Grow Your Game

I’ve been teaching men how to become more successful with dating women for a several years now… and one major issue just keeps popping up OVER AND OVER AGAIN…

…and it’s really astounds me!

I’m going to name it “The Genius Failure Paradox”.

“The Genius Failure Paradox” is the tendency for abnormally intelligent men to have astonishingly little success with women and dating.

After contemplating this paradox, discussing it and working on it for a breathtaking amount of time, I’d finally like to share my thoughts with you.

If you’ve read this far, I’m assuming you probably see yourself as a little bit smarter than the average man.

You KNOW you’re a little different from other men.

In fact, you probably realized at a young age that you saw everything differently from other kids.

And you’ve probably realized at some point, that your smart mind gives you an advantage over others in many aspects of your life… as such, you’ve probably become used to BEING RIGHT.

Smart people get into the habit of being “right”, simply because they usually ARE right.

And unsurprisingly, when you’re RIGHT more often than others, you can actually get ahead in many situations.

But unfortunately this sharp mind of yours is probably worse than useless when it comes to a crucial area of life, one that most men will never get right:

WOMEN AND DATING.

Just out of interest, I did say WORSE than useless.

It’s actually like having a hammer, but you need to tighten a screw. If you use the tool you have for that particular job, you’ll just make the situation WORSE.

It’s hard for a smart guy to imagine a situation where his smart mind could DAMAGE his chances for success.

But trust me: this IS such a situation.

So open up your smart mind, and let me share with you the ten reasons why smart guys fail with women… and what you can do about it.
REASON #1: THEY’RE WRONG, BUT THEY CAN’T OR WON’T SEE AND ADMIT IT

I mentioned that smart guys are used to being RIGHT most of the time.

And most smart guys, when they come across a situation where they’re WRONG, just find a new situation… one that fits their strength.

They know they won’t be wrong next time, so they just walk away, assuming that it won’t be long before they find they’re right again.

(OR, they just let the “problem situation” destroy them… but more on that later.)

Well, the pain in the ass about being WRONG when it comes to women and dating is THERE’S NOWHERE TO HIDE.

There’s no quick fix or “I’m right” situation around the next corner that’s gonna make you feel better.

It only takes being “wrong” with a few women in a row, for a smart man to see the pattern… and realize that something JUST ISN’T WORKING.

The solution? Think harder.

A smart guy just assumes that his logic MUST be “right”… so he just keeps on thinking harder and harder about it.

But success doesn’t happen, it really starts to become a burden.

Accepting that you’re just wrong is an extremely difficult thing for a “smart guy”.

Accepting that not only are you wrong, but you have NO CLUE WHERE TO START in order to be RIGHT, is even more tricky.

As such, many extremely smart guys come up with the following LOGICAL conclusion, which they assume must be right:

I AM A SMART GUY, SO IF I CAN’T FIGURE OUT HOW TO HAVE SUCCESS WITH WOMEN, THEN THE PROBLEM MUST EITHER BE UNSOLVABLE OR NOT WORTH SOLVING.

Can you say “Self-defeating idea”?
REASON #2: THEY’RE ARROGANT AND BLIND

In short, many smart guys refuse to accept that a genuine, solid, workable answer could come from someone “less intelligent” than them, so they discount any such idea before trying it.

Let me ask you this:

If you were going to be walking across Africa, through the desert, would you rather have your guide be the guy on this planet with the highest I.Q., or an early caveman who lived a million years ago, who had an I.Q. of about 10, but who grew up being chased by lions and foraging for food?

It’s a very interesting question.

Now, I hope you’d like to have the guide who isn’t the smartest guy around… but who has escaped from many dangerous situations with deadly animals and fended for themselves in the wild…

If you’d like to learn how to be more successful with women, would you take dating advice from a world-renowned professor of nuclear physics, or a guy who perhaps isn’t very intelligent, but who knows how to attract women?

There’s something about being smart that makes some men unwilling to accept ideas or instruction from anyone who isn’t either as smart or smarter than them.

Well, surely any SMART GUY could see the lunacy in this particular approach… once it’s examined closely.

If you’ve been making this particular mistake, then you need to stop it soon. Swallow your pride, deflate your ego. Stop being arrogant, and open your eyes.

Look around.

Take lessons from a few “dumb” guys… and they will teach you how to get what you REALLY want.
REASON #3: LACKING SOCIAL SKILLS

It really amazes me just how many “smart” guys there are who just don’t understand basic social skills.

It’s as if they have logically decided that social skills are made for lower beings that need to always be playing games with each other… and that it’s not worth the time it would take learning them.

I honestly believe that there are a lot of smart guys on this planet who don’t even have ANY “social skills” or have “being a cool guy that people like” in their “MENTAL MODEL” of what they might possibly need in order to be successful with women.

Social skills are just as described: SKILLS.

They aren’t social INFORMATION.

They aren’t social THEORIES.

They are social SKILLS.

And as such, you don’t get them by THINKING about getting them. You don’t learn them logically, like mathematics. You get them by GETTING them.

