This is girl I came across on facebook, when I was adding another chick that I had met while doing day game. I saw this girl’s picture and was blown away, so sent a quick message. Some facebook messaging, texts and phone calls later and this girl has agreed to meet me to have sex.

The transcript and commentary below details how I got from me saying, “Jesus Christ you are gorgeous,” to her saying “I’m sure me pleasing myself wouldn’t feel anything like you deep inside of me. My body twisting, moaning and begging for you to force yourself deeper and not to stop.”

Note that this sort of strategy isn’t going to work with every girl and for every guy. In this case, I have a good picture up on my profile (which is VERY important for online game), and some pretty cool pictures which the girl can browse too.

Here’s how it went down.

Soul: Jesus Christ you are gorgeous. X

This is my opening line. It’s simple, direct, and used as a screener. If she responds, then she’s complying with my attempt to pick her up. If she doesn’t respond, then I can move on to someone else without wasting my time.

Jenny: LOL! THANK YOU!

Soul: You are such a tease. There are only pictures of your daughter and a cat on your facebook! Can’t believe you don’t have any more of your gorgeous self.

You daughter is so cute by the way. You look like you’re half Asian?

I’m Sri Lankan. talk to me

Jenny: Everyone in the whole world says I look Asian! I’m actualy half Caribbean half English! And my daughter is half Turkish Cypriot! My cat’s the same mix as me!

I probably shouldn’t have mentioned the Asian thing. I think it’s always best NOT to mention things that most other guys would mention or point out. I ride it out anyway.

Soul: Are you hooked up with someone? If not, you must at least have ten guys beating down your door.

I don’t normally like waiting in queues, but give me a magazine to read and I would quite happily take ticket 11!

You are so ridiculously hot it’s not even funny.

You are either a supermodel or a cat-loving spinster I reckon. Am I close?

I continue being direct so she knows I’m not a pussy and that I am going to try to get into her pants. I inject a bit of humour to lighten things up so she sees me as a fun person to talk with and doesn’t feel any pressure.

I get no response to this last message before I head out for Friday night, so I go and have a great weekend. On Monday I remember that she never got back to me, so I chase her a little.

Soul: Jenny, you are too hot to be acting so aloof.

How was your day?

Jenny: It was good good. How about you? How funny!

She’s complied by responding. I’ve already shown her my confident and funny sides, so now I tell her a bit more about myself to build comfort – this way she’s knows I’m not just a dick on legs and can actually rationalise her attraction to me, which she’ll need to do if she is going to meet up with me.

Soul: It was interesting. My whole life is in flux at the moment as I’m trying to figure out where to take my career - do I take the plunge, quit my job and become the serial entrepeneur that I know I am capable of being, or do I work my 9-5 for a few more months.

What do you do with yourself darling, besides looking absolutely gorgeous at all times (if I was you I would look in the mirror and wink seductively at myself all day)? x

Jenny: You seize the opportunities that arise with both hands. I just broke up with my daughter’s dad so I’m trying to sort my life out!

Here’s a good opportunity to be empathetic, and also to qualify her on being a good mother, something which is bound to resonate deeply with her.

Soul: How long ago? I’m so sorry darling, that must be really rough. How long were you guys together?

Your daughter really is cute by the way, and I’ve a suspicion you’re a great mother.

Well I don’t know how much better I can make you feel over facebook, so let’s change the topic. What do you in your spare time, you know for fun?

PS: if the answer is “I have a young daughter, I don’t have fun anymore!!” then tell me about what you used to do for fun!

Jenny: Five years together. I’m a party animal! Just turned! You?

Here I give a very broad answer that shows a range of value across different areas. I don’t go into too much detail, as I want to see what she picks up on so I can figure out how to best build a connection with her.

Soul: Five years, damn. I’m sure you’re gonna be fine sweetie - everything will work itself out.

I party, I play, I work, I dance, I talk, I charm.

What sort of places do you party at?

Jenny: Anywhere with music and alcohol, baby! What do you do?

At this point it’s clear that she’s invested in the interaction as she’s responding to my messages and asking questions back. There’s no point staying in the same medium (facebook); this is a classic point where I need to escalate things to a higher degree of interaction.

