When does a woman decide that she will sleep with you? Keep in mind that women run on emotions. Knowing that, what should you be focusing on? Making emotional connections.
This is why I’m not so concerned with DHV stories, but rather, connecting with her. The very fact that the two of you have many connections, is a DHV in it’s own right. You’ve already separated yourself from all of the strange men out there.
Let’s use Barbie Doll as an example of this:
Assanova: “What’s your major?”
Barbie Doll: “Textiles & Clothing.”
Assanova: “My mom does that!”
A connection is made.
Assanova: “I like your glasses. They stand out. I would so rock those.”
A connection is made.
Assanova: “Look at your artsy jacket. I have this crazy jacket with crazy stitching everywhere. It pops
out, just like the one you have.”
And another connection. Noticing anything? There’s something else in the above dialogue. Focus. While you are talking to a girl, and you manage to find something that you have in common, focus in on it.
When you focus on a commonality, it allows you to make many rapid emotional connections. But what if my mom wasn’t into textiles & clothing?
I simply would have asked her what she plans to do with that (her degree). In essence, I would have had her expand on that topic until I found something that hooked.
So in general, use your experiences (not fake out of place DHV stories) to make several connections, and focus on commonalities.
Location
If you haven’t caught on already, when you go to a location where women live the same lifestyle and share the same interests as you, the chances of making connections surge, when compared to going to a place where women don’t share your lifestyle.
Location is what makes or breaks your chances before you even get started.
The Stop-Loss Clause
What if you’re expanding, and the conversation is going nowhere? It’s really simple. You keep quiet and see if she re-initiates conversation with you. If she does, then she’s attracted to you. But what if you’re not sure if she’s attracted to you?
This is when you go Mode One . I’m not going to spend much time on this, but this is where you need to establish that there is attraction between the two of you. If you haven’t told her that you find her attractive, then you need to do so. Example:
Assanova: “So, do you like what you do?”
Girl: “Yes.”
Assanova: “What do you do?”
Girl: “Work.”
OK. This is an extreme example. Maybe she’s not into me? Or maybe she’s really just shy and intimidated by me? If you haven’t already, like the example of using it as your opener, then establish the attraction:
Assanova: “You seem like an interesting girl. And I think that you’re attractive. I wanna take you out. Is that something that you’d like to do?”
Seeing that you have established that you want to see her in the sexual sense, she knows that if you go out, it is a date, and not just “hanging out”.
She has two choices: To go out with you, or to just say no. If she says no, or gives you any kind of bullshit, walk away immediately. If she decides, “yes, I wanna go out with you” or if you just knew that there was attraction and it didn’t have to come to this point, then it’s time to move on to the next chapter.
Don’t walk away from her after you get the number. She likes you. So why would you stop there? This is about going for the one-night stand. Next time I’ll talk about the power play.
June 14th, 2008 at 10:24 pm
this is low game…she have to figure out about the commonality not YOU!I call it needy approval seeking, not connetction!
August 15th, 2008 at 10:12 pm
I don’t think a girl wants to be compared to your mom. So basically you’re telling her shes like an old lady? Weak. Tell her you read that Katie Holmes (some celebrity) does that too, if you’re gonna use that line. Then at least she can think of herself as being fabulous and you make her feel good.
October 23rd, 2008 at 5:47 pm
cool article