If you were to eavesdrop on a group of attractive, single women talking over dinner or drinks, the topic will inevitably turn to men.
And in most cases, it will eventually turn into a massive ranting session about how hard it is these days to find a good man to date…
Which will lead to an intensive bitching session about the male sex in general…
…And inevitably wind up with a detailed list of all the traits guys have that annoy girls.
The simple fact is that single women have an all-encompassing list of traits and characteristics that they absolutely CANNOT STAND in single guys.
Did you have any idea about this?
Probably not.
The unfortunate truth is that, up until a few years ago, I didn’t know this either.
So take heart in the fact that you are about to learn something that MOST MEN on this planet will DIE before finding out.
And my hope is that the things I’m about to share with you will change how you interact with women for the rest of your life… and help you find and date the kind of women you’re TRULY interested in.
FRIENDSHIPS AND ROMANCE
For women, friendships and romance are two entirely separate things. They can never be the same.
One can lead to another, but it doesn’t happen often - remember that: one CAN lead to another, but it’s RARE.
In other words, “romantic” relationships are hugely different from “friendship” relationships.
While most men WOULD have sex with most of their female “friends”, if the woman gave him the chance, most women would NOT sleep with most of their male friends.
Why is this, you ask?
How do women differentiate between the two categories: “We’re just friends” and “I’ll be intimate with you”?
And how can it be so hard to become “more than friends” with a girl you’ve always been “just friends” with?
The answer to this question is fascinating to me.
The answer comes down to understanding just how women “know” when they want to become intimate with a man, and more importantly, understanding how women “know” when they DON’T want to become intimate with a man.
The thing telling a woman whether a certain guy is “friend” or “lover” material is how she feels deep down: it’s a combination of PHYSICAL and EMOTIONAL feelings.
It is by no means logical.
She might however use logic to backwards-rationalize her decision… or she might use logic to persuade people and herself that she has a good reason for either being friends with or in a relationship with a certain guy.But logic isn’t the least bit important in this context, so let me put it this way:
A woman may feel something emotionally and/or physically, but then use those FEELINGS as a basis for her “rational” decisions and actions with a guy.
If she feels that “Eww!” feeling emotionally, then her logical conclusion from that will probably be that she doesn’t want to get intimate with him.
If she feels that emotional spark with a guy, then her “logical” conclusion will probably be that this guy is “interesting” and “attractive”, and a good man for her to date. It is a female way of rationalising what she cannot explain.
It goes a little bit like this:
FEEL > THINK > ACT
First comes the FEELING, then the THOUGHT, and only then, the ACTION.
Now let me ask you a question:
How do most guys act around girls in whom they are “romantically” interested?
And what do they do in order to get the woman to be with them?
Really think about this for a few minutes. If you have a pen and paper handy, make a list.
Seriously, I’ll wait while you do that, you just come back when you’re finished.
OK, now take a look at your list.
I’m willing to bet that almost everything you wrote on that list was something “external”.
In other words, your list will have contained things like “Take her to dinner”, “Compliment her”, “Buy her flowers” and “Make her feel special”.
All external ACTIONS that a man does to let her know he’s INTERESTED.
They are not things that trigger those physical and emotional feelings inside a woman that make her feel like she’s wants to be with this guy.
Most men try to do things for a girl, just HOPING that when she sees this, she’ll become interested in him.
Almost NONE of the things most men usually do to get girls make them feel anything remotely close to attraction or arousal.
Of course, you know all this.
You’ve probably done this stuff enough times to know. I have too. I know what it’s like to try repeatedly to let a particular woman know that I’m interested, only to have her not respond in a romantic way.
The real problem with this kind of thing is that it makes two huge mistakes, all at once.
First, it’s simply the wrong way to go. Telling or showing a woman that you like her has no effect whatsoever on how she feels deep down about you. No matter how much you mean it.
Oh sure, at the time it makes sense… “If I show her how I feel about her, she’ll feel the same way”.
Like I said, it seems like the right thing to do AT THE TIME (when your inner little girl has a big old crush on somebody). But it’s not… I say again, it will have no effect on her real feelings for you.
And second, it communicates clearly to her that you simply don’t UNDERSTAND. It sets off her warning systems and tells her you’re NOT the guy for her.Say what?
Did I just say that doing nice things for women and trying to show how you feel about them, can actually HURT your chances?
Oh yes.
If you’ve been dating a woman exclusively for a while, it’s OK to take her for dinner, buy her a gift and tell her that you like spending time with her: you’re already in a RELATIONSHIP with her.
But if you’ve known a woman for a few days, and you try those things, I’m afraid you’re going to destroy any chance you have of making her attracted to you.
Women are genuine experts at recognizing men who don’t understand how attraction works. And if you don’t understand, and you’re trying to COMPENSATE for that fact with gifts and compliments, then you’re REALLY going to mess it up.