Excellent social skills are the ESSENTIAL foundation for basic healthy communication with other human beings – if you don’t have good social skills, you are dramatically lowering your chances for success with dating women.
REASON #4: THEY SABOTAGE THEMSELVES

Smart men do something that intrigues the hell out of me…

They come up with all the myriad reasons why things WON’T WORK when it comes to the opposite sex.

They actually figure out for themselves, before even trying, why what they would like to do will probably fail or backfire…

They use their powerful creative imaginations to think up all kinds of terrifying scenes… and then they use those imaginary outcomes to form negative emotions… which ultimately stop them from having the success with women they desire.

THEY DON’T EVEN BOTHER TRYING.

Of course, if you have thought something through, and have come up with a good reason why it would fail, it makes sense to not do it, right?

I mean, why would you want to do something that you know is going to fail?

It’s sound logical, but let’s face it, it’s incredibly destructive thinking when it comes to real life… and success with women and dating.

Because smart guys don’t GET IT with women, and they don’t GET IT with what it takes to be successful with women, they are working with bad figures: in fact they’re wrong even before they even start figuring!

Using your brain to think up all the reasons why things will fail in this area of your life will lead to ULTIMATE FAILURE.

You must learn to overcome this bad habit, if you have it.
REASON #5: THEY ONLY SEEK “INFORMATIONAL SOLUTIONS”

What does a smart guy do when he runs into a problem… or he needs to figure something out?

He immediately searches for INFORMATION to help him find a solution.

MORE INFORMATION is always his answer.

Information is the friend of a smart guy.

Got a strange virus on your computer? Just hop on the internet and search for how to eliminate it.

Don’t know how to change the blinker on your car? No problem: just dig out the manual and turn to page 146.

Looking for the definition of a word you don’t recognise? No problem! Open up your dictionary.

MORE INFORMATION always solves the problem.

So what do smart guys logically do when it comes to overcoming problems with women?

They seek out more INFORMATION.

They assume the answer lies in learning MORE TECHNIQUES, more MAGIC CONCEPTS that will fix the solution, like the blinker of their car.

But what if there was a situation in the smart guy’s life where getting more information actually made things WORSE?

I mean, how would you even work out that it was indeed making things worse?

I don’t want to suggest whatsoever that learning more about how to be successful with women is a bad thing. It’s genuinely not.

But if you’ve got a problem that’s EMOTIONAL in nature, then reading five thousand theories on it probably won’t help you much.

You will need to get out into the REAL WORLD and try some stuff, and see how it works!

When it comes to women and dating, there’s a very good chance that you have MORE than enough “information” in that head of yours.

Smart guys often use all the “more information” they seek out, to distract them from actually TAKING ACTION.

I refer to this as “Creative Avoidance”.

Nod silently to yourself if you’ve ever figured out a creative way to avoid facing something that causes you stress or anxiety in your life.
REASON #6: THEY FOCUS ON LOGIC AND REASON, INSTEAD OF EMOTION

NEWSFLASH: Women don’t feel basic level ATTRACTION for men who make them THINK about stuff.

They feel ATTRACTION for men who make them FEEL something.

So what do most smart guys attempt to do when they first meet a woman they find attractive?

You got it!

They get into a LOGICAL CONVERSATION with her, in an attempt to WOO her with the sheer power of their mind.

Of course they don’t realize that they’re SHOOTING THELSEVES IN THE FOOT by doing it!

A monkey sitting at a typewriter will type the collected works of Shakespeare before you will make an attractive single woman feel ATTRACTION for you by engaging her in logical intelligent conversation.

Every time you start a logical conversation with a woman you’ve just met, you are basically wearing a big sign on your head that flashes “I DON’T GET WOMEN”.

Typical “logical” conversations include talking about politics, religion, work, family and jobs… and anything that has to do with mathematics, science, etc.

On the other hand, if you start talking to a woman and you ask her “OK, tell me, why is it that all girls say that they want sweet, reliable, nice guys… but they date macho, selfish bad boys?” (and if you then find a way to make fun of any answer she gives) well guess what? You’re having an EMOTIONAL conversation. You’re engaging her on an EMOTIONAL level.

If you don’t get what I’m talking about, I suggest you keep reading. You may need more help than I thought.
REASON #7: THEY AREN’T USED TO THE CHALLENGE OF THE “MOMENT”

Smart people usually have enough time to think about things… if you’re taking a test, you can spend time working out the answers.

If you have a math problem, you can keep working through it until you’ve figured it out.

If you’re trying to fix something, you can just keep working and working at it, until it’s fixed.

Smart guys are used to being able to take time, at least a little bit, to prepare their answers or solutions, in order to show off their “good sides” in most situations.

Unfortunately, this doesn’t work with women – if you don’t know what to do at each step along the way, you’re going to crash and burn very quickly.

Women have an ASTOUNDING “He just doesn’t get it” radar.

Oh yes, they have all KINDS of ingenious, subtle tests that they throw at men to separate the men who “get it” from the men who don’t.

And believe me, I know from experience that if you don’t get it, then you are going to fail one of these tests VERY quickly.

But the worst part is that you won’t ever actually KNOW that you were being tested… or even that you FAILED.

Smart guys aren’t used to dealing with complex EMOTIONAL challenges that women throw out in the moment.

One of the keys to becoming more successful with women is learning how to deal with all of the tests that women are able to throw at you effortlessly.