Soul: Why are we sending a million messages back and forth?? I think we should take this interaction to the next level - text.

What’s your number darling? I’m going to text you when I’m out partying tonight

Jenny: Text is good! 07XXX XXX XXX

Rather than text her later as suggested and as she expected, I immediately call her – my phone game is solid and I know I can charm her and keep her thinking about me for a while with a quick 5 minute phone call. I call her, make her laugh, talk a bit, and then get ready to go out.

A few days pass. In this time. I try to arrange a meeting with her, and we loosely fix an outing with her mates for Friday night. On Friday she cancels due to her friends flaking. I had a backup anyway, as I never felt it was fixed securely. On Saturday night, I’m exhausted and come home early. I remember Jenny and send her a text to see if she’s up…

Soul: What are you up to right now darling? X

She responds and we start chat on the phone for about twenty minutes. Speaking to a girl late in the night is always good – their emotions are much more pliable when they’re alone in bed and you can normally raise the sexuality level very easily. I make her laugh and smile, lower the tone and pace of my voice and put a hint of directness in everything I say. I don’t get too explicit yet as I’m still calibrating as to how fast to escalate with her.

After our chat, I send her a text so that she has something tangible to anchor all the good feelings I just stimulated in her to…

Soul: Big goodnight kiss for you darling. I like you sleep tight x

Jenny: Thank you! I like you too honey. I’ll give you lots of goodnight kisses xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx (I gave you 17 kisses because that’s my lucky number)

Soul: Stop it, you’re making me smile! Haha, you know I haven’t had a Saturday night in in ages, but it feels so good. I’m gonna give you more kisses back and stroke your cheeks. X

Here I’m trying to escalate things further. If she’s responsive then I will keep on escalating until we get to the sexual tipping point or she stops complying.

Jenny: Well I haven’t had a Saturday night in since last Saturday! I’m glad I make you smile. That’s my aim in life, to be a clown! I’m going to give you more kisses, stroke your cheeks and run my hand down your stomach…

Soul: Darling, you are making me want to run my hand through your hair and kiss you passionately. And then turn you round and kiss the back of your neck- you are too sweet.

Jenny: MIAOW! Taking the bull by the horns are we?! I think you’re hot! I love your face. I saw your muscles- so sexy. Your arms are so huge. I like your skin colour too. Has your ego been massaged enough? Oh and I LOVE your voice. It’s super sexy.

It would be too obvious at this point to give a super sexual escalation response, so I pull it back and bring the comfort levels up again – my overall concern here is NOT to just be a guy she thinks about when she’s horny, but also a guy she can imagine spending time with when she’s not.

Soul: You know what I love about you? How open and honest you are, I’m just the same. Really want to cuddle up with you, chat and fall alseep right now. So tired! x

Jenny: I think my honesty and my openness are my biggest flaws. I’m tired too. Would love a snuggle on those arms. I’d probably want a bit more too though

Soul: Honey, if I wasn’t so tired and needed sleep, I would get in a taxi right now amd give you exactly what you needed. Til then, I’ll just imagine it x

Jenny: Well you’re free to imagine what you want. I give you permission to explore my whole body I’m going to bed now though cos I need sleep too. Will text tomorrow if you want. X

The night passes.

Soul: Darling it’s morning and I’m still thinking about you. Wish you were here so I could slide in between your legs and fuck you all morning long… xxx

Jenny: What a text to wake up to! Have I created a monster? You’re a tiger.

Soul: Hehe, good morning kisses for you. hope you had a good sleep?I feel so much more rested now. Gonna have a good breakfast too x

Jenny: I’m so relaxed I’m finding it hard to move. Glad you feel refreshed. What are you having for breakfast other than fantasies of what we could be doing together?!

There’s a two hour break in our texting when one of my girls comes over for breakfast and sex. After she leaves, Jenny and I continue texting all day. I run some standard comfort stuff – again, all in the interests of preventing flaking – and also spike sexuality levels by being direct and describing sexual things we are going to do together, e.g. eat ice cream off each other.

I try to arrange a meet up, but between her trying to find a babysitter and me travelling to Las Vegas for the next week it has to wait until I get back. I’m aware that I need to keep myself in the forefront of her mind as I leave, so that even if she hooks up with someone else in the interim, she still wants me when I get back.

