Guys often worry about what to do with a girl’s number. What’s the best way of contacting her? How long should you wait? What should you say?
Use A Text Message
Paul Janka, author of Getting Laid in NYC, says “you have time to compose your message calmly, but women love to read and write. Getting little messages via phone gets them excited in the way a little girl gets excited about a letter from Daddy when he’s away. There is something more fun or romantic, and mysterious about texting, I don’t know. Plus you can make outrageous propositions that you could never deliver with aplomb over the phone, much less in person.”
Use A Distractor
DaHunter from The Mystery Method explains “we want to stay away from heavy vibes and be playful.”
He recommends using a distractor.
“It’s useful, as when you’re pushing for a meet, it can sometimes subcommunicate lower value, and build uncomfortable pressure.”
Do Something Fun and Interesting
Mr.M from Love Systems says “Always appear to be having a better, more fun and interesting time than she is”. Mr.M used text game to convert a Playmate’s number into a solid date.
“I used all my regular SMS tricks to build attraction - building up a conversation, and then stopping replying, so she’d send me a few messages in a row, a couple of nice little push-away comments that work well over SMS. She asked me to come and meet her at the bar she was at. I told her to fuck off, that I was having too much fun where I was. The frame I wanted was her chasing me.
Just as bootcamp ends, she sends me an SMS that says “Why don’t you just swing by to my place and we’ll have a drink”. Score.”
June 13th, 2008 at 11:33 pm
A few extras:
-Make the sms short, fun, casual
-Dont make the sms about her, its about you. Give her a taste of your world.
-Provoke her curiosity.
-Never end the message with a question. DOnt know why, but it works.
“Hey, Something funny happened that reminded me of you. Im at X bar with my friends. See you!”
Short, casual, funny, intriguing.