But before you can learn how to deal with those tests, you must first understand how to communicate on an EMOTIONAL level, how to demonstrate that you have strong social skills and how to keep your cool in the moment.
REASON #8: THEY THINK DOING “NICE” THINGS IS THE “SMART WAY”

OK, let me ask you a question:

If I said to you that you were going to have a date with a supermodel of your choice, which of the following would you choose as the “smart” way of preparing for it:

1) Find out her favorite type of flowers, and show up with a bunch of them to “wow” her.

2) Learn about her favorite holiday destination so you could discuss it with her over dinner.

3) Find out her favorite type of food so you could take her to dinner for that particular type… so that she could see that you cared enough to choose something she would enjoy.

OK, time’s up. Which did you choose?

The answer is NONE OF THE ABOVE.

But WHY, you ask?

These three options all seemed logical, right? You want to show her you’re nicer than all the other guys?

Why WOULDN’T you show up with her favorite flowers?

Why WOULDN’T you talk about her favorite travel destinations?

Why WOULDN’T you take her to eat her favorite food so she enjoyed herself?

Work with me here…

Smart guys think they’re CLEVER buying a woman her favourite flowers… and bringing them to the FIRST DATE.

Their minds are going: “I’m going to be the thoughtful guy who made the effort, and I’m going to show up with flowers that I KNOW she will love… she’s going to see them and like me more because of it”.

Makes sense… right?

Well the one very tiny little mistake that these “smart” guys are making, is not realizing the crucial fact that it DOESN’T actually take a smart person to do this!

In fact, ANY loser can work out for himself how to KISS A GIRL’S ASS.

And you know what?

WOMEN KNOW!

And you know what else?

EVERY LOW-STATUS MAN DOES THIS STUFF.

An intelligent guy, in his proud arrogance, will assume he’s being a genuine charmer by using this “thoughtful” approach to dating…

…and the woman he is chasing will almost certainly interpret it as just another low-status needy man who’s trying to MANIPULATE her into liking him.

Ouch. Looks like another blow to “smart guys”.
MISTAKE #9: ALWAYS NEEDING TO BE RIGHT

Have you ever met a “smart” guy who always needed to be the “expert”?

Have you ever met someone who was so “smart” that they would actually argue with you about something they knew absolutely nothing about… and make a complete fool of themselves because they just couldn’t shut their “smart mouths”?

Over the years helping men improve their success with women ad dating, I’ve seen this one pattern over and over and over again…

Smart men can’t stand being “beginners” at ANYTHING whatsoever.

They hate the idea of screwing up… especially if there are others watching.

They always want to maintain a “smart guy” image of themselves – so they try to always be an “expert” at whatever they undertake.

Instead of saying “You know what, I’m a beginner at this – how do I do it? What next?”… and instead of being cool with screwing up a couple times, making mistakes and even making a fool of themselves in front of others, in order to LEARN something…

…they won’t risk failure, or the potential embarrassment of others thinking that they’re a beginner… so ultimately, they end up just FAILING.

NEWSFLASH: It’s actually OK to be a beginner. It’s healthy.
MISTAKE #10: THEY CAN’T HANDLE FEAR AND OTHER STRONG EMOTIONS

A “smart” man’s STRENGTH is his MIND.

But his WEAKNESS is usually his EMOTIONS.

Smart guys are usually IMMOBILIZED by FEAR.

And because many smart men aren’t comfortable dealing with things they aren’t good at… they either repress or run away from their fears and emotions.

It’s a sad fact that many men would rather die sad and alone than admit that they simply don’t know how to deal with their emotions… or – heavens no! – ask for help!

Hey, I wasted YEARS being like this – I know what it’s like.

But the REALITY is that any man can learn to take control of his emotions – even his fear – if he just puts in the TIME and EFFORT to learn how to do it.

If this is you, then I urge you to do yourself a big favour. Put in the time. Put in the effort.

Stop worrying about what other people think of you… because it doesn’t matter.

What matters is that YOU do the things that YOU need to do for YOU.

I think the reason I’m so intrigued by “The Genius Failure Paradox” is because I too have had to struggle with these issues for most of my life.

I’m not saying I’m the smartest guy on the planet…

But I don’t think I’m below average intelligence either.

And it always tormented me that, even though I was so damn good at figuring things out for myself, I couldn’t figure out the opposite sex.

Why do I get the feeling you know what I’m talking about?
Well, after smashing my head against a brick wall for a few years, attempting all kinds of crazy “logical” stuff to solve the problem I finally got the “bright” idea to start STUDYING men who were “naturally” good with girls.

I found out that you could be BELOW average intelligence but also VERY SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN simultaneously.

I also discovered, to my surprise, that you can be SMART and VERY SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN as well.

By closely studying how the “naturals” behaved with women, I began to realize that success with women and dating wasn’t always LOGICAL.

Many of the things I learnt were extremely tough for me to accept… because my LOGICAL “smart guy” brain just didn’t want to acknowledge it.

One thing I saw and found hard to accept, was guys PUSHING women away from them… and actually having the women CHASE them in response.

It just made no sense to me at all!