The next day at work I am horny as fuck thinking about her and send her a text…

Soul: Baby, I wanna bounce you up and down on my dick and then bend you over my desk at work – so I can fuck you senseless while we both enjoy the view over London. X

Jenny: How can you be having these thoughts when you should be working. That body, firm and toned between my legs, I’m going to explode before we meet! I’ll make sure I have ice cream but you have to bring protection because I’m a lady and would never buy those things!

This is so on.

Soul: Sounds like a plan darling. So confirmed a) I’m seein you Friday XXth, b) You’re sending me pictures so I can shoot my load over thoughts of you in the meantime. Xxx Mwah

Jenny: Absolutely x

I message her while I’m in Vegas, get on the phone to her as soon as I’m back, push forward the meeting, and seal the deal a day earlier than planned.

MSN messenger pick-up game seems to be a common topic these days. With the increased popularity of social networking and online dating over clubs and social circles as venues to meet women, MSN and other chat skills are becoming more important for the single male.

Where most men fail is that they go into MSN without an objective. Make no mistake, there is one and only one objective to chatting- get her on a date. Not on the phone. Not for a second round of MSN. Not back to email. A date! If you can create a connection with her where she’s comfortable with you, there is no real reason why you can’t.

Now let’s look at the plan that will get you there. There are certain steps along the way, you aren’t going to get her out just by being funny! Done correctly, the following will create a solid connection with her:

Be playful – tease, flirt, and get her attention fast!
Be interested – don’t fake it, actually care about her and her life.
Ask questions – she needs to see that you are interested in her, and how else are you going to decide if she’s really worthy of your time on a date?
Relate your experiences to her answers – don’t just answer “me too!” but actually relate stuff from your life to hers in order to create commonalities.
Tease her – teasing gets an emotional response, which you need to build attraction. It also displays confidence. Be funny, not mean.
Ask her new questions about her old answers – delve deeper into her world, find out who she really is.
Be playful – tease, flirt, keep her attention (it is both first and last on this list on purpose).

Repeat this process until you’ve generated enough connection with her that she is interested enough in you to start asking you questions back.

Wrapping It Up

The time to end the conversation is when the energy starts to wind down just a little. She might be getting distracted by phone calls or something good on TV, or just might be getting tired of typing. This is the time for you to end the conversation. By ending it first, you keep the upper hand in the weird little power struggle of social dynamics by maintaining the image of having other more important stuff to do.

If things have gone well, this is the perfect time to ask her to meet in real life. You can and should have a reason, and even use it to ask her out.
“Look, it was fun chatting, but I’ve got to walk the dog, he’s staring at me. He’d love to meet you, why don’t you join us?”

You can also do it without giving her a reason, and create some mystery.
“Holy crap look at the time, you’ve totally made me late (not saying it wasn’t worth it), but I have to get out of here. Ciao!”

If things haven’t gone well, or she hasn’t displayed much interest in you (by asking you questions about yourself), then wrap up the conversation while it still has some energy and take another shot later. Worst case, tell her you will see her back in email, as you aren’t sure if you will be online again for a while. Desirable men don’t sit around on MSN all day waiting for women!

The Downside Of MSN

There are a few big drawbacks to MSN. For starters, it isn’t time efficient and can actually kill your interaction with her. If you are in a position where you are chatting with her on the phone, skip it and stay with the phone. If you are emailing her, try to move right to the phone, or even better, a date.

The problem is that people are lazy, and once they have hooked up with your MSN, it is a much easier solution to just wait for you to be online, rather than picking up the phone or banging out a thoughtful email to get in touch.

This leads to the biggest problem: once you’ve moved to a chat/Messenger based relationship, you’ve got to be online waiting for her to be online in order to have any contact with her. This definitely doesn’t work for you, because you will be out having fun with other women (RIGHT?). Since you do have a life, I hope, and she is hopefully cool enough to have a life as well, it can take days or weeks before you chat with her again. By that point, most of the fire between you will have died out.

This brings us full circle to our goal… the only purpose of MSN is to transition her into a date, always keep that in mind. If it doesn’t look like it is going that way, transition her into a more controllable media, like phone or email.