From here, it’d be counter-productive to revert to some random DHV story about camping and finding bear shit – as it’s neither personal nor sexual. Instead, you can still establish value, but do so in a personal way, such as “Yeah, it was really hard for me to move back from Europe to the U.S. as a lot of my best friends are still there and blah blah blah”.
Project Sexual State
I don’t want to go too much into this here, but basically the idea is to look her in the eyes and think about her giving you head while you talk to her. Feel your own horniness and imagine bending her over or getting head from her as she speaks. Don’t feel like you need to apologize for being a man – rather, embrace your masculine feelings and let her feel them as well. This has been written about masterfully by others so I’ll avoid going into it further.
Progressively Escalate Kino
This isn’t a linear process. Just realize that obviously rubbing a girl’s ass is more escalated than touching her shoulder. You should kino off the break and keep it escalated. Lots of arm around her, touching her stomach, slapping her ass (if you know how), kissing her neck, etc. Oh, and don’t become the tacky club make-out guy.
Also, leading is key. Lead her from one end of the club to the bar, to the dance floor, to the bar, to the door, etc. And make sure to introduce her to all the social proof you created at the beginning of the night.
Protect Your Buying Temperature
This is absolutely crucial! Not only must you protect your pull from other guys, you also have to watch out for her friends that will pretty quickly catch on and put an end to things if you’re not careful.
So with regards to the friends, never ever let them think you’re leaving to bang the girl – I can’t tell you how many pulls I’ve had sabotaged by the less attractive friends. Obviously you should try to charm the friends and get them on your side. Statement of interests to the friends can be really useful here, along the lines of “I really like your friend, I don’t know why, but I feel like we’re really on the same page with a lot of things”. Also, don’t leave her alone with her friends unless you’re sure you’ve got them on your side.
With regards to other guys, recognize that BUYING TEMP IS TRANSFERABLE! The fact that she was making out with you 5 mins ago means she’s super horny and ultra-receptive to the next guy who comes along. If you must leave her side, either get a wing to keep her occupied, or get her friends to watch her. If you do leave and return to see her with another guy you have a few options.
1) Blow him out (least favorable).
2) Get your wing to engage the guy and scoop her back. (ok)
3) Tell her friends what’s going on and get them to pull her back for you. A simple “Hey I really like your friend, can you help me out by getting her away from this guy?” is really powerful here as you now have the friends HELPING you pick up her friend – so they can hardly object later on.
Pulling to Semi-Private Location
The pull is probably the easiest piece of the puzzle. If you’ve escalated your kino and dialogue properly it’s only a natural extension of the interaction. Especially if you hit the top piece of the verbal escalation scale, in which there’s literally nothing left to say. If her friends aren’t around your job is much easier. I’ve had success being both direct and indirect here, though I prefer the latter. So once I feel like she’s ready, I’ll casually say “Hey, come with me outside to smoke a cigarette” or “Hey, I want to grab my cigarettes from the car but I’ve got really poor night vision, can you walk me?” or “Hey come outside with me” or “Hey, walk me to the bathroom” – you get the point. After you say it, just take her hand and begin walking. Don’t look back – just go.
The moment you have an available semi-isolated location (doorway, hallway, bathroom, alley, etc.) roughly plant her against the wall and begin making out, hard. Do this for maybe half a minute or more (depending on the girl) then turn her around and begin grinding on her ass while you kiss her neck. You start fingering her over her pants, or proceed how ever else you see fit. The key here is dominance. Also, don’t be shy about putting her hand on your cock.
And finally if the girl is with her friends, brief her girl on how things need to go down for the pull to happen. For example:
Ryan: Listen, tell your friends we’re hungry and we’re going to get some food and we’ll be back in a half hour before the club closes.
Or
Ryan: Listen, tell your friends you’re walking with me me to ____ and we’ll be right back.