I saw men tease stunningly beautiful women and make jokes about them, right to their faces… and then watched those women turn into “little girls” in response, like putty in their hands… unable to maintain their composure, and thus unable to maintain their manipulative power over the men…

It took me a long time, but I continued to study, test, and refine what I saw, until I figured out for myself how to approach women in any situation… get any woman’s number, anytime, anyplace… date the type of women I’d always dreamed about…

…and most importantly, I learnt how to GET RID of that “empty” feeling that I carried around with me my whole life, because I didn’t know how to ATTRACT women.

And once I’d got together this area of my own life, I decided to make the information available, and help other men get this area of THEIR lives together.

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And I’ll be speaking to you again real soon.

Your Friend,
David DeAngelo

When you get a girl’s number and you’re picking up the phone to call and “ask her out”, do you get freaked out?

Do you start planning word for word exactly what you’re going to say, how you’re going to say it, how to deal with her rejecting you should it happen… etc.?

Do you get nervous when you’re dialling the number?

You know that feeling when you just start getting anxious for no reason, and however hard you try, you can’t control it?

Have you ever had to actually HANG UP before calling, because you were so freaked out by the prospect and couldn’t go through with it?

Here are a few more interesting questions…

Have you ever called a girl and started a conversation with her, only to realize that she was in a COMPLETELY different mood from the last time you spoke or saw each other?

Have you ever had a woman suddenly “go cold” on you?

It’s almost like you’re talking to a different person from that girl you met a few days before, and it makes no sense to you?

Have you ever worked up your courage to make the call, gotten her on the phone with you, had a great conversation with her, but when it came to that time to “ask her out”, you froze up because you didn’t know what to say?

Worse still, have you ever gotten to the end of the conversation and asked her out, only to have her respond with:

“I dunno, maybe… call me next week… OK?”

or perhaps…

“Actually, I’m going to be busy all this week, but thanks… (silence)”

…?

Have you ever had one of those conversations where you just sensed that something wasn’t completely right… and that she probably wasn’t going to be taking you up on your offer of a date, or even calling you back, any time soon?

One more question… what is it about this particular few minutes on the phone that constantly ends in problems for men?

I personally believe this problem comes down to a few deep issues: if you don’t have these other issues under control, you’re going to keep running into more and more problems.

It’s bad enough to keep on having a particular problem and not be able to figure out how to solve it… but to make it all worse, the idea that the SOLUTION is in doing something you would never think of, is just too much.

In other words, I think that this is more of a prevention solution than a treatment one. Let me put it this way…

If you’re dialling the phone, and you’re starting to feel nervous, then it’s already too late to solve the problem: no quick fix will help you.

Or, if you’re on the phone with her and you’ve just “asked her out”, and she says “Hey well let me ring you back next week and tell you”… and you start to get that sinking feeling, because you just KNOW she’s blowing you out… IT’S TOO LATE to fix the problem.

The only answer is PREVENTION.

THE MAGIC FORMULA

So let’s take a few minutes and talk about the deeper issues and what CAUSES them in the first place. The problems with phoning girls come from a couple key points:

1) Having no other options.

If you’re sitting at the phone with a single number in your hand, and you haven’t been out on a date in a long time, and you are feeling desperate, you’re probably going to get VERY nervous.

When you have no other options, the single one in front of you becomes VERY important.

Translation: It has too much value for you.

This triggers your automatic emotional system, because at some level you realize that if you screw this up, it’s all over. And you know that it’s all going to happen in a few minutes.

Way too much pressure!

2) Putting too much importance on a single girl.

If you have a girl you’ve been dating for six months, and you’ve decided that she’s one in a million, it makes sense to put a lot of importance on your relationship with her.

But if you don’t know a girl very well, or you haven’t even dated her at all, then you are only setting yourself up for major disappointment by putting too much importance on ANY girl.

3) Thinking you need to impress her to make her like you.

This is a CRUCIAL issue.

Most men habitually behave like they’re trying to IMPRESS the woman of their desires.

When you think about this, it makes a lot of sense… of course you’d want to impress the woman you like… then she’ll think you’re a cool guy and she’ll want to be with you.

But have you ever stopped and thought for a moment how an attractive in-demand woman sees it when a guy is TRYING to IMPRESS her?

Well, here’s the INSTANT response that women have:

“He’s trying way too hard. There’s something wrong. This guy must be hiding something… he must be pretty insecure.”

In other words, the INSTANT you do something or say something that is an obvious attempt at impressing a woman, she will know, and it will kill the attraction.

4) Having expectations and being too attached to them.

You could see this one as a variation of “wanting it too much”… only slightly different.

When you start getting your hopes up, you begin to get ATTACHED to them.

Then you run the risk of HOLDING ON TOO TIGHT to your hopes, being dependant on the outcome.

Women just DON’T date guys who assume too much or fall for them too quickly, or put them on a pedestal.

Beautiful women have guys falling for them left, right and centre.

In fact, they EXPECT guys to go out on two or three dates with them, then say “You know, I really like you…” and other equally predictable sentiments. And they hate it.

Just like being desperate can destroy your chances with a woman, liking a woman too much, too fast, and creating expectations, leads to crazy mistakes, too.

