Grow Your Game

While in the comfort phase, you don’t want to tease in order to punish a woman for bad behavior, simply because it’s a waste of time and it’s going backwards in the process. You will start to banter, which leads to a playfully fighting vibe. This is the complete opposite of what you want once you are in comfort. In comfort you want to make her say to herself, “where was this guy all my life?”

Inevitably, however, there will be times when a woman will do something that you don’t like, and it’s imperative that you make her understand that this is unacceptable. I have deconstructed the process you need to follow in order to modify such behavior for good.

Change your behavior. Fall silent or otherwise change your attitude to be more dismissive and display a willingness to walk away. The main point of this is to show that things will never be the same unless she changes what she just did. It’s unacceptable.

Wait for her to bring it up. She should realize that you are upset without you having to say anything about it. Remember that 90% of communication is non-verbal? This is the right time to apply that. Turn your body so that you’re not facing towards her, don’t look her in the eyes, be dismissive, and keep your answers short.

Explain what the problem is. Once she asks what’s going on, explain that her behavior is unacceptable. The key to this is to be reluctant to explain it, like you didn’t want to say anything but she had to force it out of you. Once you do start explaining, make sure you let her know that you have a rule against that and you will not tolerate such behavior.

Put a hoop. The key to solving the little drama you just created is by putting a hoop to a new behavior or frame of mind she must accept in order to continue being with you. If the fight is because she flaked out, then the hoop would be that she has to bring you a present in order to make it up to you. Don’t be afraid to make it a big hoop as this is her chance to prove that she likes you after she messed up and it proves that you are willing to walk away if she doesn’t live up to your high standards.

Reward. Once she jumps your hoop, reward her and let her know how awesome she is/the two of you are together. Make her feel like you were meant to be together and that she is great. You can even surprise her (with whatever you may want to do for her), or give her a compliment about her personality after she jumps your hoop.

The four qualities that lead to mating success in the animal kingdom (including humans) are:

Dominant
Attractive
Elite
Access to resources

Now would be a good time for you to figure out what’s been stopping you from showing these qualities in the past. You can easily convey them with your clothing, if only you could stop the blockage inside you that says “I’m scared to wear that.”

I’ve done quite a few makeovers in my live training, and it seems like most men have the same issues holding them back. It’s not a lack of information; the information is out there and it’s yours for the taking. Most guys just filter it out, thinking “Nah, that stuff’s not for me.” They limit themselves before even trying anything new. Let’s take a look at some of the sources of that limited way of thinking.

When I look back on what I was wearing a few years ago, I can see that I was sabotaging all of my interactions with women. I wanted to date and sleep with lots of attractive women, but the way I was dressing was turning them off immediately and I just didn’t realize it. There was an easy way to fix this – the answer was right in front of my face – but I just couldn’t see it.

I consider myself a pretty intelligent person. I’ve spent the last thirteen years studying psychology and philosophy, so how was it that I could be so blind to something that now seems so obvious?

What I discovered was that like most men, I had layers and layers of self-delusion which prevented me from seeing what was really going on. After I finally figured it out and developed a great look, I started giving makeovers to other guys who were working on succeeding with women. I discovered that almost everyone has their own version of these same delusions.

This is “negative social programming.” It’s almost impossible to avoid picking up some of this from the world around you. It’s imperative that you identify your negative social programming if you ever want to move past it.

Playing It Safe in the Schoolyard

The first obstacle that a man faces is the “play it safe” mentality that we all develop when growing up.

It’s normal for children to make fun of each other and to compete for social dominance in school. That’s how they establish a social hierarchy and learn lessons that will be valuable later in life. At times this competition can be very intense, and all of us have been on the losing end of it at one time or another.

The easiest way for a child to gain a social advantage over others is to make fun of something obvious, something different.

