If you want to get good with women, there are two essential things you need.
The first is the technical skills of gaming: how to open, negging properly, false time constraints.
The second, is faith.
Why is it that when guys first learn pickup skills, they have quite so much success with what they’re learning? Is there anything magical about opinion openers, or about the routines that are taught? Not really, BUT, you believe these things will work.
That’s why the students who get the best most quickly are the ones able to throw out their entire view of how picking up women works, and embrace the material we teach.
Their faith ultimately manifests itself as confidence, and thus ‘inner game’, where the skills learned are ‘outer game’. The best thing that can happen to a guy learning pickup is for them to be given material that they have faith in first. Then they start to develop faith in themselves as a guy who can attract women.
If you were truly 100% confident in everything you did, the only thing you’d need to do to get laid would be to escalate sexually. Your faith would overcome your lack of skills.
I was a mess when I started to learn game, BUT I have complete faith that the random guys on the internet were on to something. I truly believed that they could both help me and that they were right. Later I found out that half of them were fucking crazy or charlatans, but that faith and the good information I DID find made all the difference.
I bought in to it, and improved my life dramatically. If I hadn’t believe that a certain guy who’s stuff I was reading could go in to a group of 120 guys with one girl and take the girl out, and steal girls from celebrities, then I wouldn’t have gotten as good as I am.
I still try to maintain this faith. If I read something that sounds ridiculous, I don’t dismiss it out of hand - I try it! I use it. Sometimes that shows me that people are full of shit, but sometimes it blows me away, and I learn - I have to remember that I was skeptical about opinion openers when I first learned them.
The technical parts of game are crucial, BUT, after learning all the technical aspects of game, the final sticking point is learning to have faith in yourself. Learning to view yourself as an attractive guy, and someone able to attract and begin sexual relationships with the women you desire.
