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Conversation and Being Creepy

Author: Editor Category: Approaching Tags: psychology

Wednesday
Jun 11, 2008

Jeepers Creepers: “You look like David Bowie.”

Girl: “Who?”

Jeepers Creepers: “What’s your opinion on his pants?”

Girl: “I said I don’t know what a David Bowie is.”

Jeepers Creepers: “I predicted that with my magical Pyramid Cube game.”

Girl: “Cube as in Rubik Cube, the one with all of the squares and colors?”

Jeepers Creepers: “Guess a number between 1 and 4 and I’ll tell you.”

Girl: “10. As in seconds for you to get out of here.”

Jeepers Creepers: “…” (Holy fuck. My routine book doesn’t say anything about a routine for when I run out of routines.)

State of Mind

This is important.

The very reason why one guy says something and succeeds, and another guy says the exact same thing and fails. State of mind. What is it?

It is the type of energy that you’re exuding onto others. I’m not one for mirroring, as it has been found to make the second party feel uneasy. For that, I have something better. I’ve been doing it my entire life, and it’s probably the single most useful trait that I have.

What psychologists have come to find, is that when interacting with one another, people tend to find a middle ground in their behaviors. Example? Let’s say that you’re loud, and the other person is quiet. What you’ll find when the two of you are interacting, is that you’ll lower your voice, and they’ll speak up until the two of you meet somewhere in the middle.

But what happens when you have a dominating personality in general, whether it’s good or bad? I’ll tell you what happens. When interacting with people, they’ll come up to your level.

Evidence of what I mean? Have you ever seen someone walk into a room, usually the charismatic partier, and all of a sudden, everyone else lights up because of his or her presence? Or what about the downer guy, like your typical boss figure, that comes around and all of a sudden, everyone is depressed?

Ever watch a martial arts movie, and all of a sudden you want to kick ass? Or what about when a woman watches a love film, and she starts to feel all lovey-dovey? What this is, is the transfer of dominant energy.

The characters in those films aren’t going to change no matter what, so in essence, their energy is dominant. The viewer brings him or herself to the other parties’ emotional state of mind.

How does this relate to conversation? If you go into conversation with anyone, and you hold your energy level to wherever you want it to be, the people around you will have no choice but to come to your level. Use it to your advantage.

If I’m happy, like I am most of the time, people want to be around me because I make them feel happy. If I’m really excited about something, then the people around me become excited. If I’m sexual, then the girl has no choice but to become sexual, resulting in sex. And if you’re like Jeepers Creepers:

Jeepers Creepers: “Assanova, watch me transfer my energy by leering at her…”

Girl: “Uhhh, get away from me. You’re creepy.”

…and the girl feels crept out.

If you have a dominating state of mind, why do women come to your level? Because you’re not meeting her at her emotional level, or anywhere in between- you’re holding your position. She will naturally come meet you until there is equilibrium in your states of mind.

My point is that you need to choose a pleasurable emotional state when talking, and stick to it, no matter what. Transfer your energy to her, and don’t let anyone transfer his or hers to you. You do this, and you control her emotional state, as well as those around you.

Even Jeepers Creepers sticks to his emotional state. And this is why so many women are crept out by him. Like him or not, he has a dominant emotional state that he transfers to
those around him.


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Comments

PUAM

June 11th, 2008 at 6:42 am

Even with the right state of mind, some of the crazy routines you see floating around will not get the positive response a guy is looking for. Also touches on over gaming.

Radman

March 15th, 2009 at 7:01 am

This advice is really going to help, thanks.


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