Let’s face it, in our line of work there’s really no such thing as the “slow-game”. For guys like us things either move fast or move really fast. Hopefully with this, I’ll be able to shed some light on how to get things very sexual, very quickly on the day1. This can be broken down into several sub-sections which I’ll go into, but basically the idea is:
1) Create the vibe
2) Open direct.
3) Project sexual state
4) Progressively escalate the conversation
5) Progressively escalate kino / project sexual state
6) Protect your buying temperature!
7) Pull to nearest semi-private location
If you can get the hang of the above, you’ll be able to regularly pull girls right from the bar to the bathroom, alley behind the bar, nearest hotel, or straight back to yours with minimal time spent with her.
The key here really lies in escalating the conversation, which I’ve yet to see mentioned anywhere else, and has also been pretty hard for me to figure out. Essentially the idea is that every type of statement falls somewhere on a scale based on how sexual and how personal it is. The idea is to keep moving forward at all times (maybe a baby-step back here and there) and to pull once you reach the top of the ladder, while managing the other 4 pieces of the puzzle. We’ll get into this in more detail, right now let’s start at the very beginning and talk about being social.
In a bar/club/whatever the identity we want to most avoid is ‘predator chode,’ who hides in his chode crystal waiting to approach the first available attractive girl. This has been harped on by others ad nauseaem yet continues to be seen. There are a couple easy ways to fix this.
A) Say hi to EVERYBODY. I like to arrive early and simply introduce myself to anybody who stands in my proximity, anyone who I need to squeeze by to get to the bar or somewhere, or who anyone makes eye contact with me. (note, if they’re in a group introduce yourself to the whole group) A simple “Hi, I’m Ryan, nice to meet you” works fine. If you like you can even stretch it to a comment about the venue or the person’s outfit and vibe from there. As long as you do so without needyness – i.e. don’t try to hold the person in conversation, simply be content to introduce yourself, swap a line or 2 of banter, and walk away – people will be receptive and will help you out later in the night.
B) Dance! Don’t try to get freaky with girls. Simply dance and smile. Dance at the bar, dance on the dancefloor, dance on the stairs. If a girl crosses your path, just dance in front of her and smile. Maybe she’ll dance with you, maybe she’ll continue on her way, either way you’ve increased your chances of pulling her later in the night. Again, do this without being needy. Learn to enjoy dancing by yourself. And when you do dance with others, do not discriminate! Dance with the BBW to your left for a minute, then dance with the hottie behind you for a minute, then salsa with the 40 year old Spanish woman. Don’t try to get behind them and grind on their ass, just put yourself in front of them and move to the beat with a smile on your face. If they try to grind you, fine- but don’t try for it off the break.
Now when you approach a girl, either on the dance floor or at the bar, you’re not doing so because she’s got nice tits. You’re doing it because that’s what you’ve done with everybody and that’s who you are. You also have a ton of friends now who you can introduce her to (she’ll assume you know them, they’ll assume you know her, everybody will make nice).
