What gets in the way of REAL connections between people is social masks. You know, the happy face that you put on to get through your day.
The lady at the checkout says “Hi! How are you?”, and you just say “fine”. The real truth might be that your dog just died, that your insides feel twisted, your heart feels like it’s caved in, and that you’re exhausted.
Ba Ba BAAAA! SOCIAL MASK TO THE RESCUE! Here to save you from spilling it all out to the checkout lady. What do you say instead? “Uh, fine thanks. Are these fish sticks two for one?”
Crisis averted! Thanks for saving me again, Social Mask!
Let’s be realistic - social masks are both valuable and appropriate at certain times. But if you don’t know how to take it off, it can really kill the juice with women.
Instead of at the supermarket, let’s pretend you’re on a date with a chick to whom you’re super attracted. You’re hurting inside, but still, you’re wearing the social mask that says everything is just fine.
Most guys have absolutely no idea just how aware and sensitive women are. When you’re holding something back or you’re resisting your emotions, women can sense it and the result is that they feel something’s ‘off’.
When women feel something is “off” they just can’t trust or open up to you in the way they really want to. And quite bluntly, that’s the beginning of the end right there.
So this means you’re meant to just curl up in to the fetal position and cry yourself to sleep in the middle of the date, right? Actually, we’d recommend against that.
But when a guy drops his social mask, and is willing to ‘own’ his emotions, it makes him astoundingly more sexy to a woman.
So what does “owning your emotions” actually mean? Let’s say you’re on a date and you’re feeling really sad about your ex-dog. If you can fully feel your sadness, without “collapsing” AND still remain fully engaged, present and connected to your woman at the same time, then you have just been nominated for sexy man of the year award.
Now, just like riding a bike, it takes a little practice. But when you get the hang of dropping the ol’ social mask, feeling your emotions and still being rock solid with her, you’ve started on the path to being the kind of man that even the most radiant women dream of meeting.
April 10th, 2008 at 9:38 pm
I’ve watched the Authentic Man Program.
It’s awesome!