If you make fun of someone different, you can gain the respect and allegiance of the entire school, not just the kid you made fun of. There are massive social benefits if you can successfully taunt other children. As a result, the kids who are different always get teased the most. It could be that the target is of a different ethnicity, from a different social class, has a different way of talking, or that he just looks different.

All it takes to look different is a slightly unusual haircut, a slightly different way of dressing, etc. It doesn’t take much. Think back to your grade school days. Was there a boy with long hair or a girl with short hair that got teased? Was there someone from another country or a kid who was a bit poorer than average?

In the adult world, these differences are accepted and even embraced. In the world of children, these differences are grounds for harassment. This harassment is the fuel that feeds social competition and establishes the social structure that will be enforced day in and day out for the entire school year.

Chances are that at some point in your life you were that kid who was different. The harassment we endure as children causes us to build up a tendency to play it safe, to blend in, to do anything we can to avoid looking different.

Even kids who are normal in every way observe the persecution of those who are different, and this causes them to build up this same “play it safe” tendency.

There’s nothing wrong with this when you’re a child or adolescent. It’s a useful adaptation that allows you to go through life without being damaged and distracted by harassment. The problem is that many people carry this “play it safe” mentality into their adult life and it no longer serves a purpose. The rules have changed, and being different can be an advantage.

This “play it safe” mentality can cause limited belief in yourself and make you seem timid and immature.

The end result is that you have few choices in how you dress. You are unable to employ the best strategies, you are unable to utilize your creativity to the fullest, and you communicate a child-like fearfulness to the people around you.

My reality now is that I’m an average-looking guy who is always going out with three or more girls to clubs in order to go pick up more girls. I have more girlfriends, girl friends, sex partners, dates, and fun than I know what to do with. To be successful with women and socially in general the right attitude is key. Over time I have developed a philosophy that applies directly to the field.

Be social.

This is NOT the ‘evil art of seduction’, you are not going out in the field to ‘get some’ – you are going out in the field to have fun and be yourself and hang out. So don’t go out thinking ‘when am I going to score?’ Women detect that attitude from a mile away and it’s an instant turn off.

Evolve yourself.

If you are reading this, then right now then probably ‘being yourself’ doesn’t create the relationships you want. Social mastery is the hardest endeavor you will ever undertake because there is nothing more discerning than a woman’s intuition. Any problem that you think you have, be it real or imagined, she will detect. To be successful you will have to launch an epic self-improvement program on yourself. Once you have become that new you, and you have evolved socially via practice, you will go right back to being yourself – but a totally awesome, new you. If you are not willing to change and evolve, you will continue to experience a lifetime of mediocre results. So for whatever is bothering you, commit to fixing it yourself and never hesitate to get professional help. Not only will you become more successful socially but you will also become more successful in your entire life. No amount of ‘Game’ can really compensate for a flawed personality.

Give and Love.

When you are hanging out in a social environment, what value do you offer to the people in that environment? Do you expect anything in return? The answer for most men today is Not Much, and Yes, respectively. No wonder women aren’t begging for your phone number. To be successful socially you have to be constantly putting more energy out there than you receive when you begin an interaction. To do this properly you have to actually not care about the outcome of anything you do. You have to put yourself out there and actually expect nothing in return. This has an extremely powerful effect on women. I will frequently just hang out with women that I don’t particularly find attractive because I’m making their night and adding to the karma. Karma comes back. Love every woman for who she is.

Touch.

Everybody wants to be touched in un-creepy ways. The societal code has made physical communication between men and women difficult with a ton of alleged rules and wacky misconceptions. Yet both men and women want to be touched. Learning to communicate via touch will, when you master it, completely flip your own reality. If you are not getting a lot of touching going within the first few minutes of any interaction with a woman, you are living life at half-speed.

Don’t react.

This is one of the most key elements of any social interaction. If you are the truly content, giving, alpha-male, then how does a woman’s reaction to you affect your reality? It just doesn’t. She will test you for it – she will deliberately feel how alpha you really are. And you will be completely and totally unaffected. Being unaffected creates a sense of deep inner peace that extends to other areas of your life.

