Guys get all sorts of funny ideas in to their heads about how to treat women, and these ideas often stop them getting the success they deserve. It’s usually a combination of bad films, and poor role-models, but what’s important is realising that these ideas are wrong! Here’s five myths you might believe that are stopping you from having the success you deserve.
Second Myth: A women who’s ‘better’ than you will never like you
There’s a small kernel of truth in this one, but probably not in the way you think. If you see an attractive lady, and decide that She Alone is The One True Woman, a princess among other women, and you must workship her, then you’re shafting yourself before you’ve even begun. If you’ve read my book, you’ll know there’s nothing wrong with seeing a girl as a princess - as long as you’re seeing yourself as a prince!
So what’s the lesson here? There’s no objective ‘better’ or ‘worse’, only perceived ‘better’ or ‘worse’. Women don’t tend to be attracted to men who are ‘worse’ than them, but most people decide who’s ‘better’ or ‘worse’ by what that person themselves thinks!
When talking to a woman, there’s an underlying ‘frame’ that determines your value in relation to hers. If you get intimidated, or you let her make you feel that you have a lower value than her, you’re setting a frame that she’s the prize, and not you!
If you find yourself freaking out about some part of a woman being ‘better’ than you, or you feel ugly compared to her, realise that there’s a bigger picture. When you first meet an attractive you create an idea in your head of who she is, based on a few small things … and this normally ends up being totally off the mark!
Here’s a trick from my book: control your perceptions of her. If you’re startled by how hot she is, picture how she looks when she’s just woken up, without her makeup on (preferably with you with her!). If she seems much more sophisticated than you, and you get tongue tied, realise that she’s quite possibly just trying to impress you … etc etc
