I was talking to someone who’s opinion I respect incredibly highly when it comes to the subject of game, and she brought something to my attention that may be slightly overlooked by the community at large. This is the subject of eye fucking. She mentioned that something alot of naturals do which is often overlooked by the beginner practicioners of game is the ability to ‘undress someone with their eyes’
This takes a considerable amount of confidence, and may be the reason a lot of new PUA’s struggle with this at first. If you take any time to notice how some of the more experienced PUA’s handle girls you will see it is something they almost always use. Potentially the one skill all of them use without fail.
Undressing someone with your eyes is a skill that can be broken down into small parts that are easily duplicable, with a little practice. You may want to practice this in front of a mirror initially or even live with a female friend if she’s amicable to the idea. ( i.e. a close friend who knows that you’re seeking to improve your skills with the opposite sex.). As with any of these skills, the following are not solid hard and fast rules to be stuck to rigidly from set to set, rather they are guidelines that can be used to help you learn the skill. The basics are as follows.
1) Hold your head high
Keep your shoulders back as you walk around with your head high. Don’t look down to the floor. This way you’ll actually give yourself time to notice people around you. Take the time to examine all the people that move past you, sit around you, or are generally in your vicinity. Notice their clothes, their shoes, look at their faces, take a point to notice their emotions, try and work out how they’re feeling. All of this will give you things to think about as you look at someone for what will become naturally longer and longer periods of time without feeling uncomfortable. In the same way as when you actually have sex with someone you need to be comfortable with the situation or it just isn’t gonna happen. If you aren’t comfortable looking at someone you won’t be able to hold their gaze.
2) Lock eye contact
This is a big one, the whole object of the previous excersise is to give the other person the time to notice you looking at them. At some point they should notice the intense gazing into their skull and take the time to look up. At this point your eyes will lock. This is now a very key area. You need to be comfortable holding their gaze. Don’t look away, don’t look down take the time to lock the gaze. Their are differing methods that can be used at this point, some people lead by smiling and make sure the interaction becomes very comfortable, others believe in keeping a straight face and allowing the seduction to run its course. Which ever you prefer make sure you don’t give away the look, let them realise you’re looking at them and that you’re comfortable doing it.
3) Double take
This is a key part, once you’re sure that both of you have noticed each other looking at each other and you’ve ’shared a moment’ it’s okay to look away, take the time to look at someone else, or continue looking at whatever task you have at hand. After a small amount of time rebuild the look. You may both naturally begin to look each other up and down, enjoying the experience of staring at each other intimately, while the entire room moves around you. Essentially you’re looking to repeat the situation over and over until both of you are constantly looking for the other one wherever you are. Naturally this technique is more suited to a stationary venue i.e. a bar/club or party. However it could still happen in a moving street set, you’ll just have to make sure you opened quite quickly to avoid losing them into obscurity.
From this point you should have enough comfort that any approach towards the person would no longer be a cold approach but rather it would be an incredibly warm approach. It would almost be rude not to approach after the conection you have shared.
Eye Rape
A word of warning, it is possible to misjudge the concept of undressing someone with your eyes. And instead of simply eye fucking you would step into the realms of eye rape. This is where instead of locking eyes you end up staring at the girl with a cheesy look on your face before slowly rubbing your eyes over every part of her body without her permission. This will almost always go down badly. The easiest way to avoid this is to concentrate on looking into her eyes only, and start by practicing making her smile, simply by leading with a small smile yourself. This way the eye locking and gazing remains almost innocent and resiprical between the two of you. Then as you gain more confidence and congruency through practice you can move onto a more serious gaze.