Create a vibe and lead people into it.

Remember, you are just hanging out. You are not trying to ‘get something’ – therefore you can’t chase it, ask for it, or like many men today, beg for or buy it. Breaking those rules will result in instant blowout. To get results you have to create a compelling vibe – one that has HER chasing YOU. It’s your job to make women feel comfortable and attracted to you. They will not do this by themselves. You have to suck others into your reality. For things to work, women have to be chasing you – asking for your phone number and giving you that ‘make out with me, please’ look. Proper ‘pick-up’ is simply creating a comfortable, romantically-charged environment where the two of you can explore each others personalities.

Don’t try, just be.

You are not ‘trying’ to do any of this – once you have mastered your unique personality performance you become it. It is you. You are not ‘trying’ anything, there is no game – you simply are. But you are that amazing, totally together, fun, happy, social, powerful alpha male that every woman is internally programmed by her evolutionary circuits to align with. ‘Game’ is just training wheels for your own personality evolution. Game is not the answer, you are.

Why does any of this work?

Women respond very powerfully to a giving alpha male.

Imagine walking into a room and seeing nothing but unattractive women. That’s what women see when they get constantly approached by supplicating, interviewing (’Hey, what’s your name?, ‘What do you do?), and braggy (’Yea, baby, that’s my Bentley) chodes. Now imagine further if all these unattractive women came onto you one after the other, night after night, trying to ask your name and buy you drinks and were constantly asking for your phone number. This is the horror movie that most attractive women today experience. The evolved alpha male is here to change the script.

True alphas are scarce.

True alphas are perhaps those five guys in the club with girls around them all the time. Alphas give without expecting anything in return, alphas are just plain ‘cool’, alphas don’t buy women drinks or beg for their phone number, alphas create comfortable vibes, alphas create a warm happy playpen for the women to wander around in. Alphas don’t supplicate, but they treat women as equals and get the same in return. Women will compete for those men, women will work for those men. They are emotionally wired to do so. They will leave their boyfriends to hang out with them. Girls make-out with me while holding their boyfriends hand. They will dump him or hide him or do whatever it takes to align with the alpha male if their current alignment is sub-par. Aren’t they horrible evil sluts for doing so? The answer is NO. They don’t have a choice, women are programmed to align with men just like men are programmed to sleep with women. Women love the true alpha and want to be ‘Picked Up’. If you pull this off right, then literally every woman you approach will love your presence and your energy. They feel honored to be hanging out with you. The direction of your interaction is up to you and her. It will take some time for you to cease being surprised when you find women want far different things than what you formerly thought they wanted. Remember, that most women are with beta men because that is all they can get. If you are an alpha who won’t deceive her about your intentions then you are doing her a huge favor by introducing yourself. All of the women I date know that I see other women and they don’t mind because they would still rather be with me than pretending to be happy with some beta boyfriend. (I’m very open to being a monogamous boyfriend, but I would have to be literally swept off my feet for that to happen.)

But I’m ugly.

Looks don’t really matter.

Odds are, you are far hotter than me anyway. I’m a skinny, pale, balding, thirty-something guy. I look like a six-foot-tall fetus. But my personality turns me into a runway model! Men make the mistake that our reality must be the same as a woman’s. This is just wrong. We are attracted to swimsuit models so we think that women must be attracted to looks just as much as we are. But the biggest attractor for most women is personality. Be a personality model and you will find fashion models calling you during lunch and asking what you are wearing. It is hard to focus on work afterwards. In the old days when I was a card carrying chode, I used to get jealous of super hot girls because they seemed to have unfair power. Now, I reflect on the fact that I get to be a personality model my entire life.
But what if they find out that I ‘game?’

Don’t game, just be.

