Let’s get a little more concrete here and talk about sexy stereotyping as it relates to your style of dress. Of course there are MANY ways to convey sexiness and tap into positive stereotyping, but how you dress is the easiest one! Why? Because you can take your time and plan it out. Then once you get it figured out you don’t have to work on it again until it’s time to update your style.
Body language and voice tone are much harder to improve; you have to think about them all the time for MONTHS until they become habit.
Let me give you a step by step approach to turning on the power of sexy stereotyping.
1. Stop worrying about what your AFC friends think. Pay less attention to them and more attention to how women perceive you.
2. Take an active interest in style and fashion. As kids, we were all taught that if you’re into fashion, that means you’re a fag. Then our moms would order our clothes from the JC Penny’s catalog and sure enough, a dork is born. Now that you’re a grown man, you can be secure enough to take an interest in fashion and not feel like it makes you less masculine. One of the best places to do research on the topic is myspace.com. There are thousands of people on there who have cutting edge fashion knowledge, and they congregate in the “groups—>fashion” area of the myspace website. These are people who sit home all day getting all dressed up just to take pictures for myspace!
3. Start to identify sexy stereotypes when you see them. If girls are flocking to a guy or group of guys, have a look at how they’re presenting their identity. Pay attention to how they’re expressing their identity through their clothing.
I’m always looking for this, and I think I’ve recently discovered a new sexy stereotype. I saw these guys in a club a few weeks back with bad blazers and short hair in a pony tail. These guys were lanky and had big weird noses, but they were walking around like they owned the place. Girls were digging them. I realized what it was- the European vibe. I dubbed this look “Euro-douche” and filed it away for future use. Watch out for the Euro-douche look!
4. Choose a sexy stereotype that feels natural to you.
5. Find a person who has mastered the style and has a similar body type to yours.
6. Model your style after that person’s look. You must model yourself after the best in order to get similar results. I know your social conditioning is telling you’re that you’re a unique snowflake and you should never copy anything. I’m telling you from experience that modeling is the fastest shortcut to sexy stereotyping. There’s no need to reinvent the wheel. Don’t make things harder than they need to be. Do it the easy way. Modeling a person who already has it figured out will give you a huge head start. You can customize the look later when you have your developed your fashion sense a bit more.
7. Test it out. Don’t spend $1000 on 7 new outfits all at once. Try on a new stereotype and see what reactions you get. I’m talking about reactions from attractive women, not reactions from your Trekkie looking friends. If you’re getting good reactions from hot chicks, you know you’re onto something. If not, try something else.
8. Expand and refine. Enjoy the success. Watch how much easier it is to attract women when they categorize you as a sexy guy. You’ll find you have less trouble with CBs, fewer blowouts, less LMR, and less flaking.
I work with guys on their style all the time and here are a few guidelines-
Don’t worry about blending in
If you seem like a normal average guy, you’ll often get the normal average result. Most attractive women reject normal guys all the time. This is their default response. Rejecting normal guys becomes a habit.
Normal guys who approach these women are usually needy AFCs. After years of being approached by normal looking guys who are needy, there is a correlation formed in the woman’s subconscious: Normal=Needy. I know it’s not fair, but we must deal with the world the way it really is, not the way we wish it would be. If you’re always worried about “blending in” and “looking normal,” all of the negative stereotypes from needy AFCs will get transferred on to you! YIKES!
REMEMBER: There is massive social pressure on all of us to “blend in.” If you bend to social pressure all the time, you can’t expect to achieve greatness in this area or in life in general.
Are there girls out there who like “normal looking” guys? Yes, of course. But, these girls usually like sexy guys too. They tend to put normal looking guys in the “husband/provider” category, and sexy looking guys into the “seducer” category. Which category would you rather be in?
Don’t be too confusing
Some guys try to mix looks that just don’t go well together. I see it all the time. They’re trying to express the complex individualism that defines their existence.
But- it’s not that deep.
And- girls just don’t care.
You have to make a strong statement so they GET IT right away. Girls stereotype you in the FIRST 2 SECONDS! They’re not going to take the time to process how your glowing necklace reflects off your khakis. Don’t confuse their sense of stereotyping. If they don’t understand what you’re going for right away, you’re going to be right back to digging yourself out of a hole. And who wants that?
How far should you take it?
This is an interesting question. Should you just add a few elements of a sexy stereotype, or should you go all out? The short answer to this is that it’s all relative to your location. If you live in NYC or LA, and you want to do the “Male Model” look, you’d better go all out or it’s not going to work. If you’re in rural Montana, a little goes a long way. As long as you dress like a model more than any other guy she’s seen this month, you probably will get a pretty warm response to your approach.
I’ve traveled all over the world meeting women, and I go all out with sexy stereotyping. “Going all out” will work everywhere, but it is not completely necessary in suburban and rural areas.
I’d advise you to overshoot your goal rather than undershoot it. Think big. If you’re going to do this, go all out! In the beginning you may feel weird. Feeling weird is a sign that you are FORCING your personality to grow. Get yourself a BIG BOLD style and let your reality grow into it. If you feel like you may have gone too far, but you’re getting good reactions from women, that means you’re doing something right. Give your personality some time to grow into your new look. Don’t panic and revert back to a being a scared, pussy-ass dude who looks just like everyone else.
You’d be amazed at the results you can get when girls perceive you as sexy instead of average. It changes the tone of the entire interaction. It changes the balance of power. It makes THEM chase YOU.
My students are sometimes amazed when I get make outs in 30 seconds, or end up dragging some girl off to the bathroom in 10 minutes. They ask how I do it and sexy stereotyping is a big part of why I succeed in 10 minutes while other guys take 10 hours or even 10 days to get in a chick’s pants.
Some have asked me why I’d just give away my secrets like this. What if every guy taps into the power of sexy stereotyping, then I wouldn’t be so successful anymore. The fact of the matter is that VERY FEW of the people reading this right now will have the balls to develop into a sexy guy. Are you one of the few guys who can make it happen, or will you file this away as just another piece of entertainment from the Internet?
Can you leave your comfort zone? Do you have the courage to stand up to social pressure? That is my challenge to you.
If you can take my ideas and turn them into real world results, then you deserve every bit of success you get! There’s plenty of pussy to go around, and I applaud everyone out there whose making it happen.
