Grow Your Game

There are three kinds of hoops we use in Love Systems. Use these once you get some attraction going:

1. Exaggerated/Unrealistic Sexual Hoops

The first hoops should be clearly not 100% serious. It’s like a cartoonish illustration of you having sex with her; it’s supposed to be funny, a little bit out there, but not enough so she could say anything about it. In other words, it’s a joke that happens to convey your intentions in a socially-appropriate way:

For example:

DAHUNTER: “I haven’t told you this but I’m a master at the hidden arts of kama sutra.”

HER: “Hahaha, what?”

DAHUNTER: “Yeah, did you see the girls that were following me earlier? They’re the girls that I’ve slept with. They follow me everywhere; they just can’t get enough. It’s kind of annoying but I don’t blame them. Once you go Dahunter, you never go back.”

Or:

DAHUNTER: “See those girls? They’re my wives. That one there in particular is crazy in bed. She doesn’t look like all that but under the sheets she’s freaky.”

I submitted a bunch of routines like this (the above are examples of very short routines) to the Love Systems Routines Manual.

2. Direct Sexual Hoops

These hoops make your intentions clear, but they avoid a potentially awkward and state-killing pause by quickly disqualifying and “releasing” the tension.

It’s similar to the Qualification process. In Qualification, you help her “win you over” and then you give a big compliment… but “release” the tension with a disqualifier. Qualification is covered very well in Magic Bullets and even better in a couple of my favorite interviews – Qualification by Sinn and the more advanced Issues in Qualification by Braddock, Mr. M and Sphinx.

For sexual hoops, the disqualifier should push her away just a little bit.

For example:

DAHUNTER: “Just so you know, I’m going to try to hook up with you. You should run away; you’re too nice, I would just do bad things to you.”

HER: “I’m not too nice!”

But without a disqualifier, here’s what it would sound like:

DAHUNTER WITHOUT LOVE SYSTEMS: “Just so you know, I’m going to try to hook up with you.”

HER: “Well, you can try, but I don’t know how far you’ll get.”

Here are some better examples of sexualization with a release:

DAHUNTER: “You know, you’re kind of cool. Like how you [insert] and even if I wasn’t trying to get into your pants, I still think it’d be cool to hang out with you.”

DAHUNTER: “You know, I’m gonna try to hook up with you. You should go that way.”

DAHUNTER: “You know, you should really get away from me. I’m bad news.”

HER: “Why?”

DAHUNTER: “Because if you stay any longer, I’m going to try hook up with you.”

DAHUNTER: “You’re hot… do you have a sister that I can hit on?”

3. Fantasy Hoops

Once you’ve gotten through the first two hoops, you can test the ground on common, deep (but usually unspoken) female sexual fantasies – usually involving being dominated or ravished. This will only succeed if you’ve done your work with the smaller first two hoops and if the vibe is “on.”

In contrast to the direct sexual hoops, here the disqualifiers will be softer, but with occasional harder disqualifiers thrown in to keep things interesting.

For example:

DAHUNTER: “I’m going to ruin you for all men.”

HER: “Why?”

DAHUNTER: “Because I can’t stop thinking about doing bad things to you.”

Or:

DAHUNTER: “I would so take you home and ravish you so hard, you wouldn’t be able to walk straight for the next couple days…”

HER: (Visualizing what you just said)

DAHUNTER: “Oh my God, what are you doing to me? I’m a nice person, I can’t do this, I want to be a virgin until I get married.”

Or:

DAHUNTER: “You know what I would do to you, I would put your legs over here (indicating her shoulders), I would get on top of you and completely dominate you while I was taking you really hard.”

HER: (Absorbing your comment)

DAHUNTER: “Oh no, wait, I’m not that easy. I gotta go; I don’t know what you’re doing to me but I better go get a drink or something.”

