A wise man once told me: “Everything you’ll ever need to learn about women, you can learn from Rock n Roll.”
I was pretty confused when I first heard this, and I’m pretty sure most of my students are when I first tell them (but they never admit it!). Several years and many women later, I can totally agree: it’s absolutely true.
As I got better and better and meeting women, I started noticing things I hadn’t really noticed before - some instructors refer to this as “seeing the Matrix”; being able to identify and understand the cause and effect of even the most subtle communications, most of which are non-verbal.
It can be a little like a sixth sense, and it’s hard to turn off - but it’s what gives instructors the proficiency to quickly help students, quickly help them adjust what they’re doing.
The key to massive attraction isn’t what you say … it’s how you carry yourself. It’s your physical presence, and that manifests largely through your body language. Where was I going to learn attractive body language? Where else? The wise man was right: The Temple of Rock ‘n Roll.
I began to sift through hundreds of videos of performances of the most popular and most sexually charged rock icons I could find, and I started analysing what they were doing from the point of view of an instructor. How they walked, how they danced, their facial expressions, and even how they stood still! After a while, I started to see a pattern. Three qualities were being repeated over and over again, three qualities in common.
In this article, I want to talk about the first: Sexual Presence.
For many of the artists, this came through in their dancing. Which is nice and all, but I couldn’t be dancing the whole time. The best example, however, of sexual presence came from Jim Morrison. He gave off tremendous sexual presence, but seemed to be doing very little actively. I hadn’t seen any videos of him performing since I was a teenager, and seeing it again with my “sixth sense” absolutely blew my mind.
He moved with purpose, slowly, almost trying to poeticize his presence. It seemed both calculated and natural, but most importantly: the impact was tremendous.
Here are some of the guidelines I picked out:
Alpha body language – Sexual Presence
1. Less is more.
- Move as little as you need to, and when you react, do it with delay
- Slow down all your movements, as if you were moving underwater
- When you do move, it should be bold and purposeful
2. Poeticize your presence.
- Act as if you were a spectacle to be witnessed
- Draw attention to your every move using strong eye contact, and delaying responses
- Always try and appear to be more comfortable than anyone else. Lean back when standing, angle back, drape your arms when sitting
- Be carefree and content; act like you neither want nor need anything
3. Emphasize your sexuality
- Relax your eyes. Check out (and model) the look in their eyes that Jim Morrison, Phil Lynott, and even Marilyn Monroe have
- Slightly purse your lips, as if you’re about to kiss the girl you’re talking to
- Tilt your head up, and look down when speaking
- Study a woman’s face intently during your interaction with her, and keep glancing at her lips
- Keep an inquisitory look of mild arousal on your face
I began modeling my body language based on this list and the results were epic. This is the reason I stopped using routines, I no longer needed them. Everything they communicated I could now communicate with my body. Even openers started to become unnecessary as women were now opening ME more than ever, based simply on the way I stood and the look on my face. Attraction went from slowly earned to instantaneous, but there were still some gaps…
The hottest women, although attracted, would still shit test me. Not only that, but guys started to become more of a problem as I was now getting a tremendous amount of female attention. This is where the second quality I found amongst sexual rock icons came in handy, and allowed me to smoothly and effortlessly diffuse any weird behaviour that was thrown at me… coming soon!
January 28th, 2008 at 6:45 pm
It reminds me of a female friend of mine I’ve had since I was young. She used to have a big poster of Jim Morrison in her room and commented about how sexy he was, although as a person she would rather spit on him.
January 29th, 2008 at 5:52 pm
Cajun is the man. His style of approach is more calm and cool compared to being higher energy approach and yet it’s so damn effective.
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March 11th, 2008 at 7:18 pm
Solid list.
One thing I’ve also noticed about rock icons - the usage of facial expressions. Their faces are more expressive, but in a subtle way. They don’t exaggerate emotions, like you might when you’re trying to be silly on a home-video.
Maybe it has something to do with being free to feel however they like and not hide it, or that their facial emotions are more recognizable because their true emotions come through better. I’m not sure. Any thoughts on this?
June 21st, 2008 at 11:01 am
After seeing you on the Keys to the VIP I got lots of respect for you. Great article, I’ll definetely look into these tips!