Remember this, burn it deep into your mind, write it on a sticky-note and put it on your fridge:
SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE WOMEN WATCH MEN ALL DAY TRYING TO WIN THEM OVER. SENSE KNOW WHEN A GUY DOESN’T “GET IT”… AND IT ANNOYS THEM WHEN A GUY WHO DOESN’T “GET IT” KEEPS ON TRYING AND TRYING.
Remember – attractive, single women watch guys do this stuff all their lives. They shake their pretty heads and sigh “He just doesn’t get it” over and over again.
The problem is bigger than you can imagine, and you’re going to need to completely overhaul your way of thinking in order to fix it.
WHAT ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HATE MOST ABOUT SINGLE GUYS…
Let’s step back. There are a few things that really annoy attractive, single women: these things are complete deal killers.
A woman can like everything about you, but if you do any of these things, it can really ruin your potential success with a woman. And here they are:
1) Giving Up Your Status In Exchange For Her Attention And Approval
If I had to describe the most important thing that annoys women and DESTROYS a guy’s chances, it would be this, in a nutshell. You see it EVERYWHERE.
Effectively, men say “Hi, I want your approval and attention, and therefore, I’m willing to let you be in control and call all the shots, and I’ll do anything to please you if you’ll give me your constant attention and approval”.
But why would any woman WANT you to give up your status and manliness? After all, as you know deep down, this is what attracts them most!
Women simply aren’t attracted to men who act weak and insecure.
They hate it when a man does something to demonstrate that he’ll give away all his power in return for their approval.I could literally write an entire book on this one single idea, that’s how big it is.
Do me a favour: take a few minutes to think this over, and maybe write down the ways in which you have made this mistake with women in the past.
But most importantly, think about how you’re going to STOP doing it right now.
2) Being Needy, Clingy, And Insecure
When a person “clings” to another person, the person who is being “clung” to” resents and rejects the needy emotional parasite, because this is wussy behavior at its worst.
If your Mr. Average is on the phone with a girl he just met, and she says “Hey, I have to go now”, he might then say “Aw… um… OK. But will you call me when you get home?”.
Or if a guy and a girl are out on their first date, and they’re walking around in a large department store, most guys will follow the girl everywhere, and not leave her side whatsoever. If she wanders away, he’ll come find her straight away.
He’ll stay physically close to her, as he is terrified she’ll leave without him. Just like a puppy dog.
And an even worse example is when a guy is so emotionally INSECURE that he actually ASKS a woman to tell him that he’s nice or interesting, etc.
“Do you think I’m fun?”
“Do you think we could ever work in a relationship?”
“Am I your type?”
Women absolutely cannot stand this stuff. It makes them feel sick. It makes them want to RUN A MILE.
3) Not Leading – And Worse Still, Trying To Get Her To Lead
One of the things that triggers a woman’s anti-wussy reaction is a man who FOLLOWS and doesn’t LEAD.
The real problem is that most women won’t try to lead naturally.
So you’ve got a situation, because the man is trying to FOLLOW a woman who isn’t LEADING.
He’s looking for little cues to let him know where he should go and what he should do… but he isn’t getting them.
So what does he do now?
He just asks for them!
He says “So hey, I was thinking of maybe taking you to Olive Garden for dinner, how does that sound?”
Everything about the way he asks screams to her “I’m trying to work out what you want me to do, because I’m not manly enough to decide and work out what will make you happy”.
This will kill attraction in an instant, and will irritate her.
Men who don’t lead, and instead try to get a woman to lead, are really ANNOYING to women.
4) Using Insecure or Approval-Seeking Posture, Gestures, Voice Tone And Body Language
There’s a term that attractive, in-demand women use to describe guys who use insecure, approval-seeking posture, characteristics and mannerisms…
You will know the term well.The term is “NICE”.
“He’s nice… but there’s just no chemistry between us.”
It’s not easy for me to talk about this.
Because SO MANY GUYS do this stuff, it’s become almost impossible to explain.
It’s like trying to tell a fish it that it will never succeed if it stays wet: the fish doesn’t even know it’s wet in the first place!But this is too important to ignore.
Do me a favour: go and spend a day observing couples.
Go to places where couples that have just met spend time together… bars, parks, coffee shops, whatever.
Now watch what the GUYS do.
Watch how they lean in towards the women… watch how they raise their eyebrows in over the top, exaggerated response to women’s comments… watch how they slump, let their shoulders fall forward, and smile shyly at whatever the women say.
If you’re close enough, you could even listen to the way men ask questions and make comments with an irritating voice tone that mumbles “I’m really insecure and I’m trying to be extra nice to you compensate for it, so that you’ll like me”.
You really will see it EVERYWHERE.
In fact, you will see it SO MUCH that you’ll probably write to me and tell me I’M the one who’s crazy, that since it happens all the time, it MUST be right.
Well, it’s just not.
If there’s one thing that will set off an attractive woman’s wussy radar, it’s a man’s posture, gestures, voice tone, eye contact, etc.