DAHUNTER: (Starts to walk away… interrupts himself and comes back)

DAHUNTER: “Okay, come with me, let’s get a drink, but let’s be good. I don’t know why but I’m just drawn to you for some reason… stop trying to seduce me. I want to be a priest one day; I can’t have sex.”

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If you do the hoops correctly, she will be turned on and a same-night encounter is on the agenda.

You took her through the first hoop, which is playful sexual introduction, and she accepted it.

You took her through the second hoop, which is grounding your sexual intentions to reality and showing her that you’re “for real,” and she accepted it.

Then you took her through the last hoop, and you played on her fantasies and got her really turned on (and did some push/pull), and she accepted the frame.

What I’m about to reveal to you may change the way you structure your day entirely, so be prepared to have your mind blown. There is one place, one environment, one setup that is fricking custom made for any kind of confident approach (direct, indirect, opinion, storytelling, situational, etc.) that you’ve probably been missing for years… and I’m about to lose my advantage by sharing, but that’s just me. I’m a giver.

Ready? There is a place to meet healthy, normal, beautiful girls every single day and change your life for the better. Any guesses?

I’ll give you a big hint. It’s not a bar.

The gym.

You cannot find a better setup for creating quick connections with the best possible chance of success. Here’s how I do it.

First, pick a gym that has hotties. Find out when they go. You don’t need to pick the most expensive place (remember, hot single girls do not tend to be rich… they tend to find the gyms with the best classes and nicest stuff that they can afford).

Preferably a slightly off-peak time. You will be doing this for results, not for reps (don’t give yourself a 50 set challenge in the gym). This is all about working efficiently.

Walk in and warm-up by chatting to anyone you see on the way in. Joke with whoever is working the desk. If it’s a girl, flirt your a*s off. Get social on your way in. While walking in, use your peripheral vision to scope the cardio machines on your way to the locker room. Be sly and note where the cutest girls are.

Change and come out. Dress appropriately, but a little colorful (and make sure you smell good… good time to use a cheap ass scent like Axe). You don’t have to be totally studly, but it helps if you have a little tan, and if your arms are in shape, go sleeveless. Look like you mean business. Walk into cardio room and find an open machine next to a cute girl. If there are none, wander around and do some other workout while waiting. You can lift, stretch, whatever.

Keep your eye on the cardio room. This is all about being opportunistic. When you see a spot open next to a cute girl, stroll up and start your workout there. The next step is critical.

Start the machine (it can be anything… bike, treadmill, whatever) and start a light workout.

Turn to the girl next to you, and lightly tap her arm while you look at her with agentle smile on your face, and motion for her to take her headphones off (she will almost always be wearing headphones, which prevents 99.999999% of the known universe of dudes from talking to her, which is what makes you such a stud for being able to do this).

Now smile. Really smile and look as friendly and normal as you can. One technical note… if she’s running flat out on a treadmill, wait till she slows down. You want to be able to do this when she can converse.

Then go into your opener. It can be anything. I’ve used sincere (you are super-cute), pussified indirect (i’m taking a storytelling class and need some feedback), and in-between. Just make sure you get her attention soon with something interesting. I actually like to be playful, then banter and do some storytelling here, because it gives you something interesting to discuss.

Remember, working out, especially on cardio machines, is deathly, deathly dull. If you can make the time go faster by talking, she’ll love you for it (why do you think women walk and jog in groups when they exercise outside? socializing alleviates boredom for them).

Tell your story and start vibing. Get real comfortable. Use light kino where possible (a slow handshake when you get her name, light shoulder taps in stories, high fives at high points). Don’t play games. Introduce yourself early. Get her name and use it in conversation. Go real basic with the small talk (where you from? do you live around here now?) and share interesting stories about yourself. If it’s on at all, she will keep talking. Just make it like a chat between friends… you can game, but keep it light and friendly (i.e., don’t spank her a*s while she’s trying to jog).

Examples of things I say right at the start, all with big big smiles and making things sound as fun as I can. Serious will get you killed in the gym.