Now, think over what I just said…

I’m basically saying that if you want to cure the problem of freaking out when you call women to ask them out, and the problem of screwing it up when you have that first conversation and ask them out the first time, then you have to go INSIDE first… and do some deep maintenance on yourself.

And the GREAT NEWS is that this stuff is not only good for you from a self-improvement point of view, but it also helps you get even MORE dates with interesting women.

So here’s what to do about this problem:

1) Get more options.

If you go out one evening with a couple of friends, and you meet a REALLY hot girl… and you wind up having a fun conversation, and getting her number, what should you do?

You should go get at least ONE MORE girl’s number. More, if you can.

This way, when you’re picking up the phone to call (or sending out emails, or whatever), you’ve got another woman to call right after her… hence if it doesn’t go well, no big deal. No problem.

Instead of putting all your “hopes” in this one situation, go get more options… this will prevent many problems, as well as giving you more women to date!

Ask yourself: when are you MOST likely to get a girl’s number? When are you the most likely to be in a great state that ATTRACTS women?

Exactly… in the moments after you’ve already gotten another woman’s number.

So take advantage of this!

2) Dial the phone expecting it to NOT work out with this girl.

I have news for you: Most women have something about their personality, behavior, future plans, etc. that is going to disqualify them from being good “potential mates” for you.

Now, I’m not saying that “all women are messed up”, etc.

What I AM saying is that you need to see for yourself that the only reason you’re freaking out so much is because your EMOTIONS are running the show.

It’s important that you think about how rare it is that you actually meet a girl that is COMPATIBLE with you… that you’d enjoy spending time with even if she wasn’t hot.

If you keep this in mind as you’re dialling the phone, you won’t have that “I’m desperate” vibe.

3) Instead of asking a woman out, just tell her what you’re doing, and then tell her she can come along if she wants.

Why is “asking a woman out” early on such a bad idea? Because if you don’t have a WORLD CLASS understanding of male/female dynamics, you’re going to come across as a man who is trying to use food as bait.

In other words, if the first thing out of your mouth is “I’d like to take you out to dinner” it’s going to be interpreted as “I think you’re probably not going to accept an invitation to spend time with me unless I throw in something to keep you sweet”.

Weak sauce!

And believe me, that’s how SHE sees it too.

But what’s the alternative?

TELL her that you’re going to be DOING something, and that she should join you.

“Hey, I’m going to go down to Starbucks and get a coffee at 3pm. You should join me. I’m way more fun than whatever else you were going to do… fact!”

Extra bonus points:

Drop in a hint that she’s missing out if she doesn’t accept immediately.

If she hesitates… just interrupt and say “Hey, you’re the one who’s missing out” or something like that.

I also like “You know, never mind. I guess you don’t like to have fun… don’t worry.”

This is solid Cocky & Funny material, and it’s the RIGHT TIME to use it.

You know, I personally used to get VERY freaked out when calling a woman for the first time on the phone… and “asking them out”.

I never get “nervous” anymore when calling women, and I rarely if EVER have a woman “flake out” on me.

Now, in this newsletter I’ve shared a few points to help you get better results in this particular area. Use them and they will help you.

You should read this newsletter right before you call every one of the next 10 women you meet…

But as you can probably tell, this is just one of many crucial parts of developing success with women.

In fact, this is merely scratching the surface of the skills you’ll need if you want to have CONSISTENT success with the women you desire.

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I realized about 8 months ago that my hit rate was skyrocketing. This winter and spring I had some incredible weeks: 4 girls in 5 days; 2 girls in one night, etc. I thought about why things were so plentiful and the answer was: I had a system. I think most guys spend time and money in the wrong place and then get frustrated when they don’t get laid. Or, worse, they find that one girl who they can get the honey from and they stick by her side no matter what, like a puppy. I’ve found that with a system and a deep pool of talent, pussy is really the second most abundant commodity on earth, after water.

The first thing to realize about women, especially the hot women we all gawk at, is that we don’t have their perspective. As guys, you and I might think, “Oh man, she’s so hot. How could I get such a fine chick, etc.” What men don’t realize is that even stunning women are plentiful; they may be a bit more high-maintenance, but they are not in short supply, especially in a metropolitan city like New York. I always imagine a bunch of models or dancers or actresses changing in a locker room. They look around at all the beautiful flesh surrounding them and get a sense of their commodity-nature; they are just one of many.

Keep that image in your mind; women lead men to believe they are unique, but secretly they know they are just one of many like them. In fact, in the world, women outnumber men significantly, something like 51% to 49% for men. That’s statistically quite significant, and there are real evolutionary reasons for that, but who cares right now, and that’s not what will get you laid. Just remember there’s no shortage of pussy.

One good exercise is to pass patio restaurants on a summer night, and notice how many women are eating with other women (especially in NYC). You think they want to be eating with their complaining, whining friend, who is depressed and with whom they have to split the bill? Of course not! They’d jump at the opportunity to be with a guy, so ask them out and then bang the shit out of them! This leads me the first of many insights:

Never let one bitchy or unresponsive girl get to you or affect your outlook.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had a cool response or flat rejection from a girl only to approach another girl 2 minutes later and hit it off, and be in the back of a cab getting head 15 minutes later. That’s the beauty of being a man – you can always walk away from a situation that has bad energy. My friend says the single most powerful word in the English language for a man is “Next!”

