1) Learn to spin the truth a little
[digg-me]Clinton’s departing approval rating was 68% - considerably higher than any other US President in history. This from the man who not only sported outrageous hairstyles in his youth and refused to say he got stoned as college kid, but was also the second US President in history to get impeached.
Why? His focus on his public image. As Bob Woodward
“Emphasize the attractive parts of your personality”, suggests Rokker from The Mystery Method, “and try to convey a specific image. Back when I was a student, and people asked me what I did, I’d tell them what I was doing for fun. Why tell a girl you’re an engineering student or an accountant when your real passion is playing guitar or playing high-stakes poker? Why say you’re an investment banker when in your heart you’re an entrepreneur who’s just working a city job to save up to start your own business that you’re passionate about?
“Demonstrating passion for your life, ambition for the future, and your journey to where you want to be are far better than dull descriptions of where you are right now”.
2) Persistence goes a long way
Clinton’s presidential bid didn’t start off so well at all. After a dramatic defeat in Iowa for the Democratic nomination, some woman turns up who’s claimed to have slept with him. Shocked, I tell you, I was shocked. But rather than accept defeat, Clinton stepped up the offensive, and made a massive comeback.
While dating success isn’t measured in state-wide opinion polls, a little bit of persistence can really pay off.
“As a club promoter, I spend a lot of time watching my female friends get hit on by guys” says Adam Lyons. “With the prettiest girls, they’ll consistently give bitchy reactions to even the coolest and best looking guys who come to talk to them.”
“What separates the men who succeed from the boys who go home alone is that they’re not put off by this. They smile, they keep their composure, and they keep talking. If she’s still bitchy after a minute or two, perhaps it’s time to find someone more approachable - don’t be the pest they can’t get rid of! But the crucial point is the first 30 seconds. Lean back, smile genuinely and keep talking - it’s amazing to watch how girls will open up when they see that your confidence hasn’t been shaken by them.”
3) Romantic dinners are often not a great choice
According to his biography “My Life“, Clinton knew the effect of over-eating on productivity and actively avoided heavy meals before important meetings. This is not an insubstantial impressive feat for someone obligated to attend quite so many official dinners in some stunningly dull company. It was even rumoured that he’d regularly feign food allergies to avoid eating too much at fund-raiser dinner in order to keep himself sharp - people are rarely at their best when their body’s deep in digestion.
Surprising then that guys have been trying to bed women in exactly this way for the best part of fourty years!
“Invert the order of the date: meet, fuck, and then eat, after you’ve worked up an appetite”, suggests Paul Janka, author of How To Get Laid in New York. “When I was in my twenties, new to dating, I used to take women out to eat. Almost to the one, I would end the night befuddled and frustrated. What had started out so well eventually petered out. If a girl eats a big pasta dish with garlic and seafood, and then has dessert, and coffee and gets completely stuffed (remember, you’re paying so they often attempt to gorge themselves on your ticket) and is conscious of her strong food breath, you really think she’s going to let you undress her? Doesn’t she have to take a mean shit? Or fart? Sounds gross, but think about it. This is the most unlikely condition in which she’ll put out.”
4) Be the loveable scamp
That Clinton’s approval rating was at it’s all-time high of 73% in the aftermath of his impeachment trial, tells us something about human nature. People love a charismatic anti-hero much more than a boring do-gooder - think about how few times you’ve heard the phrase “chart-topping Christian rock“.
In fact, people will tend to assume all sorts of positive qualities about people who are warm, friendly, and a good time to be around (as described by Robert Cialdini in his awesome book, Influence: Science and Practice): much of this comes down to being someone who other people can relax around, and vibe with.
According to Tyler Durden, founder of Real Social Dynamics, “people who break the vibe are considered socially unintelligent, and despite being perhaps very good/worthwhile people, they will come across poorly.” Dale Carnegie emphasises the same point in How to Win Friends and Influence People - be agreeable, and you can get away with murder … or at least interesting games involving cigars.
5) Develop a reputation for being discrete…
Not everyone has the misfortune to end up being impeached for lying to their wife and employers about getting a blowjob. But then not everyone is in a position to go on national television to issue such denials, and, worse, be caught out by the presence of an ‘offending garment’.
Many guys, however, make exactly the opposite mistake - they can’t resist boasting about their sexual conquests to everyone they know. Sure it makes you feel like a pimp today, but you need to think more strategically:
“Women want to have fun, and women love to have sex”, admits Johnny Soporno, author of Seductive Reasoning. “There are plenty of women for whom this includes casual sex with guys they already know and can trust. But while society glorifies the men who do this, it vilifies the women who want this same freedom! Women are forced to be very careful of their reputation, and if you’re a loud mouth who can’t keep quiet about who he’s slept with, you’ll find yourself with a blackmark against your name.”
“I did a semester abroad with two natural guys from my college when I was studying”, remembers Mr M from The Mystery Method. “On the first night, both brought home these stunning girls they’d met at a frat party. One spent the next day telling everyone how he’d slept with this girl. The result? No other girls would hook up with him for fear of ruining their reputation. The other guy never told anyone, didn’t even mention it again to us, and denied it the few times I heard people ask him about it. He went on to sleep with the absolute hottest girls on campus, whether they had boyfriends or not - they knew their secret was safe with him”
In Conclusion
History has done Clinton a great disservice for remembering him primarily as President of the United States rather than the Atilla the Hun of free love that he could have been.
Stay tuned for next week’s top tips from President Sarkozy - a story of wonder and hope involving a short Hungarian man and his quest to bed all of France’s ageing super-models…