“is this machine taken? cool… but if anyone comes back to claim it, i’m telling ‘em you said i could have it, so you better be prepared to protect me.”

“this thing isn’t hard to use, right? i just want to watch tv and have it look like i’m working out. my god, tell me that’s not sweat, you just dumped water on yourself to look cool, right?”

“do me a favor, watch my stuff for a second? if anyone comes and takes it, run them down and kick ‘em in the shins. use your kickboxing skills to protect me, and you can be my new girlfriend.”

“is this tv set to espn? crap. i gotta find the one with the soap operas, or a telenovela. now that’s some good fricking distraction right there… nothing but hot people hooking up with really badly behaved other hot people… girl, can’t you see he’s a dog?!? Not like me. I’m a perfect gentleman, and would never do things like flirt with a cute girl at the gym.”

Anything, really. There’s a basic structure to opening in the gym. For those of you who have taken one of those “outdated” pickup workshops , you may notice that these openers all follow the 1-2-3 structure. You get her attention, then say something that is relevant to what is going on around you, then quickly change gears to playful flirting.

Once you open this way, just start vibing. Here is the practice part. Half the time I go to the gym now, I just get this far… and then slide into some wide rapport.

Try to get in a good 20 minute conversation. If it’s going well, you’ll have good rapport and time will fly by (side benefit… it makes this workout way more fun). When you get to a point where you feel you’ve gotten comfortable and she’s smiling and asking you questions, make your closing pitch. Something like I really have to go and get my real workout in… but I really like talking to you. We should hang out this week. What are you up to Tuesday?

Try to keep your day2 suggestion something very soon so she can try to answer. If she says anything other than an outright rejection, just say, Awesome. Let’s get a drink Tuesday at 7 at (insert standard day2 place here). Give me your number.

Now you can show off a bit. You won’t have your phone with you, and no one will have a pen and paper. So just have her tell you her number, and say “of course I’ll remember. This is destined to be.”

Give her a big smile, and tell her you’ll send her a text later today. Then make your exit and work out for real. You want her to see that you aren’t just there to pickup chicks. If I’m on a treadmill, I like to crank up the incline and speed and start running intervals. Or you can go lift. Pick something basic that you can focus on. And then… well, that’s it.

The cardio approach gives you a captive audience, and once you break the headphone barrier, you have the chance to demonstrate amazing confidence, charisma, and authority. It will be very weird at first, but if you can start doing it, it will change your whole approach to daygame. I now have this planned in my daily workouts, like today I’m doing deadlifts, plyometrics, 20 minutes interval running, and 15 minutes of banter.

Try it out, and let me know your results. If this works, I’m thinking a cross-promotion with 24-Hour Fitness is in order…

It is both easier and harder to make a woman into your girlfriend than it is to casually date her. Because monogamous relationships are the dominant relationship type in our society, women will often assume that this is where your relationship is going unless either of you say or do something to imply otherwise.

traditional relationships with most of the people you’ve slept with. This is because people often do “say or do something to imply otherwise”. This can be very subtle. For example, if she mentions other men or dates at any point of your interaction after the first hour or so, she’s probably not looking for a traditional relationship. If you have a “party” vibe about you and never seem to get serious, she may assume the same about you.

Now, let’s assume that you do want a traditional relationship. How do you get this enticing woman to be your girlfriend?

The good news is that a lot of this process is not all that different from getting her to sleep with you – show enough interest to get her looking in that direction, but not so much that you come across as pushy, clingy, or not a challenge.

In other words: Get close to her without being clingy.

Your goal is to get to seeing her 2-3 times per week and for her to come to the conclusion herself that she doesn’t want to see other men and/or that she’d rather give up the ability to see other men in return for knowing that you won’t see other women. It’s important for her to come to this conclusion herself as opposed to your pressuring her.

If you pressure her into a commitment before she feels completely ready – or at least ready enough to bring it up or hint strongly at it herself – then you’re significantly adding to the likelihood that she’ll cheat on you later. So let’s not do that.