One of the key characteristics of an effective hustler, and I see it in my friends who play the game the best, is an ability to walk away from a negative situation immediately and brush it off, preparing for the next opportunity.

That leads me to my next point which is:

There are 3 types of girls around: yes, no and maybe girls

Again, the effective hustlers know how to judge the three types and work accordingly. All guys know the “no” girls. They are sticks in the mud, stand-offish, difficult, Princesses. Any guy who has been laid several times knows this type of girl. He probably has a gut instinct that she’s going to be hard to get in the sack. “Yes” girls, by contrast, are flirty, fun, open with body language and game for anything. They allow you to ask them back to your place with ease. The problems are the “maybe” girls, especially if they are hot.

Even after years of practice, I still can get stuck on these types, but as soon as I recognize the direction we’re going I can make the call. The “maybe” girls are where most guys get hung up spending all their money and time, thinking that they will get her. Careful, gentlemen, you are dealing with pros. Even other women will admit how manipulative a woman can be. Don’t assume you’ll wear here down or trick her. It’s better to walk then to throw more energy at these problem girls. So, back to the system.

Prior to recognizing how effective a system for getting laid could be, I would take my opportunities where they presented themselves: poolside at a wedding, on the Chinatown bus between Boston and NYC, in a cab, in Central Park. Don’t get me wrong, there is not a wrong place to take a woman. But if you want to get laid with a minimum of time, energy, hassle, bullshit, and most importantly, cost, then you should work out an effective system.

Think about it. All other business enterprises have a system to deliver a good or service: Starbucks coffee is fresh, hot and strong because of the system and protocol the baristas follow. Any successful business must follow a blueprint if it hopes to achieve significant results; the same applies to shagging women, believe it or not. Do not leave your sex life up to chance – what women often call “romance”. Take charge of it.

So, we have this large market of single men and women. A city like NY is ideal, because it’s concentrated, and there are so many people and the city is sexy and anonymous. By the way, anonymity is key because as a hustler, I try (as I encourage you to) all types of new methods and approaches; some work, some work brilliantly, but alas, some fail and fall flat. In this city, who cares, because chances are you won’t see the person again, and even if you do, by that time you’ll be a confident playboy and who cares what one stupid bitch thinks, anyhow.

So, it’s a market, and there are plenty of girls for everyone. Also, to us they may be hot and sexy, but to themselves and other girls, they are just competition, and have their own un-sexy habits like farting, burping, bad breath, fat thighs etc. Don’t fall for women’s façade. It’s been my experience that women are heavily front-loaded in what they can offer – their value-proposition. She may look fit, sexy and sophisticated, but after you’ve banged her and she’s naked, with mascara running down her face and she’s trying to stuff her thighs into a pair of too small jeans at 2am, you’ll realize she’s just another person trying to get by. Don’t be intimidated!

I have never done online dating.  I can’t recall the last time I was set-up. And after a few retarded episodes with blind dates, I refuse to do that.  All my pulls are in the flesh, and I’m aggressive.  I believe it’s a lot about chemistry, and a privilege of males is that you get to choose.  If you see something you like, go after it.  It is caveman style, but I bet cavemen had pretty good sex lives.  In fact, I’m sure they did, because we’re here.  So, make like Zog and take what you are hungry for.

Women respond to a hungry man, believe me.  Girls often tell me, after we’re lying in bed chatting, that it was in my eyes; that was what turned them on and made them feel pursued.  They knew where things were heading.

There is no wrong place or time to make the approach. I’ve picked up girls on the street, of course, but also the subway, coffee shop, plays, weddings, buses, restaurants, etc.  I’d say that 90% of my game takes place on the street because I walk a lot (also keeps me thin and fit, a must for the hustler) and that’s where the girls are.  When I had a car in Boston 5 years ago, I remember thinking how I wasn’t meeting as many girls; obviously there are no girls to meet in my car!  I was on the “T” less (as the subway is
called in Boston.  Don’t ask.) and therefore wasn’t meeting the college girls going around town. I also wasn’t pounding the pavement.

Another point that is obvious, but guys make this mistake all the time:

Pick-up girls midweek in the middle of the day while they are walking around.

Do not attempt to hustle girls on a weekend night when you are competing with every other Dick. I have two advantages over the average guy in this regard: a) I live in New York; b) I have an unorthodox work schedule.  I am sure that there are systems to get laid in LA (Hugh Hefner probably has the patent) but since that city is sprawling and requires driving, it’s a whole different game.  I’m born and bred in Santa Monica, and lived there till I was 18, so I know a bit of the game.  It seems cliquier to me and because of the car culture, harder
to have contact with the ladies.

Here, in NYC, they flow by like sardines in the ocean. Too bad they don’t make nets. On the second point, it helps that I take a leisurely stroll to get coffee at Starbucks on 66th and Madison every morning around 10 and that I walk to work (my day job is as a SAT tutor) in the afternoon.  These are the hours all the guys are breaking their backs downtown to earn a buck so they can take some broad out on Friday and not-bone, as my friend Adam says.  So it’s too easy midday on the street.  Not many other players around and women (for some reason I’m not clear on) think it’s more innocent if you get their number at 1:15pm on a Tuesday on Lexington Ave., then at some bar Saturday night.

