I’ve tried to write this a few times before but have had trouble getting it into words, let’s see how it goes.
So, as beginners when we think about building attraction through verbal game, the first thing that comes to mind is power lines, negs, or magic pills/bullets/routines. We all have them, use them, and love them. From Mystery’s “OMG, we’d never get along, we’re too similar” to Swingcat’s pro-active prizing to Tyler’s “Ok we’re broken up…no wait, we’re back together”. Now, there’s a very right way to deliver these, and a very wrong way. Lets start with a good delivery…
HB: Blah blah, i like Paris.
PUA: OMG, I like Paris too, we’d never get along, we’re too similar.
HB & PUA: hahahah
HB: haha you don’t get along with people similar?
PUA: blah blah
OK, seems to be good right? Sure - looks to be a smooth delivery, she kept the conversation going, invested, etc. And certainly you can run sets this way, and over time you may build solid attraction. But a few adjustments in timing and with the same line you can build massive attraction very very quickly. Let’s look at a horrible delivery.
HB: Blah blah, I like Paris.
PUA: OMG, I like Paris too, we’d never get along, we’re too similar.
HB & PUA: hahahahha
HB & PUA: ha ha ha
HB & PUA: ha
HB: So you don’t get along with people similar?
Ok, subtle difference, but in this instance the PUA is REACTION SEEKING, waiting for the line to sink in to maximize effect - little does he know the longer he lets her reflect on what he’s said, the quicker it loses effect. Lets look at a great delivery-
HB: blah blah, I like Paris
PUA: OMG, I like Paris too, we’d never get along, we’re too similar
HB: hahaha-
PUA: So tell me Sarah, when is the last time you did something really spontaneous and crazy?
In this case, the PUA doesn’t even give her a chance to process the line, he cuts her laughter short and immediately slams her into a different gear - she’s going from recieving humor to accessing and assessing memories, and judging which will be most impressive to the PUA. It’s this slamming through different gears that can create MAJOR attraction FAST.
If you’ve read any of my recent FR’s or LR’s (I’ll start posting more too), you’ll see that they all look like…
GG: So when’s the last time you were in Barcelona
HB: blah blah blah
GG: That’s cool, so one day i was walking and blank happened, ever seen blank?
HB: blah blah blah
The reason I leave the HB response as “blah blah blah” is not that I don’t remember, it’s that IT DOES NOT MATTER. Sure, later on I’ll be interested in getting to know her as a person, but in the first few minutes the only thing on my mind is to build attraction. And when building attraction the HB is pretty much IRRELEVANT. What does this mean? Well, it means you don’t need her to build attraction, in fact, I’m willing to bet a deaf person could build serious verbal attraction just as well as anyone else. Let’s look at a common pitfall people make when talking to a bouncy/talkative girl.
PUA: So, when’s the last time you were in Barcelona?
HB: Omg, I was there in July, i loved it!
PUA: Oh really? Me too, i was there in August, how cool was _____
HB: Yeah totally, omg and my friend was with me and she bla bla bla
PUA: uhuh…
HB: and then we bla bla blal blalbalblbalbalbalbalbalbalbalbalablbalbalbllbalbalbalba
PUA: Really?
HB: And then john did bla bla bla, and omg it was sooooo funny! and bla bla bla
PUA: haha, cool!
Again, looks like a good conversation - but it’s not going to build serious intense attraction. Not the type that will allow you as a PUA to say “hey, shut up, come here…*kiss*” See, common sense tells us “ok great, she’s telling me all these experiences she’s had, shes investing in the conversation, she’s getting excited about things, it’s going great”- but as we know, common sense can go to hell. Let’s see how that could have been done better:
PUA: So, when’s the last time you were in Barcelona?
HB: OMG, I was there in July, I loved it!
PUA: Oh cool, so then you know how at _____ there’s a big _____, right?
HB: I didnt go there, but omg my friend was with me and she bla bla bla
PUA: HOLD ON! Are you actually wearing green socks?!?!??!
HB: haha, ummmm.
PUA:
HB: hahahahahah nooooo! bla bla i got these socks from bla bla.