For best results, start when in comfort. Vague long-term plans based on common interests are a great idea. For example, if I’m dating a woman who tells me she loves art, I’ll talk about how we have to go to the Getty Museum one day. If we realize we both love ice hockey, I’ll comment on how we have to go to a game. If she wants to be a better cook, then I’ll suggest we take a cooking class at the place under the Arclight, and maybe make it more specific by agreeing on what kind of cuisine we should learn. Not only are you uncovering great date ideas, but you are also

1) reinforcing any emotions she has that you and her have some exciting possibilities ahead

2) communicating that you see potential for some kind of longer-term relationship with her

3) helping her imagine herself with you in other contexts in the future. Don’t actually plan anything at this stage – keep it vague. Planning is boring for many women and takes away excitement and adventure and can make everything feel “too serious” to her.

Right after you first sleep with her is a key time. Solidify the connection if you can. Stay over or invite her to stay over. Have breakfast together. Call her the next day. Communicate to her by your actions (without saying it) that she’s not a one-night stand to you. That’s easy enough. Now do all of that without being clingy. There’s no formula here. You’re just going to have to use your intuition.

Also remember that women can be very unpredictable right after sex, so she may display emotions that actually have nothing to do with you. Don’t react to these. Society (both the media and her peer group) bombard her with messages that her worth is tied up in her sex appeal but also makes women feel guilty or cheap for enjoying their sexuality. If she’s got some odd emotions to deal with, the last thing she needs is some guy being needy. She may well act very distant from you, but still like you a great deal.

Call the next day. Handling this call correctly is crucially important. It must not be awkward.

Don’t refer to having had sex with her. Don’t call to “check in” with her. Call because something funny happened that you want to tell her about. Be the same natural, fun, and interesting person you were before you slept with her. Don’t let any awkward silence develop, but don’t sound nervous or talk too much or too quickly. If you’re worried about awkward silences, cue up enough topical things to talk about for at least an 8-10 minute conversation. Don’t rush into making plans unless she seems very warm and comfortable to you on this call. End the call first.

On one of your next calls, invite her to do something. If she sees you again after you’ve slept together, you’re well on your way. Use each time you see each other to discuss mutual interests and upcoming events. Further dates will follow naturally out of these conversations. For example, say you are both talking about your love for classical music. You mention that you have tickets to the symphony for next Friday. Presto. You have another date.

At some point, she should give off some indications that she’s committing to you. For example, she might reserve part of her weekend for you, or wants to know what you’re doing on the weekend so she can make her plans. She might suggest a weekend getaway. Introducing you to her friends more than once is a very good sign. Listen to how she introduces you, and make sure to invite her along when you are doing some activities with your friends especially exciting high-status activities. Remember, women lose social value if their friends perceive them as easy, so if she’s introducing you to them more than once, she is probably not introducing other men at the same time.

If she hasn’t given any of these signals, be patient. Use the telephone to your advantage. A couple of phone calls during the week, ideally 10 minutes or so, to tell her about something interesting that happened or to check in on something specific in her life (if she was sick before, to find out if she’s feeling better, if she just started a new job, to find out how that went) works wonders. It shows that you care and that you listen.

At some point, she will bring up the idea of you as her boyfriend or ask you if you’re seeing other women. This is not a time for a jealousy plotline. Just be genuine here. Your goal is very close.

It is a rare woman who will see you 2-3 times per week and never refer to you as her boyfriend or initiate a discussion about the future. But if it happens, then the responsibility falls on you to say something like “I feel funny bringing this up, but I realized we never actually talked about this. Are we supposed to be seeing other people?” Be emotionally neutral – and not nervous – when you say this. One way or another, this will resolve the issue.

First dates can be, well — kinda awful!