Because it’s also a common pitfall of most guys I’m going to make a point for it, but it should be somewhat obvious:

Trying to get a girls number (or worse, trying to bang her) on a Saturday night at a crowded bar is a loser’s gamble.

Little secret: the hottest ones are the easiest to fuck.  Why?  Because they are most confident, and don’t guard their pussy like it’s their only asset. That’s my true experience.

One revelation I experienced upon moving to New York was sheer exposure to so many single, hot women.  I’ve come to realize that one way women create the illusion of scarcity is by staying at home or only getting done-up and going out on the weekend nights.  For some reason, in other cities in which I’ve lived (Boston, LA, Philly) there would be one or two hotties, here or there, and we’d talk about them for 10 minutes after spotting them.  Here, due to public transportation and the street, I’ve got a much better sense of the market, and I have realized that there are a lot of sexy girls for every guy (not least because our gay compatriots are out of the game.  Hallelujah!)

You’re competing against every other guy, first off. The girl’s ego is ballooning, because if she’s halfway decent looking, and the guys are beer-goggling, then she’s been hit on by a platoon of fools and you know how much women like attention (turns out they’d rather have attention than sex) and if you’re in a city like New York, you have the added competition of the city itself.  By that I mean the myriad things she’d rather do then go to your place and suck your cock.

No matter how suave, clever, funny or good-looking you are, I’m here to tell you that you’ll look rather dull next to New York Fucking City going off on a Saturday night.  So be prepared for a long and tedious battle if you’re trying to get her to your place on a Saturday night; more than likely she’ll only lose interest in the night when she starts to tire, at which point working on you isn’t her focus.  She’s ready for sleep.

Weeknights are different.  As I mentioned, women are creatures who need
attention and they are getting less of it during the week; it’s often said that women cheat as a result of an inattentive husband, whereas men cheat because we can’t control our hormones and libido.  So, the obvious play here is:

Meet girls one-on-one during the week, when there’s likely to be a lull in even the most popular girl’s social calendar.

Nothing is more welcome than a phone call or text message from you when she’s getting nothing from friends, family or other guys, and she’s sitting at home feeling lonely and unwanted.  I’ve found that girls I can’t even get to have a 5 minute conversation on a Saturday night will come all the way uptown to have a drink with a guy they barely know if it’s a quiet Tuesday night.  Play the cycle of the week to your advantage.  Get the numbers during the day and during the week, and arrange the meeting during a weeknight when you will get a women’s full, undivided attention.

Another note about weekends: keep those for your men.  Having lived in the city  for a few years now, and arriving at an age – 30 – when I’m starting to know what I like and what I don’t, and choosing the former, I’ve come to appreciate the value of exclusive time with my men.  My schedule is drinks with girls Sunday night through Wednesday, and often Friday as well because it’s an early night because I work at 8:30 on Saturday morning.  Thursdays, perhaps the best night of the week to go out, I usually go “window shopping” with a buddy, a wingman.  We usually go out to check out the hot scenes and look at the girlies all done-up.  We may meet a couple girls, even get digits or get laid, but the bulk of my work is not accomplished here.  Saturday’s are reserved for dinner with the boys.  I don’t see them all week because everyone works hard in this city, and I enjoy nothing better than grabbing a big meal and relaxing with a good friend or two, perhaps having a stogie afterwards. We may or may not go chasing after dinner, but we’re all cognizant that Saturday is the hardest pull, for the reasons mentioned above.

My advice is to keep one weekend night free to eat with your boys: they’ll keep you sane and stave off loneliness, plus it’s the ideal time to recount stories of the week just passed. So we’ve talked about the when and the where’s of meeting the girls – midweek daytime, in a non-pick-up environment – but what exactly do you do when you see that foxy, confident, almost bitchy women sauntering down the street towards you?

Whatever you’ve heard about not paying compliments to women is bullshit. Women like flattery, they like flirting and sexual tone and many of them appreciate a direct approach. I can’t remember the last time I used a “line”, both because they sound cheesy and are retarded, and also because who has time to remember that shit when a hot chic passes in front of the radar.

Women are animals, just like us, and they sense things from a gut level, as all animals do. Confidence and a sense of urgency are your two allies in this endeavor. The confidence will come as you continue to hone your craft and reap the prodigious benefits of your system. In general, women respond to body language and timing as much, if not more, than the content of what you are saying. You can tell in 2 seconds if she’s interested, and get a good sense if she’s a yes/no/maybe girl.

“Yes” girls will be appreciative, reciprocate your attention, stop what they are doing, give you their attention, and in general enjoy the interaction and the feeling of sexual tension between the two of you. The other “maybe” girls will give you some leeway, but in general will be difficult and you’ll feel the work you’re doing.

My friend Jeff is the master at reeling them in. Persistence is the key here, as is a sense of humor and a feeling that it’s your prerogative to engage these women:

You are never “bothering” a girl by hitting on her. Remember that it’s your duty as a man to engage the opposite sex and initiate contact. Don’t get into thinking you’re being intrusive, she will let you know.

