Have you ever been on a date but didn’t know how to get her back to your house?
A student of mine was on a first date with an attractive young lady and wanted to get her back to his place for some mutual fun. So, without knowing exactly how to present his desire to her, and being horny as hell, he dives head first into a river of rejection. The conversation after dinner goes something like this:
Him: “So… Wanna go back to my place?”
Her: “No, I don’t think so. I don’t kiss guys on the first date, much less sleep with them.”
Him: “No, No, No! I wasn’t thinking that…. I wanted… to umm… show you my stamp collection!”
Her: “Ha! Sure you do! Let’s just save that for another time.”
Him: “How about just for a little bit? I can make us some coffee.”
Her: “No thanks. We should leave soon. I need to get up early.”
Him: “Are you sure? My coffee is really good. I also have some ice cream at the house.”
Her: “No I really can’t. Thanks, but I should go. But I did have a wonderful time with you.”
Does this sound familiar? What’s wrong with this picture? Is it because she doesn’t like coffee, or is it because she doesn’t eat ice cream? It can’t be the stamp collection, can it?
I have to give my student credit. He definitely gets an “A” for persistence. That dude has no shame! Even being called out on his phony agenda, he still tries to get her back to his place. He’s practically groveling for her to come over. Getting “no” for an answer is definitely not a good way to start the relationship. The desperation in his approach was a major part of what turned her off about his proposition. If he were to put on a plaid suit and offer her no-interest financing, he would have a better chance at selling her a used car than getting her home.
Without a solid game plan and smooth execution, you may have to join my student in a threesome with Rosie Palmer and her 5 sisters! I don’t like getting blue balls, and I’m sure you don’t either!
The advice I gave to my student required much more than an email response. I had to call him personally and give him the “Come to Jesus” talk. This is what I advised him to do.
Before you even think about asking her to come home with you (a concept I like to refer to as “extraction”), there are important questions you need to find out first.
“Does she have to get up early tomorrow?”
If she has to get up for work at the crack of dawn, she’s probably not going to want to stay up late. No matter how much she likes you, or how well the evening is going, she’s probably not willing to risk her job to come home with you. Finding out the answer to this crucial question will prevent you from being shot down when you ask her back to your place.
“How did she get here?”
Did she drive her car or take the subway? The transportation issue is critical, so that you know exactly how to get her back to your place. If the last train to her house leaves at 10:00, it’s unlikely you’ll get her to go with you. If she came in her car, she could easily realize how tired she is when following you home and change her mind. If this is the case, you might suggest leaving your car there and going together in her car. This will prevent her from backing out, and you can get one of your buddies to pick your car up tomorrow.
“Who did she come with?”
If you met her at a bar, then this question is an important one. You need to find out who her friends are and make friends with them. Win them over and show them you can be trusted. If they don’t know you, they aren’t going to let you take her home.
“Who does she live with?”
This is an important question if you can’t bring her back to your place. Going to her place will add a challenge to the equation, since you don’t have as much control over the logistics as you would at your own place. You may have to win over roommates and pets, so it is essential that you be prepared for that as well.
“How far away do you live?”
If she lives clear across town, it’s going to be a challenge to get her to come home with you. If this is the case, you’re going to have to plan accordingly. If you’ve done the math and find that the logistics are not in your favor, it’s better to save face and prevent being shot down. Logistics is the key to getting laid.
So now that you got logistics out of the way, what’s next? Want to know how to smoothly invite her back to your place?
Having a solid game plan will give you solid confidence when you invite her home. Notice how I use the word “invite” instead of ask or beg. The secret of securing her attraction to you is to NEVER come off as desperate or needy. This is a huge turn off to women. Besides, inviting her will make her feel like it was her decision.
True seducers create opportunities and encourage women to take them.
Open the door assuming she will walk in. If she doesn’t, don’t be fazed. Being nonchalant and laid back might be all the encouragement she needs. Make it seem like you’re doing her a favor, and if she doesn’t accept the invitation then she is really missing out.
How do I use the extraction method effectively?
Learn about the things she is interested in. What excites her? Use your knowledge of these things as information to get her back to your place.
For example, if she is passionate about wine, tell her about the fantastic bottle of wine you have waiting at your house. Give her the idea of sharing the bottle with her. Upsell the wine and get her to open the door and walk in herself.
“Even people who don’t drink wine like this brand. And for the ones who do fall in love with it, it’s really amazing!”
Adding some intriguing marketing can help spike her curiosity. You could easily say,
“You know what, I’m feeling spontaneous! I’m having a great time with you. Let’s continue this conversation with some of that wine.”
How did you create the opportunity?
- You found out what her passions are.
- You bait her with something she is passionate about.
- You upsell the bait.
- You went in for the kill.
You also confirmed that she doesn’t have to get up early with your logistical questions you asked earlier, and she has nothing better to do, so why not enjoy some amazing wine and company?
The ultimate secret seducers use to get laid.
Get lucky! Luck = preparation meeting opportunity. The more prepared you are, the luckier you get. That’s why guys say “I got lucky” when they get laid. If you keep relying on luck alone to get laid, you’ll be having more blue balls than sex. Make your own luck and have the ultimate control over your sex life.
