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Picking Up 9s and 10s

Author: Editor Category: Attraction Tags: Attraction

Friday
Jul 4, 2008

Most guys believe that 9s and 10s are super hard to get and that for them you need to have ultra-strong game. This is not true. While the game you play on those women is different, it’s not inherently easier or harder.

It’s the same effort and it takes the same amount of time, but the style of game is very different. In some ways gaming 7s can be harder than 9.5s.

Let me explain.

7s and 8s want a nice guy who is kind of strong, who they can rely on (insecurity problem). But at the same time, they want some kind of emotional connection.

So, your game needs to be calibrated really strongly for those women. You will need to calibrate how dominant you are to get good attraction, and how much rapport you need to pull them into bed. Every woman is going to be different, and there are so many factors that control this ratio; the formula is complicated.

Here are a few factors:

Parents (who was more dominant in house)
– they always search for a father role in a future boyfriend.
First sexual experience \ First boyfriend – for example, if a guy was cheating on her she will search for lots of rapport and trust in future guys, and less attraction.
Last boyfriend – if the guy was bad at sex, she will go for guys who are more dominant and sexual.
Her friends – her friends have a lot of influence on her, and she will mirror their value.

Because of all of these factors, it’s not possible to tell how much attraction or rapport a woman may need before you start talking to her. It’s almost impossible to create a perfect model that’s going to work in every case. That’s why those 7s and 8s require so much calibration.

The rule of thumb is that those women need way more rapport than attraction.

With very beautiful and sexy women (9s and 10s), it’s a very different story.

First, let’s take a look what’s happening in a hot woman’s life:

- Parents know how beautiful she is, and they treat her that way her whole life.
- In high school she was a princess, with guys starting to hit on her left and right. She learned early on that all guys want to have sex with her.
- Every time she goes out, guys are kissing up to her and doing everything she wants, as they think that’s the way to get into her pants.
- All guys are extremely insecure around her, and treat her super nicely.
- She easily finds rich boyfriends (sponsor) who buy her everything. They’re fun for a while, until she dumps them.
- When she asks for something, she gets it!

Now you can see the problem. Everyone wants to create rapport with her, and is super nice. So, to be different and to create attraction, you need to break every possible rapport with her. You don’t want to connect with her at all. You need to be different than everyone else. You need to show her that you are not affected by her beauty at all, and that you don’t think she is special. You need to be total selfish bastard. This is the part of the game I love to play.

With those women, there is no rapport at all. She needs to create rapport with you. The first sign that you like her and want to connect with her may be a turn off for her. She knows that she can get everything she wants, and when she starts getting it, she gets bored. So, don’t give her what she wants.

10: Can you hand me that glass?
Me: You have arms and legs.

10 (SMS): I’m helping my friend, he has a problem with a girlfriend, she takes drugs, blah, blah… He needs my help.
Me (SMS): Have sex with him.

10: I think I want to live somewhere else, maybe New York. Or, I dunno… Africa, maybe.
Me: Yeah, go to the jungle; that’s best for you.

10: I like X.
Me: I hate X.

It’s interesting, she will stay around you as long as you do this. I personally feel very stupid being around those women, but as for playing this game, I love it.

Be very careful when they express interest in you.

From time to time they will throw something very personal at you, like a compliment. In reality, this is only a test on the unconscious level. For example: “You are so special. I love to be around you. No one makes me feel so sexy. I like you, and I can’t stop thinking about you.”

Something like this will happen after you become very strong in her life, and you may be tempted to think the game is over. You think she is yours. I’ve made this mistake so many times. You may even reply with something like “I like you too. I’m thinking about you as well.” If you do this, it’s game over. You’ve lost her. You showed affection and now you’re just like all other guys.

This is super-sensitive game with them. You can make only one mistake.

It’s best if you just keep it rolling, and stay congruent with your original image. It’s very hard, but you must be totally non-emotional with them.

The attitude to have is “she’s just a little kid that peed in her panties, and is crying for attention.”

An opener I love to use on these women is “are you a man or a woman” with a totally straight face.

Let the woman qualify herself.

10s are not that hard at all when you are around them alone. The only problem with 10s is that you can’t find them in your regular life, and there are not enough of them even at the best nightclubs.


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