Approaching
Monday
Jun 2, 2008
Eye Contact
There are two ways to approach a woman. You can approach her with eye contact, or you can approach her blind. Eye contact? It’s very simple. You don’t go walking around looking for it. If she likes you, she’ll make sure that you see her looking at you.
If she’s giving you eye contact, then go for it. Immediately. Don’t bullshit around with your boys. Don’t
wait for the perfect moment, because it just isn’t going to happen. She wants you to talk to her, and she wants you to talk to her now. And if you don’t, some other guy will.
When going in with eye contact, there is no need to be too assertive or too loud. You can use your normal tone of voice.
Now what if you aren’t getting any eye contact, and you have to fly blind? Never thought you’d ask. The only difference between going in with eye contact, and going in blind, is your tone of voice.
When you go in blind, you have to be assertive, speak loudly, and hold your ground until she responds. When I say ‘assertive’, this doesn’t mean getting in her face, but getting close enough to where she knows that you’re talking to her.
As many of you know, in quite a few instances, I have cut right through guys, and then opened the girl. There was no way for them to mistake me for talking to anyone else.
When I say ‘speak loudly’, I simply mean speaking loud enough so that she hears you. Oftentimes, men will approach women, mumble or speak softly, and then wonder why she rejected or ignored him. This is because they didn’t speak loud enough.
If you’re not getting a response from a girl, chances are that you either aren’t being assertive enough, or you’re speaking too softly.
Holding your ground. What does this mean? She ignores you for a brief moment or she looks at you without saying a word. This is the part where you hold eye contact, don’t budge, and introduce yourself.
When following the above, I have NEVER had a woman not acknowledge my existence.
Opening
Now that you have her attention, what do you follow up with? A complicated routine or test? No…
Assanova: “Hey.”
Or…
Assanova: “How are you?”
Or…
Assanova: “I’m Assanova, and you are?”
As you can see, I am simple in my approach. The number one complaint among women about men who approach them? Cheesy openers, so I avoid them at all costs.
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