

Five myths stopping you getting laid - part 3

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Guys get all sorts of funny ideas in to their heads about how to treat women, and these ideas often stop them getting the success they deserve. It’s usually a combination of bad films, and poor role-models, but what’s important is realising that these ideas are wrong! Here’s five myths you might believe that are stopping you from having the success you deserve.

Third Myth: You have to pretend to like things they like

This really couldn’t be further from the truth - it’s the result of badly written dating advice books for men by lonely, middle-aged house wives, and suggesting you develop a lapdog personality. Women are attract to real men, not boys who run around after them blindly.

Let’s take an example. Say you’re dating this chick who likes crap music - Pink, for example. You hate this stuff, and would prefer to listen to your own nails being pulled out than that shit. What do you do? Pretend Pink’s a talented performing artist, OR just tell her that you don’t like her.

A willingness to disagree with women can result in their finding you attractive - a guy who’s not afraid to say what he really thinks. Of course, there are a few exceptions - there are some activities that the culture around us deems as having a great social value - perhaps you prefer playing video games to doing these - but there are social consequences if you don’t. If you’ve read my ebook, you know EXACTLY which I mean!

I’m also not suggesting that you ignore and refuse to indulge in all of a woman’s tastes and interests that you don’t particularly share - that’s what weird control freaks do, and you don’t want to become a boring and unhappy person. If you don’t break out of your own interest zone from time to time, you’ll stunt your growth as a person - diverging out is obviously a great thing!

But here’s the thing - when you fake liking something to get someone to like you, you’re giving away your power. You’re saying their acceptance of you is more important to you than what you like - and that’s one of the most unattractive things you can do!

Five myths stopping you getting laid - part 2

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Guys get all sorts of funny ideas in to their heads about how to treat women, and these ideas often stop them getting the success they deserve. It’s usually a combination of bad films, and poor role-models, but what’s important is realising that these ideas are wrong! Here’s five myths you might believe that are stopping you from having the success you deserve.

Second Myth: A women who’s ‘better’ than you will never like you

There’s a small kernel of truth in this one, but probably not in the way you think. If you see an attractive lady, and decide that She Alone is The One True Woman, a princess among other women, and you must workship her, then you’re shafting yourself before you’ve even begun. If you’ve read my book, you’ll know there’s nothing wrong with seeing a girl as a princess - as long as you’re seeing yourself as a prince!

So what’s the lesson here? There’s no objective ‘better’ or ‘worse’, only perceived ‘better’ or ‘worse’. Women don’t tend to be attracted to men who are ‘worse’ than them, but most people decide who’s ‘better’ or ‘worse’ by what that person themselves thinks!

When talking to a woman, there’s an underlying ‘frame’ that determines your value in relation to hers. If you get intimidated, or you let her make you feel that you have a lower value than her, you’re setting a frame that she’s the prize, and not you!

If you find yourself freaking out about some part of a woman being ‘better’ than you, or you feel ugly compared to her, realise that there’s a bigger picture. When you first meet an attractive you create an idea in your head of who she is, based on a few small things … and this normally ends up being totally off the mark!

Here’s a trick from my book: control your perceptions of her. If you’re startled by how hot she is, picture how she looks when she’s just woken up, without her makeup on (preferably with you with her!). If she seems much more sophisticated than you, and you get tongue tied, realise that she’s quite possibly just trying to impress you … etc etc