Why You Need Attraction Stories
First of all, everyone tells stories all the time. You tell them to your friends and family on a regular basis, and they create rapport and a sense familiarity. However the problem guys have with stories and game is that they tend to drop telling stories when they start out with game and focus on delivering stock routines or negging or being a ‘jerk’ instead.
Another issue is that guys tell stories that are too logical, as that’s the way we usually talk to our friends. Some guys DHV spike their stories in a way that comes across as uncalibrated and needy.
When I started out I didn’t care about the theory of telling stories or creating stock routines, but then I realized that you don’t need stock attraction stories. What you do need though is an understanding of the underlying principles of story-telling in attraction. When you grasp this you can make up stories on the spot, and this skill is invaluable in set.
If I had to explain how to create attraction in one sentence it would be:
Take her on an emotional journey
What’s the easiest way to do this with consistency and with touching on as many different feelings as possible? Yep, you guessed it- by telling stories. What’s more is that when you tell attraction stories, you anchor her attraction with something from your life and something that is truly attractive about you. This is key, and I see a lot of guys miss out on this in set. They find it hard to escalate the interaction because the girl knows nothing about him. You can do all the attraction pieces, gambits, games and routines you want and you will get her attracted, but she will know nothing about you and your life. You are just a shiny object. This is where qualification and comfort comes in, but you can make it a lot easier for yourself if you ground your identity in the attraction phase. This smoothes the transition into qualification and comfort, and gets you laid.
Telling stories will make your interactions less gamey as you will connect better with the girl. Spitting routines isn’t as effective as they don’t reveal as much about you as a person. Telling stories will not only generate attraction, but it will generate attraction for WHO YOU ARE and WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE.
It gives you a chance to show her that you live a lifestyle she can connect with and that you don’t just sit around on your ass getting high and playing Guitar Hero for 12 hours straight.
What You Want To Do
You do not want to be logical when telling stories. Stories are about the emotional journey and logic is a sure story-killer. Facts and details are just not important. Start thinking about how the situation made you feel and what emotions you could convey with the story. Once you develop this pattern of thought you’ll be able to turn any situation into a story with emotional spikes. The concept of the rollercoaster is a good when thinking about storytelling. Your story can’t be stagnant, and you can incorporate negative emotions into your story as well to enhance the emotional journey.
The idea behind DHV spikes are that the girl’s subconscious picks up on your high value without her conscious being aware of it. This means being subtle. You have to hint at your DHV. Saying ‘Look bitch, I’m really rich, smell my money’ is less effective than ‘What I really like about not having to worry that much about money is that it gives me the opportunity to pursue my passions in life’.
DHVing effectively is also about rewriting statements. For example instead of saying the last girl you hooked up with was hot by saying ‘Yeah, she was hot’ you say ‘I just looked at her and thought “Wow… someone got lucky in the gene pool lottery!”‘
Or maybe you want to convey that she is a model. The great way to do this is to relate it to something else like “What’s cool is that I can relate to her job in that sense that she has to be focused in front of all these cameras… and every time you do something like that it makes you grow as a person. I feel that I grow every time I get up on the stage, and I bet she feels the same way when she does her thing”.
May 17th, 2008 at 9:04 am
Great article, can’t wait to learn more from part 2,3,4 …that’s why I’m subscribing to the RSS.