A bad habit has formed in the seduction community – some guys are more concerned with looking cool for their mates than actually getting the girl.
Too many uncalibrated routine stacks. Too much state-pumping. Too much flash, not enough results. Call me old school, but what happened to focusing on and mastering the basics?
I know, I know - the basics aren’t sexy. It looks much cooler to spin a girl around on the dance floor, to get a girl giggling with some kino escalation elevator or whatever it’s called. Your buddies will “ooh” and “ahh” and call you a P-I-M-P with all the flashy stuff. But I’ve found that all this stuff leads to flaky behavior from the women I meet – and what is the point in attracting that? When the flakes start coming, it’s time to reevaluate your game. It’s time to be Larry Bird.
Larry Bird is a basketball legend. Sure he’s tall. But there are a lot of tall players in the NBA. What made Larry Bird great in his time was his commitment to practicing the basics. He would be on the court before and after practice and every game shooting free throws. Sometimes he would sit in the stands and lob the ball in just to practice his accuracy out of his comfort zone. He wasn’t a flashy player. But he was consistent. He didn’t become an all-star player because he was a rock star. He became a rock star because he was a consistently solid player.
When it comes to being great with women, stick to the basics to develop the tightest game possible. Be consistent and the improvements will follow.
So let’s break down the basics.
I call the concepts below the “Big Four.” These are the four basic elements in every solid pick up. Master them to become consistent. In this article we’re going to talk about the first principle.
1) Talk about yourself. That is right I am telling you to talk more about yourself. Like, probably a lot more. My boss, Juggler, would tell you to use specific language and speak from the “I-Perspective.”
People don’t know who you are until you reveal yourself to them.
They don’t know:
what you stand for
what you believe in
what you care about
what makes you happy
and what kind of treatment you expect
…unless you tell them.
So start talking about yourself. Yes, I know that every business professor you’ve ever had has probably told you to reveal as little about yourself as possible while prompting the other person to divulge all their secrets, but that is not the way it works in the social world. Girls call guys that do that sketchy and flake on them.
I don’t know how you feel, but those kinds of things are important to me when I’m meeting someone new. Why? Because I don’t trust them until I can relate to them.
But this can be misleading. It’s not your job to relate to someone, it is their job to relate to you. The point is to share yourself confidently and give her the chance to latch on to something you say/do that she can relate to. Then she will think “He’s like me.” And that is a very good thing.
It’s better if she is asking you big questions. It’s better if she is relating to you because you are sharing so much of yourself.
When guys spend too much time asking questions and then retroactively relating to her the girls get turned off because you are putting her in the drivers seat of the pick up. When you relate to a girl she is leading the interaction. Write that down somewhere.
Now that we’ve covered some verbal stuff lets get physical with concept number two in the next installment of Mastering the Basics.