The skill set that is ‘game’ is actually a tool to evolve YOU into a social creature. Acquiring the skill set is only half of the challenge. You have to merge what you learn into YOU and create your own unique, personality-conveying performance. Mastery is being able to consistently create a performance art that is unique to the woman and you. Every time I have an interaction with a woman it is different and unique. It’s like I’m painting a new painting every time. A lot of guys, when learning the skill-set, get lost in the tactics of things, questions like ‘what do I do when she does X, what do I do at time B?’ This is like asking a master painter, ‘Do I paint blue first or yellow?’ (credit Lovedrop). Only the merging of the skill set with your unique personality will tell you that. Just PAINT, man! If you paint enough you will become your own master painter and women will appreciate you for it.

But what if girls find out my ’secret knowledge’?

There is no secret knowledge.

As students of social interaction all we’re doing is modeling natural phenomenon, there is nothing secret about it. All women already possess the knowledge, that’s how they can tell an alpha from a beta. This is why commonly there is a notion that ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.’ Men think too logically when they should be learning to appreciate women for who they really are – little purple aliens Learn to speak Venusian.

Innovate.

There are a lot of men out there currently using tried and true ‘material’ on women. They do well with this. Those guys are not going to like the fact that a lot of this is being exposed by the media. Those guys are not the ones that are coming up with their own unique personality conveying performance. Talking with those guys, it is obvious that they are not being themselves. Only use what we teach you to innovate an outward expression of your inner self. Most of you are actually awesome men. You just don’t have the social education to express yourself socially.

Are you ready to learn?

Sure, but what will I get out of all this?

Select.

The skill-set is what you make it. With it you can select the right woman and decide who you want to be in your interaction with her. Having the power to consistently get any woman out there is a life-changing experience. You could become to any woman you choose a playboy, a romancer, a friend, a boyfriend, a socialite or a husband. I love the emotional interaction and the choices I get. If you have the basics of the art down, and you are always hanging out with women that you find attractive, then you can differentiate on things that really matter like her outlook, energy, and personality. Most men today say they discern based on who she is but, in fact, they are just rationalizing their relationship with her based on their desire to sleep with an attractive woman. Additionally, many men will rationalize to extremes because they perceive they have no choice in the long run so they end up in sub-optimal relationships and marriages. What will your romantic life be like? Ironically, the answer to men not being shallow is to teach them how to get all the relationships they want. I’ve noticed that when men stop being desperate, they actually discriminate more based on a woman’s non-physical qualities.

It’s easy for new dudes to get caught up in cocky/funny and negs/teasing and all that. It’s hard to know what to counter-balance it with. So, if you’re new you should try this. And for advanced guys, this vibe might be something you’re already doing; you just need to understand why it works so you can calibrate it properly.

I call this vibe “Everyone loves EVERYONE!” and women get really into it.

What is it?

It’s basically a mixture of friendliness, building commonalities, and over-exaggerating connections with people.

Step 1 – Agree with something she says. Get excited about how much you agree.

“You love Canada? Oh my god I fucking love Canada so much!!!” (Go into a long story about Canada.)

Anticipate whether she will love or hate something, based on her character, and then agree with it instantly.

“Atlantic City? I hate it. You hate it too? Yeah, it sucks!! So scummy! Dirty! Yucky! Never going back again…” (Lead into a long story about AC.)

Step 2 – Play up commonalities, even if it’s a reach.

“Wait, you’re from Nebraska? My Mom used to tell me bedtime stories about Nebraska. She said the sky in Nebraska was made of gumdrops and magical bits of candy corn. I’ve always wanted to go there.”

If it flops, you play it off as ironic. “Ha-ha, just kidding. My mom’s never even heard of Nebraska.”

Play up real commonalities too. “You have a dog? What is its name? I used to have this dog Chico, he’d jump through a hoola hoop and do all these cool tricks. You’re a dog person? Me too!”

Play up commonalities that everyone has (these are the easiest).

“You like movies? Me too! What kind? Oh yeah I love those! I saw it on TBS.”

Step 3 – Talk about all the people you know and how you love them all.

