Paul Janka - Getting Laid in NYC

I am always amazed to walk down the street on a given night, especially Friday night, and see all these eager guys sitting across from a smirking woman. The usual end game there, in my experience, is a fat bill, a bloated stomach, some yawns and a peck on the cheek, with the guy standing foolishly by as the girl steps into a cab waving good-bye.

It’s a market, and there are plenty of girls for everyone. She may look fit, sexy and sophisticated, but after you’ve banged her and she’s naked, with mascara running down her face and she’s trying to stuff her thighs into a pair of too small jeans at 2am, you’ll realize she’s just another person trying to get by. Don’t be intimidated!

Pick-up girls midweek in the middle of the day while they are walking around. Trying to get a girls number (or worse, trying to bang her) on a Saturday night at a crowded bar is a loser’s gamble. Meet girls one-on-one during the week, when there’s likely to be a lull in even the most popular girl’s social calendar.

You are never “bothering” a girl by hitting on her. Remember that it’s your duty as a man to engage the opposite sex and initiate contact. Don’t get into thinking you’re being intrusive, she will let you know.

Be quick, decisive, and get out of there! A quick, reusable system for getting their number.

Quick tips on looking good - different styles, and a piece of advice on keeping your breath sharp.

Fantastic write-up of how to get in contact for the first time - avoiding phone calls and testing the market.

If a girl eats a big pasta dish with garlic and seafood, and then has dessert, and coffee and gets completely stuffed and is conscious of her strong food breath, you really think she’s going to let you undress her? Doesn’t she have to take a mean shit? Or fart? Sounds gross, but think about it. This is the most unlikely condition in which she’ll put out.

Why a lounge is hands-down the best venue - and how to avoid out-pricing yourself on drinks or getting too drunk.

How to tap in to a store of conversation - but not your own. Some great advice.

Until you’ve had sex with a woman, time is against you; once you’ve been with her, it’s your ally. Closely aligned with the notion of the romantic is the feeling of urgency. For some reason, things moving quickly are more romantically compelling than a drawn-out, methodical courtship. From first meeting, to planning the drink, to meeting at the lounge, and now, to the first physicality, timing is crucial.

Not being creepy with touch, and when to make the move home. Some really useful practical advice.

I have the smallest apartment in Manhattan. Literally. And yet, I screw more and better looking girls than all my friends in the City, many who have infinitely nicer digs.