PUA:
HB: HAHAH NOOOO, I never said that!!!! I was saying…
PUA:
See the difference? As soon as she got comfortable in one gear the PUA slams into a totally different gear, engages different parts of her brain, and generally keeps her thoughts pretty scrambled. Now, the tough thing here is to not get too pleased with yourself and to remember to continue no matter how pleased with yourself you are. The natural ‘out’ from this sequence is the qualifier or BIG compliance test. So it looks like
line —–> subject change to better line—–> subject change to even better line—–> subject change to qualifier. In this case it starts with socks/chess-team, changes to dancing on bar, and finally qualifies via adventurousness. Thus- crazy attraction generated very very quickly.
One last example just to drive the point home (the PUA illustrated in this example is an RSD instructor running a 2set with me) - a great example of thought-scrambling to build attraction, ending with a final BIG compliance test from me - kissing her neck and making out.
HB: Bla bla bla, we’re here for a conference.
GG: Oh man, so you guys are like industry girls, maaann, just when I was thinking you guys were cool…
HB: Haha bla
PUA: So, you guys are from out of town, where are you staying? (note, the assertion of ‘out of town’, not asking it as a question)
HB: We’re staying at _____ hotel.
PUA: Yeah thats a solid hotel, i stayed there once, the great thing about it is room service will do anything you ask, you can call down at like 3am and ask for a newspaper, a lobster, a blowjob, a shoe shine.
HB: Hahahah What!??!?!
GG: So what, you all are from Dutcheland? Esprecken ze Doitche?
HB: ?? Actually, OMG! Our hotel room comes included with condoms and packets of lubrication, ready to go in the refrigerator. (Can someone say horny IOI?)
GG:
Ok so, lets review the ground rules for how to Build Massive Attraction Verbally FAST.
1) SUPER IMPORTANT!!! Any time you say something you think is good - like you know, when that voice in your head goes “man…that was smooth”, or a line you read on the internet - CHANGE THE SUBJECT IMMEDIATELY! DO NOT give her time to process it. Trust me, it’ll bounce around in her head and she’ll try to process it between thoughts, and the longer this bounces around in her head, undigested, the more attraction it will build.
2) NEVER feel like you have to address what she’s said. If she says something that you feel really helps you along towards the lay, by all means feel free to address it, but otherwise feel free to totally ignore it with an “ok cool” or “ok anyway”.
3) Cut her off when she starts yapping. Her talking is not going to get her attracted. And the longer she talks the longer she has to get her thoughts in order. Simply raise the energy level and change the subject - I usually do this by pointing out something about her - “Omg, is your hat actually made of Rabbit Fur??? I had a pet rabbit when I was 8!!! You killed Mr. Wigglesworth!!!”
4) Use a qualifier or compliance test to get yourself out of the loop - for instance in the example above: “You killed Mr. Wigglesworth!!! Ha! And look, you’re eyes got all big! Ohhh boy, what’re we gonna do with you? Are you any good at snowboarding??”
So, let’s look at some other considerations though.
Firstly, this is obviously very high energy and requires quick thinking on your part to keep things flowing. It works best for me in bars/clubs/lounges.
Secondly: It’s NOT for the timid. If you’re thinking this is a very quick way to become a dancing monkey, you’re totally right. You need to be in tune with the IOIs coming at you and have NO FEAR to capitalize. Meaning, when you see her give you ‘the look’, stop what you’re saying MID SENTENCE and say “come here” and kiss her. The slightest indication of timidness or de-escalation can really derail this. The attraction can disappear just as fast as it’s created. If you’re not comfortable going for a makeout with a girl you met 2 minutes ago…GET COMFORTABLE!
Thirdly: This type of dialogue can only be sustained for a few minutes, tops, before she is overwhelmed, so while you can start at any point in the interaction, be advised that once you do you’ve only got a few minutes to massivly escalate or you run the risk of over-gaming.
It’s tough to transition away from Extreme Multiple Threading (EMT) without a large phase shift - ideally a make-out - though a venue change to a sofa can work. Once you have successfully phase shifted, and hopefully made out, you really need to develop not only deep comfort/rapport (obviously, as this attraction is very state-based and as such is prone to flakes without proper rapport building) but also VALUE (unless you established value before launching into EMT).
A lot of considerations perhaps, but perhaps no more than other methods. For me, after i’ve downed a few vodka & redbulls, this type of game feels natural and tends to be the most fun. It’s also great for sets at the end of the night when you know you don’t have 2 hours and need to get a quick extraction to a diner or back to yours.