I remember a funny comment this black guy made on a street corner in the city. He was checking out a hot chic as she walked around the corner and I caught him staring. We made eye contact and he says, “I’m just doing my job.” He was, and I appreciated it. I’ve also found other men to be generally admiring and supportive of the pick-up. By that I mean guys understand the rap, and don’t look down on a guy who takes the shot. I’ve tried to rap to a girl in a crowded subway before and she just gave me air and the look away or a few unfriendly one-word replies.

My shtick fell flat, and 5 guys were right there watching. Not a one smirked or laughed; most guys give props for taking the shot. They’ve been there, or appreciate that you went in for the kill.

Back to the “maybe” girls. They are the ones that engage reluctantly and have unwelcoming body language, or keep question the pretext of your meeting: “But I don’t know you?” Also, I’ve gotten the “I’m in a hurry to blah, blah, blah”. You’re in a hurry too, tell them. I guarantee you their time is no more valuable than yours. The “no” girls are unresponsive or snobby, or give you the “Who are you?” look. Walk away immediately. They give off bad energy and can kill an unpracticed guy’s spirit. For some reason these types want to discourage sex and playfulness between the sexes. Brutal. Don’t be afraid to walk away mid-sentence. I’ve literally stopped talking and turned and left in situations where I’m up against a brick wall. You can’t win those, and remember, “Next!”

Regarding the approach, there’s no right way to initiate conversation. The “head on” is decent. Also the side by side, “My, you’re in quite a hurry!” works well. I’ve had tremendous luck with the Two-Step Look Back(TM), in which I make strong, suggestive eye contact and then give a look back a couple of seconds later. If the girl is likewise craning her neck, you’re golden. She’s interested; just wave her over as you get your phone out. You “can’t talk”, though. Remember, you’re late for __________.

Also, a word about nerves or guts. My friend Arefin asked me this little riddle:

“What killed the warrior?”

“I don’t know,” I replied.

“Hesitation,” he said. We were talking about girls.

I’m sure all of us guys, no matter how dashing, suave and successful today, once had real trepidation at the thought of approaching a female stranger and making conversation. First of all, it becomes second nature the more you do it. The benefits of a good rap reinforce the exercise, as well. Also, recognize that you will fall on you face many times, especially if you’re young. But, practice makes perfect, and if you can practice in an anonymous setting like NYC, then there’s no fall-out when you totally bomb. Also, as I’ll say more than once, confidence, body language and appearance are more important than what you say.

Keep in mind that like all people girls, especially hot ones, are moody.  You need the contact information of course, otherwise you can’t pursue her.  However, you don’t need to do anything charming, memorable or “cute” when you first meet her.  The only purpose is to get the digits so you can contact her later.  After that, keep moving.  You have nothing to say to her, anyhow; you’ll just fuck it up.  I’ve found many a reluctant girl is only too happy to see me midweek for a drink.  Remember, their moods will change, dramatically, and often.

So what do you say to these fickle, sensitive beasts?  It doesn’t really matter.  It’s more the timing and body language.  I’ve found that the quick move works best. Walking by a girl, or past a table where she’s eating, whatever, I usually try to make eye contact, and if she notices me, I acknowledge by saying, “I want to say ‘hi’ because I noticed we made eye contact, and this is New York and if you don’t take advantage of moments like these they tend to just pass, blah, blah, etc.”

Or, if there’s no eye contact I stop them and say my standard, “I think you’re cute, but I’m in a rush and late for a meeting.  How ‘bout you give me your number and we’ll grab a drink around here some night.”  That usually works, or at least gets them interested.  The yes/maybe girls will perk up: they know you find them attractive, appreciate that you are confident enough to tell them so in a polite way, and you have a plan – the drink.  That’s all that needs to happen on the initial meeting.  Ideally, you should see her, engage, talk for 45 seconds while you’re entering her digits, and then smile (or wink, if you’re good at it) and rush off to your “meeting”. Don’t run.

If you’re in some situation where you can’t leave immediately, like sitting next to a woman on the subway, etc., wait until you have about 1 minute left with her before striking up conversation.  There’s nothing more awkward than silence between two strangers after they’ve said hello, and even Shakespeare couldn’t be charming for more than a couple of minutes off the bat, so have a planned exit.  In the subway example, get off and switch cars, if you have to.

The less than one-minute engagement works for a number of reasons.  First off all, it prevents the guy from doing anything stupid or awkward, or revealing too much.  A nervous guy can torpedo a promising situation by talking too much and turning the girl off, or freaking her out, perhaps by mentioning he lives at home with his folks, or something like that.  The less talking you do, the better. Women, as well as men, like the fantasy or “romance” of meeting “that guy”, and since almost no guy is ever going to live-up to some bullshit Prince Charming archetype (who wants to, anyhow) at least prolong the fantasy for your benefit.

This leads to the second reason the one-minute engagement works: it maintains the intrigue.  “Who was that dashing stranger I just met in the rain?” she thinks as you walk off with your raincoat trailing and your umbrella extended.  As they are reeling from the encounter, trying to process what just happened and remember the fine details of what you said, and how you looked, and just how you stood, you’re already gone, not there to fuck it up.  They’re hooked.  Their mind is already working on you.