I always tell guys to focus on having fun and being social when they’re out to meet women, rather than focussing too hard on ‘picking up’ - you don’t want to come across as the next cheesy, sexually needy guy.
A great way to do this is to show a little disinterest, but it’s an idea guys often get confused with. When I talk about showing disinterest, I’m assuming that you already come across as a MAN - that there’s already a sexual vibe between you. How are you going to show disinterest, and why’s she going to care unless there’s already some tension built up between you?
Let’s say I’m talking to three girls in a bar, and we have a good energy going. Then I’ll turn to the hot one directly, move a bit closer to her, and shoot her a quick triangular gaze - hard eye contact down to her lips, look back up, playful smile, and then back away from her and turn towards her friends.
Girls go insane over this. You can even shoot he a quick playful nod like “it’s not gonna happen”, and engage her friends a bit. At this point the hot girl KNOWS there’s something there, so she’ll start to try and cut in to get your attention.
The more she does this, the more she pulls typical “I can get what I want” hot-girl stuff, the more you can gently push her away: “Hey, wait your turn! How do you girls hang out with this chick?” and then give her another very sexual but playful look and back off again. Hell, touch her on the shoulder, raise your eyebrows, and back off.
This is normally the point where she’ll throw herself at you, and then you can game her directly, because she’s chosen you. It’s good to ignore the target at first, but you’ve also got to pull the trigger when the time is right. Wait until she does or say something ‘impressive’ and then reward her for it with your full attention.
Trying to show disinterest before there’s a sexual vibe is like trying to start a fire without fuel. The point is not that you’re not interested, it’s that you’re a bit curious, but it’s you who’s in control, not her. You don’t care if that girl in accounts like you or not until you’ve gotten the idea in your head that she might - at that point, the not knowing can kill you and create attraction in its own right.