It all happens in a flash… women read this stuff and interpret it as quickly and accurately as you read the cover of Playboy magazine.
There’s just no analysis necessary..
I’d say that probably 90% of all men in the world INSTANTLY disqualify themselves with girls because of this very problem.
Their beta voice tone, low-status gestures, crappy posture, etc. all telegraph directly the message that they are a WUSS.
They do a thousand weird little things which let a woman know that they’re uncomfortable and have no self-esteem.
And you guessed it…
Single women HATE IT!
5) Not Understanding The Simple Fact That She’s A Woman, And You’re A Man
I’m about to get philosophical on you right here, so try to stay with it.
What it comes down to is that most men just don’t understand women.
But the REAL kicker, and something you may not have realised, is that most men don’t understand MEN, either!
Most guys honestly don’t know how to get in touch with their instinctive MALE nature.
Put these two together, and you get a guy who behaves in ways that do not trigger attraction in women.
Women have a “nature”. A female nature. You know this.
Men also have a “nature”. You guessed it, it’s a MALE nature.
Women are often coy. They like to play hard to get, they like to enjoy the chase, they love anticipation. They love to “let a guy catch them”.
Men are competitive. Men are dominant, they like to play rough games, rule their territory and win things.
Well guess what?
Most men just don’t ACT like men when they’re in the presence of a woman they “like”.
And because most men just don’t understand female nature, they don’t demonstrate either that they “get it” when they’re with women that they like romantically.
Women like real men. Men like real women. There are POWERFUL effects at work here.
When you’re around a woman you like, the simple trick is to not act like a GIRLY MAN. It’s not sexy, and it’s not attractive…
And yes, attractive single women HATE IT!
6) Not Being Interesting To Hang Around With Underneath most behavior that I see displayed by most men is a “core belief” that you may recognise:
“I don’t believe that an attractive, in-demand woman would want to hang around with me just because she enjoys my presence… so I need to make up for it by saying and doing things that I hope will entertain her… and if she enjoys those things enough, perhaps she will want to spend more time with me.”
Sounds a little bit girly, doesn’t it?
Well guess what? Most attractive women KNOW that if a guy isn’t fundamentally interesting to be around, she’s eventually going to get tired of being with him.
In other words, gifts, dinners, compliments and other “displays” will never compensate for a lack of being genuinely INTERESTING.
Here’s a profound thought I had:
I and many guys I know have women who call us often… for the simple reason that they enjoy being around us.
These women would be content just to be in the same room as us and spend time enjoying our company.
And yes, these women call US. Often.
Material gifts, flowers, dinners, and other “displays” have absolutely no lasting value to a woman when it comes to how she feels about you deep down.
An attractive woman wants a man who is fun to be around, warm and charismatic. She wants to be made to feel good by being around him.
She wants to be made to laugh… she wants a challenge… she wants sexual tension…
If you’re using compliments, gifts, dinners etc. to get a woman’s attention, you need to ask yourself a very difficult question:
Is it because, deep down, you just don’t believe that a woman would want to hang around with you just for you?
For if you don’t know how to be genuinely interesting to a woman, I’m afraid no amount of compensation on your part is going to fix that problem.
If you’re boring, uninteresting, predictable… then unfortunately, you’re never going to have women calling YOU to hang out.
Oh, and another thing… women HATE IT.
7) Not Understanding Attraction
This is a big one.
I’m sure you hear me talking about it all the time.
Maybe now that you’ve read this newsletter, you’ll have a better frame in which to understand what I’m going to tell you:
If you “get it” with women, it’s amazingly INTERESTING and ATTRACTIVE to them.
Women can just FEEL IT straight away when they’re with a guy who “gets it”.
Women discover very quickly when they’re talking to a guy who understands about how men and women work, and who enjoys creating, maintaining and building sexual tension.
Women know if a guy speaks the LANGUAGE of “sexual communication”.
If he doesn’t, she’s simply going to cut off all communication on that level.
If he does, then it continues.
Remember: Attraction Isn’t A Choice.
Attraction is a physical and emotional response that people have… and you can’t “convince” a woman to feel it with logic, gifts, and BEING NICE.
Attraction is the instinctive consequence of a woman meeting a man who understands how attraction works… and who knows what to do in each situation to PROGRESS to the next level of attraction.
The problem with ATTRACTION, and with success with women in general, is that the things you need to DO to be successful are NOT OBVIOUS.
In many cases, even most cases, they’re “counter intuitive”.
You have to do things like create tension, perhaps stop doing something that she likes, or give her time to miss you… etc.
And if you don’t understand ATTRACTION, a woman is going to know it.
And guess what?
Single, attractive, in-demand women HATE IT.They hate it when a man doesn’t understand attraction and how to communicate on this “sexual communication” level.
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Right now you’re probably feeling that “Ah Ha!” feeling.
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