“I’ve only been coming here for 2 weeks, but I feel like I know everyone here and they are like my old friends. You ever get that feeling?”

“Everyone is so nice in Los Angeles. I’ve only been here 2 months, and people are asking me to party every night. Man, it’s the most party-happy town I’ve ever been to in my life.”

Step 4 – Tell stories.

Start stories with the following phrases:

* “When I was little…”
* “My mom used to tell me…”
* “When I was in high school…”

She says she has a boyfriend, you say “Oh sweet, tell me all about it baby” while physically escalating.

She says “I’m not having sex with you” you say “That’s a great idea, ’cause then I can finally have a female friend. I’ve always wanted a purely plutonic friend” while physically escalating and sending mixed signals.

Yeah I know a lot of this stuff sounds like ass-kissing, but it’s a good mix with some of the harder game tactics. And you can use it on the peer group if you get good at it.

Why is this appealing?

Women are always looking for more and more friends, more and more orbiters, more and more social resources. It seems their hunger for this never subsides. It’s never enough. That’s why they keep building to 123865 friends on MySpace. Their instinct tells them that if you can build your social resources, you will always have a backup plan if something goes wrong. You will always be able to regain social value, or get a new guy, or provide for children, or get help taking care of children, or get protection from danger… the list goes on and on.

Some important motivators of female behavior are:

Fear of abandonment – this affects women’s decision making processes all the time. Even little things in daily life are affected by this.

Preservation of relationships – women try to preserve relationships all the time, even when it seems pointless to men. That’s why a woman says “we can stay friends” after a breakup and “let’s just be friends” when she’s discussing some guy who only wants to sleep with her. They just can’t let it go. They want to preserve every relationship. They want to always have the potential for some social advantage… a backup plan… someone to help her… someone to say good things about her and build her overall popularity.

So when you mix all that together, a lot of women go ga-ga for this kind of a vibe. It makes them feel like everyone loves everyone when you’re around. If you watch closely how women interact with their female friends, they’re always trying to create this utopia of everyone loving everyone. The utopia actually occurs for brief moments on Oprah and The View from time to time.

Throw the occasional hard-game tactic in. Play some hard to get. Ignore her for a while. Then come back to this. Throw sexual game in too. And always keep the physical escalation going.

Recently I have been working so much instead of sarging a ton that I got out of state when I went into the field. I noticed that if I spend two weeks out of the field then when I get back in I feel like everything is alien until I get a few sets in and everything reboots.

But a weird thing happened recently – I noticed that I would go in field and feel like total garbage and still do well.

I started to think about why this was and the ’secret’ became apparent to me. Here it is.

To get to state independence you have to have 3 things.

1. Personality
2. Self Esteem
3. Independence Realization

Personality

When we first get into the game we have a personality but we have no idea how to express it to women. We have even less of an idea on how to be that a totally giving, loving, fun, passionate, happy social guy that draws women into his own reality. We attain this through practice. We first start off with routines because we don’t know what to say and through that we learn the underlying structures, sub-communication, and the myriad of other things in game until we start to get a good sense of what types of content and communication really work in relating to women. Once we understand these levels of communication then we often start to experiment with our own material and gain our own attractive personality. What is essential is that we BECOME that awesome, interesting, fascinating guy that women are drawn too. You recognize the moment when without any conscious thought you find yourself in the present and fully representational of who you are and want to be. Everything you do, everything that you are becomes as effective as your “routines” (this btw is how I come up with new “material” it is all improvised in the field). It took me an intense year in the game to get there.

