I didn’t start by using direct game. I started off and got good by learning indirect game. I think starting off with an indirect approach probably helped me. Direct game is incredibly powerful, but it takes a certain amount of confidence to pull off. As a student said to me recently, “You’ve got to crawl before you can walk, and walk before you can jog.”
I ultimately switched to being direct because it was more congruent with my personality, and I had more fun with it. I love the look of shock on a woman’s face when you approach her and say, “You’re fucking sexy, how are you?” I especially love it when the same woman is in my bed hours later.
So Savoy asked me for a recent example. This is about a woman I met on the street, slept with that night, and is now one of my closest friends.
The Approach
I was walking down the street with Sheriff, when he spots a beautiful Asian woman walk past (Sheriff knows I have a penchant for Asians). She looked absolutely stunning. Tanned skin, long jet black hair, big celebrity-style sunglasses and a crisp summer dress; she was a vision of beauty. She was already a few steps in front of us, so I leapt after her.
I rushed up to her from behind, touched her gently on the arm to turn her around, and said, “Excuse me, I saw you walking down the street and thought, ‘Oh my God, that woman is beautiful’, and had to come talk to you.”
Things like leaping after a woman or starting with “excuse me” could be try-hard with an opinion opener, but they are totally congruent with direct game. The goal is to come off as charming and confident, without seeking a specific reaction from her.
You can find a bunch of great direct openers in Magic Bullets, but remember that the key to delivering them is passion and enthusiasm. The more she thinks you’re being 100% genuine with her, the better she will respond.
The Look
She gave me that classic look that I’ve seen thousands of times. The look of surprise, slight shock, and quick once-over of you to see if she’s potentially interested. Unlike in indirect game, where you build up your value from the ground as you interact with the woman, in direct game you have to have high pre-approach value, otherwise she will write you off. This means looking as good as you possibly can, having very strong body language, and delivering your opener with the utmost confidence.
She giggles and asks if I’m sure that I’m not trying to sell her something. I joke around with her for about how I’m not trying to sell her something, and in fact I am trying to pick her up, which gets her giggling even more. One of the things that I’ve learnt in direct game is that if you can make her laugh IMMEDIATELY after opening directly, it completely relaxes them.
At this point, you’ve done something very powerful. You’ve shown your interest, so they know you are picking them up, but you’ve also shown them that they can enjoy it. Humour is huge for direct game.
Comfort
I suggest walking down the street with her for a little bit so we can talk more, and she agrees. For the next few minutes, I get to know her a little better and start building comfort. I also start thinking about where and how I am going to spend the next few hours of time with her.
In direct game, you close quickly. When I ran indirect game, I would always make sure to “play it cool” throughout the pick-up. I never wanted to appear too needy, so I would wait a little while before texting or calling her, and then set up a date for a couple of days later. That way I looked like I had a busy and interesting lifestyle.
With direct game, you take the reverse approach. Imagine the whirlwind romancer who flies into Paris for one night, meets a beautiful woman, charms and sleeps with her that night, and then departs sorrowfully the next morning. Direct game is meant to be THAT intense. It’s as if your feelings and your passion for this woman are so strong that you can’t help but act on them. Women LOVE this kind of intensity in their romantic encounters.
It turns out she doesn’t have any plans as yet for the evening, so I start seeding the idea of joining my friends and me for drinks that night.
We part ways for the afternoon, and I call her a couple of hours later. We arrange to meet up at the bar that night, and then I start creating a sexual frame by sending the text, “Make sure you wear something sexy for me tonight.”
May 28th, 2008 at 4:02 am
Nice writing style. Looking forward to reading more from you.
Chris Moran