It’s not that you don’t like the girl you’re on the date with, AND it’s not that you don’t want to HAVE the
date at all…

It’s that first dates can feel tense, awkward, pressured, and downright stressful sometimes.

And to tell you the truth … I used to REALLY not have fun on a lot of first dates.

Can you relate to any of this? Have you ever felt like this about first dates?

So what’s going on here?

Well there is something that happens on a large numbers of first dates that really set a first date up for FAILURE (or at least make it as difficult as possible to have a great time)

So now let’s get back to talking about what can really KILL any potential for success on a first date.

What do you usually plan for a first date?

I mean, where do you usually take your dates on a first date?

Hmmm…Let me guess…

Dinner? (and maybe a movie)

Putting aside the issue of this being a total cliché, it’s also about the WORST option you can choosefor a first date.

And here’s why…

Actually, let me ask you a question first. Why on earth would you take someone out for dinner on a first date … unless of course the woman is homeless and she needs a good meal?

To sit across from somebody and watch them chew down food while you tell each other the same stories you’ve told a hundred times is boring!

(It is also a cliché … Well, it is — so I had to say it even though I said I wouldn’t…)

The reason why most of us don’t enjoy dating is because we go out on dinner dates.

Now granted, having dinner with someone is fantastic when you’re with a person whose company you enjoy and with whom you already have some sort of relationship.

There’s one BIG difference though on a first date –

Think about whether this is true or not… (and I’m betting for you, like most of us, it is)

Being forced to sit at a table exchanging resumes with a total stranger is the reason why most of us
don’t like to date, but yet we still conduct dinner dates.

So what are the alternatives to the boring clichéd dinner date?

Now before you get ready for me to bust out a numbered “Top Ten Things To Do Instead Of A Dinner Date” lists, though, it’s NOT …

… because I think we have been ‘top 10 listed’ to death on the Internet.

PLUS…

It’s really time YOU figured out what YOU like to do, and also listened to what the person you’re interested in likes to do, so you can come up with clever dates.

Don’t worry, though, cause I am going to HELP get your thinking started …

… and I am going to give you examples of some of the things I like to do.

By doing that, it will help you so you can make up your own personal list.

***DAVID’S FAVORITE FIRST DATES***

I like to check out new neighborhoods by walking around and checking out the stores. (That’s one of my favorite dates).

I like to do dragio – which is hiking and dragging my lazy dog up the hill. This is a great first date to just talk and enjoy the outdoors.

I enjoy going to art galleries.

I like to walk along the beach.

I enjoy going to fun coffee and tea shops and sampling new teas.

These are some of the things that I enjoy doing. So when I have a first date, I listen to what they like — then what I do is make the date fun.

You do this because, if you think about it, when you do get into a relationship with someone you will not spend every evening exchanging resumes over dinner.

You’re going to be doing things you both enjoy.

By picking something more interesting than dinner for a first date, you are also giving each other fun things to talk about while you’re shopping together…

OR walking on the beach together…

OR going to Target together…

OR doing WHATEVER might be fun for you…

The reason why so many of us don’t like to date is because it is so formal.

Dinner dates are formal and boring. You spend the night evaluating each other, then you come home and you’re evaluating each other some more with your friends.

Activity dates are fun and memory-building.

(And any of you who are familiar with what I teach know how important I believe it is for you to be memorable in life …)

So instead of asking all of you to make a list of 50 great dates, I would like to have you concentrate on thinking of great first date ideas that YOU enjoy…

So now, unless you are dating a homeless woman who really needs to be fed, it’s time to get creative
in your dating!

Imagine that pickup, outer game, is like the leaves of the tree… what people experience on the surface.

It’s extremely helpful for most men to learn the outer game skills (Doing). Sometimes you guys just need something to get started with (”just tell me what to do and I’ll give it a shot”). Sometimes it’s at least a place to start by practicing the traits and appearance of the “alpha male” in hopes of eventually becoming (Being) him. Over time this can help to shift you on an internal level and eventually bring you to a place of mastery. It’s the “fake-it-till-you-make-it” approach, or, as we call it at AMP, the “Top/Down Approach.”

