In the book ‘The Game’, Style talks about how he number closes a Playboy Playmate. Standing on his great shoulders, I’m pleased to report that I was able to take things one step further - and I’m going to share that story with you today.
I was running a The Mystery Method workshop in LA a few months back. We were about to start teaching Day 2, when Carlos taps me on the shoulder and points out this chick in the hotel lobby.
Carlos has some pretty high standards, and if he points out a girl, it’s worth taking a second look. This chick was smoking - even in her gym clothes, you could see she was a 10 out of 10 … or as close to it as a real woman can get!
The lift doors open, and it’s time to get in, but if experience has taught me anything, it’s that there’s always 500 excuses not to approach - and 1 very good reason to approach. Even though I’ve done this a million and one times, I still get a bit of anxiety about approaching girls - I’m good, but I’m also human. At the end of the day, you’re a man of your actions, not your words, so I walk on over.
As I go in, my training and experience start to kick in - I’ve done this quite literally 1,000 times. I’m considering the best approach, but I’m strangely zen-like calm. The closer I get, the more I realise this chick is even hotter up close than I’d realised. She’s getting hotter and hotter with each step - long blonde hair, beautiful figure, and exquisite features. Oh, and, the workshop starts in 5 minutes!
Logistically, how do you approach a super-hot girl during the day? Full credit to London Soul for recently showing me you can go in direct, but my experience is: if the girl is super-hot, with lots of social value, you can get more consistent results from going in slightly more indirect.
I don’t want to open the target directly, but luckily there’s a concierge, and he HAS to be nice to me. If I can open him, and demonstrate high value (DHV) quickly, I’m in without looking try-hard. And if I give a little thought to my opener, I can transfer it over to her.
Luckily, I think fast. Prior preparation and planning prevent poor performance and all that…
Mr M: ‘Hey buddy… do you know if there’s a place around here where I can get some quick food?’
Simple, functional, and just loud enough for her to hear too. All I need from him at this point is some acknowledgement of my question. I don’t need to wait for him to come up with twenty options - I’m bringing the party, not waiting for them to bring the party to me!
GUY: ‘Hmm…’
Mr M: ‘I’ve got to lead a seminar downstairs in 5 minutes but I’m starved but there was something wrong with the meat in this burger [pointing to fast food paper bag in my hand]. I think I might get mad cow disease from it or something’.
Simple little demonstrator of value, in terms of leading a seminar (being a leader of men is one of the important attraction switches), a bit of humour thrown in for good measure, and I even added a time constraint in to take the pressure out of the situation. Out of the corner of my eye, I see that she smiles. That’s the hook point I need.
I’m genuinely on a tight timeframe here, so I open her with the same functional opener straight.
Mr M: You know where I can get healthy beef burger?
Let’s be honest. This isn’t the best chatup line in the world. There’s limited places for it to go, and it’s not that funny or cool. But the point of the opener isn’t magical chatup lines. It’s not to find one or two phrases that’ll make her magically drop her panties. It’s about getting in to a conversation, and then switching to a new topic:
Playmate: There’s a burger shop down the road.
Mr M: Do they have good burgers?
Playmate: I think so.
Mr M: Made from healthy cows?
Playmate: [Laughs]
Mr M: Thanks
OK, so that’s our opener done. Rather than start asking her lots of questions about herself like every other guy, I’m bringing the party to her, not asking her to be the party (this is a consistent theme!) I don’t want to let the pressure build up on her, and she knows that she’s not done anything yet to earn my attention other than look pretty. So I turn as if I was going to move away, and then back to her as if I’ve just thought of something important - this is called ‘body rocking’.
Mr M: You know, you remind me of a friend of mine that I used to hang out with while I travelled Australia. She was cool, funny and fun - they don’t make that type of girl much anymore. Her name was Brenda but we used to call her Bertha. I don’t know your name so I’m just gonna call you Bertha. Thanks Bertha [Hold hand out to shake her hand]
Playmate: [Laughs] I really don’t like that name. [shakes my hand].
Mr M: Jesus, I’ve only known you for like 2 seconds and we’re already not getting along.
Giving girls stupid names is a great tool. It diffuses any weird ‘trying to look cool’ tension, makes her look a bit silly, and puts you in control. When she says she doesn’t like it, rather than apologise, I push her away a bit jokingly. Having these little barriers is what creates sexual tension - and most men are always trying to knock them down, not put them up!
The interaction continues. Rather than using memorised lines, I’m just using certain principles that I know build attraction. I’m talking about the other women in my life (but there’s an art to doing this - you don’t want to seem like you’re boasting!), talk about travelling, but at the same time teasing her more and creating more little barriers between us.
I am now very conscious that Carlos and I need to get to seminar. It’s been like 10 - 15 minutes. We’re getting late. Also, he’s watching and waiting near the lift. I now have a student watching too. Plus, the guy I originally asked about the burger is starting to stare. I’ve got an audience … time to get out of there.
I’ve demonstrated enough value. Any other girl would have been putty in my hands already so I close using a standard, but solid, number close: ‘It was cool meeting you. Lets catch up tonight at Bar X. What’s the best way of getting into contact with you?’ Simple, effective, and I stole if from Adam Lyons!
She pulls out a card from her purse, gets a pen and writes her number on it. I take the card. It says, ‘[Name], Playboy Playmate, FHM model, Cover Girl on [a bunch of magazines], TV appearances on [about 20 programs including MTV soulmates, NBC, E! etc etc]’. And it has a half naked centerfold picture of her on it.
I tease her for being a poster girl, say goodbye, smile warmly, walk away and get into the lift. I hand Carlos the card. He looks at me sheepishly. We both start to laugh. Poor guy says it was a turning point for him not to hesitate as it should’ve been him!
Continued in Picking Up a Playmate - Part 2