Self Esteem

Self Esteem is not EGO. Ego (and I’m using Eckhart Tolle’s definition of ego from his amazing book “The Power of Now”) is just a mental construct that who you are is what you do, what you own, or any number of other things that come from outside our selves. Self Esteem is a deep seeded belief in yourself that comes from the inside.. The belief that no matter what outside factors or even your own emotions try to affect you – they don’t alter who you are. If you have been practicing game then you have developed a personality that is attractive to women and the ability to communicate it. Self esteem is having an un-touchable belief in that inner “youness” – an untouchable belief that no matter what, you are still that giving, loving, fun, passionate, happy, social guy. You are still YOU even on a night when you don’t exhibit any of those behaviors – you still are personable even when you don’t act like it. Was Miles Davis still Miles Davis when he wasn’t playing his instrument?

Independence Realization

This came to me in field when I realized that despite how I felt on a given night; my self esteem was so strong that I could still be me even though I felt weird or out of state. My display of my character, of my personality, was so intriguing that I still attracted the opposite sex.’ This was awesome to finally realize I was starting to master my emotions. The masters (btw I never think of myself as a master, always as a student) of any art are still artists regardless of their internal state. Do you think Miles Davis could still play if he had a headache? Maybe in an off state he isn’t going to give a 200% performance but he will still be excellent. If I ask most guys ‘If you feel bad are you still you?’ they will say YES. What most guys haven’t realized is that this totally applies in field.

So all you need to do to gain state independence in field is still BE YOU regardless of how you feel. Ignore whatever garbage you have in your head or emotions and just be your personable high self esteem self. To get there you will have to spend a lot of time developing your personality – there is no magic pill that lets you get there overnight but when your personality and self-esteem are ready you will become state independent.

This works because game is when you do and say all the right things at the right time. You are giving a performance. A performance of who you are. If you are always yourself, regardless of state, you will get very similar results regardless of state.

Let’s get a little more concrete here and talk about sexy stereotyping as it relates to your style of dress. Of course there are MANY ways to convey sexiness and tap into positive stereotyping, but how you dress is the easiest one! Why? Because you can take your time and plan it out. Then once you get it figured out you don’t have to work on it again until it’s time to update your style.

Body language and voice tone are much harder to improve; you have to think about them all the time for MONTHS until they become habit.

Let me give you a step by step approach to turning on the power of sexy stereotyping.

1. Stop worrying about what your AFC friends think. Pay less attention to them and more attention to how women perceive you.

2. Take an active interest in style and fashion. As kids, we were all taught that if you’re into fashion, that means you’re a fag. Then our moms would order our clothes from the JC Penny’s catalog and sure enough, a dork is born. Now that you’re a grown man, you can be secure enough to take an interest in fashion and not feel like it makes you less masculine. One of the best places to do research on the topic is myspace.com. There are thousands of people on there who have cutting edge fashion knowledge, and they congregate in the “groups—>fashion” area of the myspace website. These are people who sit home all day getting all dressed up just to take pictures for myspace!

3. Start to identify sexy stereotypes when you see them. If girls are flocking to a guy or group of guys, have a look at how they’re presenting their identity. Pay attention to how they’re expressing their identity through their clothing.

I’m always looking for this, and I think I’ve recently discovered a new sexy stereotype. I saw these guys in a club a few weeks back with bad blazers and short hair in a pony tail. These guys were lanky and had big weird noses, but they were walking around like they owned the place. Girls were digging them. I realized what it was- the European vibe. I dubbed this look “Euro-douche” and filed it away for future use. Watch out for the Euro-douche look!

4. Choose a sexy stereotype that feels natural to you.

5. Find a person who has mastered the style and has a similar body type to yours.

6. Model your style after that person’s look. You must model yourself after the best in order to get similar results. I know your social conditioning is telling you’re that you’re a unique snowflake and you should never copy anything. I’m telling you from experience that modeling is the fastest shortcut to sexy stereotyping. There’s no need to reinvent the wheel. Don’t make things harder than they need to be. Do it the easy way. Modeling a person who already has it figured out will give you a huge head start. You can customize the look later when you have your developed your fashion sense a bit more.

7. Test it out. Don’t spend $1000 on 7 new outfits all at once. Try on a new stereotype and see what reactions you get. I’m talking about reactions from attractive women, not reactions from your Trekkie looking friends. If you’re getting good reactions from hot chicks, you know you’re onto something. If not, try something else.