The limitation of this approach goes something like this:

Guy A has a breakthrough with women. Guys B, C, and D enviously study his behaviors in hopes of getting the same results. In a lot of ways this is healthy role modeling, except that, in no time, these guys are just mimicking his external behaviors (the Doing) without exploring what actually shifted in Guy A’s perspectives such that his new actions arose naturally (the Being). It’s like they’re trying to staple the leaves of some other guy’s tree onto their tree…without addressing the roots that gave rise to those leaves in the first place.

I know men who do incredible things with women and don’t have a bunch of funny stories to tell, no magic tricks or nothing. Some of them don’t say a word. There’s no cookie cutter mold for you to fit into to “succeed with women”.

That’s the difference between Top/Down & Bottom/Up (Inner Game) development. In the Bottom/Up approach, which is what AMP focuses on, we shift who we’re Being, and our own unique behaviors (the Doing) arise naturally, as an authentic expression of who we are.

Both can be effective, especially when practiced in tandem.

Lets talk a little bit about body language and how it relates to your attitude and confidence. We all know that people communicate with each other on multiple levels. But did you know that spoken words is just 7% of what we communicate? The majority of communication is done with vocal tones, vocal pitch, movement, body language and gestures. All of these things and more make up our composite body language expressions, such as: Facial expressions, voice intonation, speed of speech , how you walk, the way you carry yourself through the world, having eye contact, how fast you move, and even our breathing.

You may ask why body language is so important. First, because it is how we sub-communicate with others. This sub-communication is even more important that ever before, because society has created a link between our actions and how people feel. For example, when you are in room and you feel really nervous, everyone in the room will pick up that you are nervous by your actions, tonality, and speed of your movements. Such things are very obvious, especially to children who are not preoccupied with speech as much as many adults. You can see when somebody is sad, happy, excited, honest, or angry. Look at somebody who rapidly moves his foot up and down. This guy probably can’t look anybody in the eyes and is sub-communicating that he is insecure. Somebody who is hunched over, with her feet together, is subconsciously trying to not be noticed at all.

We can find wealth of information about other people by their body language. In terms of seduction, we learn to read what females are saying on a deeper level. An outgoing woman will do the exact same to you, she could tell you a zillion things that you are projecting, just by your image. Let me quote my girlfriend here: “I can see if a guy is good in bed, just by the way he walks.” That is so true. They can tell everything about you, just by the way you look. It comes from all those years of experience of guys hitting on them.

If you go out dressed like you do not care about your image at all, you probably don’t care, and women will notice this. On the other hand, if you go out dressed as a socially cool guy, you probably are a pretty damn smooth dude. As for the woman, this process of screening by looks and body language is a self-defense mechanism. She really doesn’t want to hook up with some low self-esteem loser, or some boring guy who doesn’t know how to give her some fun in her life. So they screen you and try to find out as many things about you as possible in a very short period of time.

Imagine, if you are a HOT girl, would you give 30 minutes of your time to each boring geek that hit on you?? No, you would give him 30 seconds and then the “F#*& off” line.

This is because she already knows that he is a boring, lame-ass guy. But what if some super-ultra confident guy, who is well dressed, comes into a room, walks slowly towards a hot girl with a smile on his face, and starts a conversation with a girl? Would she reject him??

Exactly. She would not.

Now let me ask you who the really confident in our society are, the ones with an attitude larger then life. Who are they?? Rockstars, company directors, successful managers, doctors, politicians…. etc.

Take a look at how they walk, how they sit, how they speak, and you’ll notice something really interesting. They are totally calm, like they control TIME. They are not in hurry. The way they move and how they speak completely radiates with super-confidence.

