Picking up a Playmate – Part 2
Friday
Jan 4, 2008
In Part 1, Mr M details getting the phone number of a Playmate. This is what happens next:
Having gotten her number, I have a seminar to teach. I call her after to arrange a meet up. I’d done a bunch of work to make sure the number was solid – what we call a time bridge – but from club promoting, I know that however hard you work, women of a particular beauty have so much going on in their life that there’s always going to be a certain degree of flakiness.
The phone rings. And rings. And rings. No answer. I’m pretty ambivalent at this point – I thought it was a straight flake. But there are a bunch of hot women in this world, and I know I’ll close others, soon – I didn’t understand why everyone else around me was making such a fuss about having to ‘make it work’. I throw the phone on my bed and have a shower.
As I come out, I see Carlos with my phone. “SMS game”, he says, “is the low-compliance alternative”. He gives the phone back to me – while I’ve been in the shower, he’s been SMS’ing her, and had two replies back. By ‘low-compliance’ he means I’m not asking for her to invest too much. An SMS takes her 10 seconds to reply to. A phone call puts her on the spot, and maybe I’ll make her feel uncomfortable. Therefore, she’s more wiling to SMS back than to answer the phone.
Two SMSs was all I needed to make this work. The rest of the evening, we SMS’d back and forth. I followed the basic rules:
- Don’t appear too eager
- Try to be light-hearted, succinct and funny
- Always appear to be having a better, more fun and interesting time than she is
- Using SMS distractors
It was fun – we teased, mocked, and bantered. After about 5 exchanges, I started getting her to qualify herself to me – to start explaining herself and justifying herself to me. I used all my regular SMS tricks to build attraction – building up a conversation, and then stopping replying, so she’d send me a few messages in a row, a couple of nice little push-away comments that work well over SMS. She asked me to come and meet her at the bar she was at. I told her to fuck off, that I was having too much fun where I was. The frame I wanted was her chasing me.
Just as bootcamp ends, she sends me an SMS that says “Why don’t you just swing by to my place and we’ll have a drink”. Score.
I head over, and thus commences two of the hardest hours of game that I’ve ever had. Every second comment from her is a test. She alternates between being a massive pain in the ass and coming out with amazingly insightful comments about me, herself, and the world.
To cut a long story short, it took me an hour and 5 attempt to actually kiss her. While we were isolated in her room. I tried all my usual tools, and she rejected me on every single one – and hard rejected too: “don’t try that again” sort of rejected. This was a new experience for me.
Finally, I focussed on using the most powerful tool in the box – the freeze-out. I would create an intensely good feeling through emotional connection or by getting her laughing. Then cut it dead, and say I think I should leave. She needs to feel that loss. Then hesistate slightly, and go for the kiss.
That plus a LOT of reframing the situation. I don’t think other teachers emphasize this enough. I’ve found the real 9’s and 10’s, the models, the celebrities, the playmates, and the socialites, really really respond to it. Changing the frame so you are the one choosing her, you are the one evaluating her. I have a whole load of tools for this, but an example is: I’d keep telling her how the chicks in Los Angeles were too touchy feely, and couldn’t be classy and keep their hands to themselves. And how I can’t ever find a girl who’s loyal, fun, and a sexual freak (credit: Sinn).
At one point later in the evening she actually said to me: “I bet you’re one of those guys who girls like me go crazy for all the time”. I asked her what she meant, and she said: “you know, FHM models, playmates and that – it’s because you think like us – I mean, women treat you the way guys treat us”. This from a girl who’s never seen me talk to another woman. This stuff is powerful!
It took me another hour still to get her top off. And even longer for what came next – I’m not going to go in to the full details, that’s not my style, but no, I didn’t have sex with her. I couldn’t do it – too much resistance, and my game’s not quite there yet. You learn from your mistakes, and my co instructors have given me a bunch of ideas on what I could have done next. In my mind, I was dead tired, wanted to sleep in my own bed before I had to teach seminar and to me she was, like I said, just another hot chick. Nothing wrong with that way of thinking.
Author: Posted by the Grow Your Game Editor - Travis. 
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