8. Expand and refine. Enjoy the success. Watch how much easier it is to attract women when they categorize you as a sexy guy. You’ll find you have less trouble with CBs, fewer blowouts, less LMR, and less flaking.

I work with guys on their style all the time and here are a few guidelines-

Don’t worry about blending in

If you seem like a normal average guy, you’ll often get the normal average result. Most attractive women reject normal guys all the time. This is their default response. Rejecting normal guys becomes a habit.

Normal guys who approach these women are usually needy AFCs. After years of being approached by normal looking guys who are needy, there is a correlation formed in the woman’s subconscious: Normal=Needy. I know it’s not fair, but we must deal with the world the way it really is, not the way we wish it would be. If you’re always worried about “blending in” and “looking normal,” all of the negative stereotypes from needy AFCs will get transferred on to you! YIKES!

REMEMBER: There is massive social pressure on all of us to “blend in.” If you bend to social pressure all the time, you can’t expect to achieve greatness in this area or in life in general.

Are there girls out there who like “normal looking” guys? Yes, of course. But, these girls usually like sexy guys too. They tend to put normal looking guys in the “husband/provider” category, and sexy looking guys into the “seducer” category. Which category would you rather be in?

Don’t be too confusing

Some guys try to mix looks that just don’t go well together. I see it all the time. They’re trying to express the complex individualism that defines their existence.

But- it’s not that deep.

And- girls just don’t care.

You have to make a strong statement so they GET IT right away. Girls stereotype you in the FIRST 2 SECONDS! They’re not going to take the time to process how your glowing necklace reflects off your khakis. Don’t confuse their sense of stereotyping. If they don’t understand what you’re going for right away, you’re going to be right back to digging yourself out of a hole. And who wants that?

How far should you take it?

This is an interesting question. Should you just add a few elements of a sexy stereotype, or should you go all out? The short answer to this is that it’s all relative to your location. If you live in NYC or LA, and you want to do the “Male Model” look, you’d better go all out or it’s not going to work. If you’re in rural Montana, a little goes a long way. As long as you dress like a model more than any other guy she’s seen this month, you probably will get a pretty warm response to your approach.

I’ve traveled all over the world meeting women, and I go all out with sexy stereotyping. “Going all out” will work everywhere, but it is not completely necessary in suburban and rural areas.

I’d advise you to overshoot your goal rather than undershoot it. Think big. If you’re going to do this, go all out! In the beginning you may feel weird. Feeling weird is a sign that you are FORCING your personality to grow. Get yourself a BIG BOLD style and let your reality grow into it. If you feel like you may have gone too far, but you’re getting good reactions from women, that means you’re doing something right. Give your personality some time to grow into your new look. Don’t panic and revert back to a being a scared, pussy-ass dude who looks just like everyone else.

You’d be amazed at the results you can get when girls perceive you as sexy instead of average. It changes the tone of the entire interaction. It changes the balance of power. It makes THEM chase YOU.

My students are sometimes amazed when I get make outs in 30 seconds, or end up dragging some girl off to the bathroom in 10 minutes. They ask how I do it and sexy stereotyping is a big part of why I succeed in 10 minutes while other guys take 10 hours or even 10 days to get in a chick’s pants.

Some have asked me why I’d just give away my secrets like this. What if every guy taps into the power of sexy stereotyping, then I wouldn’t be so successful anymore. The fact of the matter is that VERY FEW of the people reading this right now will have the balls to develop into a sexy guy. Are you one of the few guys who can make it happen, or will you file this away as just another piece of entertainment from the Internet?

Can you leave your comfort zone? Do you have the courage to stand up to social pressure? That is my challenge to you.

If you can take my ideas and turn them into real world results, then you deserve every bit of success you get! There’s plenty of pussy to go around, and I applaud everyone out there whose making it happen.