Lets take a look at what the most common mistakes are when somebody tries to pick up a girl:

• Talking too fast (being nervous)
• Talking too much (trying to impress her)
• Not knowing what to say next (not enough practice)
• Drinking (to become comfortable)
• Asking too many questions (you create rapport too soon, but she doesn’t want your rapport unless you have attracted her first)
• Body language wrong (hands connected, feet too close, shoulders down, leaning in)
• Buying her drinks (trying to buy her over, or even worse, trying to get her drunk)
• Not being comfortable talking with strangers (social anxiety)

Does any of this radiate with any confidence??? Hell no!! Take a look and see that every action here projects INSECURITY!!

Ok, let’s correct this poor body language together. Here is list of things that you must FIX…

• Keep your hands out of your pockets.
• Stand with you feet wider apart.
• Never look down when you walk, look above the horizon
• Stand with your chest pushed outwards
• Keep your shoulders relaxed and back
• Walk confidently and slowly with bigger steps
• Take up lots of space, no matter where you are
• Pay attention to how you dress
• Always lean back.
• Touch people when you talk with them (non-sexual), because you must create conversation on all levels, not just verbal. (Later she is going to be used to your touch, and that is perfect for the pre-sex stage!)
• All your body language should be comparable in speed. For instance, moving with confidence is good, but it looks incongruent if you talk fast at the same time.

One more really important thing my friend would tell you, “Pick-Up doesn’t start when you approach her, it starts when you WAKE UP in morning!” and that’s so true!

Let’s move on to the subject of attraction:

In order to attract a woman, you must first understand why and how they think. Why the state of attraction exists, and how it happens.

The easiest way to understand and explain this is through something known as ‘Switches theory’. You know those on/off switches you have in your house for electricity? Now imagine you have 15 of them in one box. That’s an analogy for how our minds work. Women have switches such as “Is he attractive?, is he good at sex?” on or off.

Every girl out there has a different set of switches, because it really depends on their culture, their childhood, their beliefs and their age, plus a few other minor things. However, there are some common switches you must turn ON to all girls out there.

You must be:

• Challenging
• Alpha
• Interesting
• Unpredictable
• Stylish
• Not needy
• A good lover
• Humorous
• Capable of building strong rapport
• Secure
• Trustworthy
• Conversational

Now, those switches can be either ON or OFF. There is no value in-between… for geeks, it’s all off.

What happens when you switch on most of those switches?? Wow… she starts to be interested in you… actually… she starts to show IOIs (indication of interest). This reaction is totally normal. When she meets a guy who is funny, good looking, interesting, romantic, and not needy, she becomes interested in getting to know him better (read: sleeping with him).

Switching on these switches is what demonstrates personality to a woman. You can tell stories where you were romantic. You can hook her with interesting snippets of your life and make her ask you questions where you get to reveal your romantic side. It doesn’t matter, as long as the you flip the romantic switch to the ON position. Every story or routine you have in your arsenal is saying something to her (flipping switches.) When designing routines and stories, you need to first take a look at what you want to convey to her.

The easiest way to switch on lot of switches is through good body language, behavior, and a sense of style.

Lets take a look at me for example. If you’ve never seen the way I look, take a look at my webpage photo here…

Okay, let’s analyze this together… what do you think about this guy just from this photo? Here is what others have said:

• He has a lot of confidence
• He looks like some badboy or a really adventurous guy
• Good looking (average)
• He is drinking expensive cocktails, so he probably has some money…
• Sex must be amazing with him
• He is alpha, he doesn’t worry what others think
• He doesn’t look like some predictable guy…
• Not so needy

Ok, guys, you get my point… I switched On like 10 switches just by the way I look and behave. There are also switches I haven’t flipped yet:

I don’t have trust, rapport, I am not romantic, interesting… and that’s it fellas!!!!

That means 5 stories for 5 more switches. That’s like 5 X 5 minutes = 25 minutes to get a girl.

Of course you can convey all those things through conversation, and that’s fine. But it will take 10X longer! This is the way it works for me, and I am happy.